1 In 5 Men Do THIS To Avoid Sex With Their Partners

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The idea that men would be doing something to AVOID sex seems absolutely crazy to me. Yet, here we are, and it’s happening in 1 out of every 5 relationships.

As a woman, I feel that I am the queen of avoiding sex, and I know that I’m not the only one out there who has faked a tummy ache, pre-menstrual cramps or have lied about the last time they showered.

So, is there a legitimate reason why men turn down sex and what they do to avoid having it? According to a new study, they are watching more porn.

It turns out that 1 in 5 men are avoiding intimacy with X-rated films, and those who regularly watch porn end up being less interested in real sex with their partners. And just like anything that you do regularly, these porn-watching men are building up a sex tolerance, leaving them less likely to enjoy the act with their partner.

A clinical psychologist specializing in sexual problems, Dr. David Ley, said, "Men use masturbation to compensate for lack of sexual satisfaction in relationships. As this sexual behavior is often accompanied by viewing pornography, it can be easily misunderstood," he told The Sun.

A study of 335 men in Los Angeles, California found that 22 percent of men preferred to look at porn than having sex with their partner. And 28 percent of these men said that they turned to masturbation over actual intercourse with their partner.

The men who said that they preferred masturbation were more likely to have difficulty getting and maintaining an erection. Also, the men who preferred porn and masturbation over intimacy with their partner were significantly less happier in their relationships. The men who reported feeling unsatisfied with their sex life were more likely to suffer from erectile dysfunction.

Sexual psychologist, Dr. Nicole Prause, says that erectile dysfunction is usually what leads to porn use, not the opposite way around.

"This supports exactly my concern, that men are not preferring sex films, per se, they are more likely avoiding their partner through masturbation, and they happen to watch sex films while they masturbate," she said.

She strongly disagreed with recently published research from San Diego’s Naval Medical Center. This research said that there was a strong association between lack of sexual desire and erectile dysfunction, and watching porn regularly.

Researchers are saying that too much porn is increasing sexual tolerance, causing issues in a regular sex life. However, Dr. Prause argued that this study didn’t ask men enough about masturbation.

"This is known as a third variable problem," she said. "The authors seem to be trying purposefully to blame sex films for erectile difficulties."

So, if you want an answer to why men turn down sex and notice that your guy doesn’t seem too into having it these days, it may be time for a talk. He might be watching way too much porn OR you guys need to start switching it up in the bedroom.