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Exactly why he disappeared on you, according to astrology.
By Emily Ratay — Written on Apr 23, 2020
I think we can all agree that being ghosted by someone you really like is one of the worst feelings in the world. I mean, you think everything is going great until suddenly you can’t get in contact with the guy anymore, as if he’s completely disappeared off the face of the earth.
"Where did he go?! you ask you friends. "Why did he ghost me?"
Ghosting is such an especially maddening experience because you have no real way of knowing why the person who ghosted you did it. But fortunately, as is the case with many such confusing issues, astrology can help.
You may not be able to learn why this particular guy ghosted you for sure, but men born under each of the zodiac signs are more likely to have done so for certain reasons than for others.
If you’re unclear about what ghosting means, it’s when someone you've been seeing disappears from your life, completely and suddenly. It's a shady, passive aggressive way of breaking up with someone without ever really breaking up with them.
Like a ghost, you don’t see them, you don’t hear from them, and you can’t get in contact with them (oh, and often with the added benefit of being blocking by them on social media).
Ghosting is pretty much like telling someone, “You know, I tried to make this work, it’s clearly not working for me even if it is for you, and it’s easier for me to just leave you on read for the rest of your life than it would be for me to have to deal with the guilt of breaking up with you.”
In other words, ghosting is kind of a jerk move.
Look, I’m not saying I haven’t ghosted people in the past, and I’ll probably ghost someone in the future, but I still realize that it’s not the best way to end a relationship.
That said, not everyone can take a hint even when you try to let them know things aren't working. Have you ever been interested in someone, but when you start getting to know them, they end up being so annoying and overbearing you can't stand itI And no matter how many times you try telling them you’re not interested, they just won't give up? Yeah, that’s when a lot of people just give up and go ghost.
But dealing with someone who can’t take a hint isn’t the only reason some zodiac signs have for ghosting people. Some sun signs ghost people out of necessity, like when they need to get rid of someone who won’t leave them alone, while others ghost people often because they like keeping things casual. Once you start catching feeling for them, they're gone.
Long story short, there are a million and one reasons any particular guy may have for ghosting you.
If you’re still questioning why he ghosted you when you thought things were starting to go pretty well, astrology can help you answer some of those lingering questions.
Was it because of you? Is that just the kind of person he is? Letting his zodiac sign speak for him might be a good idea, especially if you're pretty sure he'll never really give you a solid answer himself.
Here’s why he ghosted you just when you thought things were going well, based on the zodiac signs' most common reasons for ghosting someone.
Aries (March 21 - April 19)
Aries is not the kind of man to sit around and wait until you get your act together. If he is in a relationship, he's in it 100 percent. He doesn't want to beat around the bush when it comes to his feelings for you. And if you don't have the same enthusiasm for your relationship, he's outtie.
If Aries ghosts you, it's because he's not getting what he wants out of the relationship. He tried, but at the end of the day, it's not happening.
He's very particular in what he's looking for, but he also lets his curiosity get the better of him. If you're not giving him what he wants, he'll find it elsewhere (or already has).
Taurus (April 20 - May 20)
Taurus has a good idea of what he wants in his relationships — and those things are set in stone. So, even if you come to him with hesitation or compromises, there's a good chance he won't want to listen to you. Taurus likes what he likes, and will always be the one trying to make the rules.
If Taurus ghosts you, it's because he's acting moody and stubborn. He doesn't like to compromise on anything, but he would much rather give you the silent treatment than try to work things out.
If all of a sudden you don't hear from him, it's because he's decided that you're too hard to control, and he'd rather not try.
Gemini (May 21 - June 20)
Gemini is all about the chase; he loves the chase. If he could be any animal, it would be whichever one enjoys teasing and chasing its prey the most. Of course, after he catches you, it's a mystery to everyone what he's actually going to do next.
For him, the catch can be underwhelming. He's all about excitement and thrill, but if the relationship is starting to feel stagnant, he's not going to want to stick around.
He doesn't want to stay in a relationship that feels safe or boring to him. So, if he ghosts you, it's because it's starting to feel like a serious relationship and not a fling anymore.
Cancer (June 21 - July 22)
Cancer lets his moods rule his relationships, whether he does this intentionally or not. He loves with his whole heart and almost no part of his brain, so it's easy for him to make rash and often bad decisions in the name of love (or lack of love).
Cancer is one of those zodiac signs that never communicates. And unfortunately for the ghosted, he isn't going to start now.
If he has disappeared, it's probably because you did something to make him all moody and mad. There's a good chance it wasn't even really your fault, but he chose to break it off without thinking about it first anyway.
Leo (July 23 - August 22)
Leo doesn't think much about ghosting. He knows in his heart of hearts that if a relationship is meant to be that there won't be any reason for him to consider ending it. So, if he does decide to ghost you, he believes there's a purpose for it ... okay, sure, Leo.
If Leo ghosts you, it's because he needs more affection and attention than you can give him.
He should also know that you need attention too, but he can get very greedy and allow his needs to overshadow yours. If he suddenly disappears, it might not be all that bad because he clearly was too selfish to realize that you were part of the relationship, too.
Virgo (August 23 - September 22)
Virgo has a lot of rules conditions that he has to follow before he can be in a serious relationship. These conditions can range from needing a stable job and a rich social life to having a perfect idea of what he wants out of a relationship, but either way, Virgo plats by the rules.
If Virgo ghosts you, it could be because you were getting n the way of his rules and conditions.
Virgo is not the kind of man to ever choose someone over his responsibilities. He needs a lot of attention, yes, but he also will never act needy or clingy for it. You either mesh perfectly in his life or you don't — there's no in between.
Libra (September 23 - October 22)
Libra absolutely hates ghosting people, but he hates confrontation even more. To avoid any kind of trouble — and to avoid telling you the honest truth — Libra will just up and disappear on you. In fact, the only way you'll know he's even alive is if you happen to run into him two years later.
Libra has a hard time committing to something serious if he's second-guessing himself. He wants relationships to be nothing but love and romance, but when he realizes that there's actual work involved, he doesn't want to be a part of it.
Once the honeymoon phase is over, Libra will ghost you so that he can find someone else to temporarily fall in love with.
Scorpio (October 23 - November 21)
Scorpio is a master ghoster. He likes exploring all of his options, so it shouldn't come as any surprise that ghosting is just a part of his process. Sure, it's a shallow move, but he also doesn't really care.
Chances are he'll break up with you anyway if you're not perfect. Ugh, I know, right? But what's worse than Scorpio's ghosting is that he may actually come back to you if nothing better comes along. Nothing like being someone's fifth choice, am I right?
But even if he does come back, and even if it does work out between you two, he will never give you the real reason he ghosted you in the first place.
Sagittarius (November 22 - December 21)
Sagittarius always preaches free love and keeping things casual, but for someone who tries not to care too much about relationships, he sure has a lot of rules and preferences.
If Sagittarius ghosts you, it could be because he felt like you were too clingy or not interesting enough.
Sagittarius needs to be with someone he can learn from. If it feels like you're vibing on two different wavelengths, he's not going to waste his time. What can he learn from you, anyway? Harsh, I know, but that's just how he is. Sagittarius needs to be free in love, and h unfortunately for his future partners, he almost always ghosts when things get boring.
Capricorn (December 22 - January 19)
Capricorn would much rather just be upfront with you and tell you exactly why he's breaking up with you, but it can't always be the way you want, right? If Capricorn ghosts you, it's because he doesn't feel like a real breakup would make things any easier on both of you.
Capricorn will ghost anyone who is at a different phase than he is in life. He is very particular about who he wants, and if you can't agree with his plans for the future, then you're probably not meant to be.
Capricorn will never stick around if the relationship doesn't fit his agenda. If you're not an investment to him, then say goodbye for good ... that is, if he hasn't already ghosted you.
Aquarius (January 20 - February 18)
Aquarius gets bored and claustrophobic way too easily in a relationship. He has to move at his own pace or he'll break it off with the excuse that you're trying to force him into something he's not comfortable with.
Aquarius ghosts because he feels like it's the easier way to break up with someone.
He would rather just go his own way without making a fuss or pretending like he cares more than he does. He also doesn't believe in spending time with people who aren't going to enhance his life at all, so ghosting is his way of letting you down easy.
Pisces (February 19 - March 20)
Pisces is one of those frustrating people who just assume that everything is going downhill instead of actually asking you if you still have feelings for him. You could be having a crazy busy work week, but if he doesn't get at least one text with an emoji in it, he'll be heartbroken.
Pisces tends to overthink things and jump to conclusions without getting all of the facts first. If Pisces ghosts you, it's probably because he thought you weren't interested in him anymore (see: too busy at work to text) and dipped to save himself the embarrassment of having to wait for you to do your breakup spiel.
It sounds unbelievable, but this has happened to him more than once.
Emily Ratay is a full-time writer living in Pittsburgh. She's passionate about the environment and feminism, and knows that anything is possible in the right pair of shoes.