You're Not His, You Belong To NO ONE — And That's Why He Loves You

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Guys love indepedent girls

Here's the things about humans: we don't do well under pressure — especially romantic pressure. 

It's much easier for us to be there for someone if they're not constantly expecting us to be there. We're more willing to do something sweet and thoughtful if the person we're with isn't jumping down our throats for not being more sweet and thoughtful. 

Putting pressure and having big expectations for our significant others does nothing but drive them away.

We get so focused on the other person that we forget to focusing on ourselves.

Which, by the way, is the best method for having the kind of relationship you want. 


When you put yourself on a pedestal rather than your man, it frees him up to be his own person and love you in the way he knows how. When you respect yourself and make time for the things you love to do, it makes him respect you as a person. When you love yourself, he loves you more. 

Now, it's not that guys love independent girls because they don't feel any pressure and therefore don't make any effort in the relationship. That couldn't be farther from the truth. 

Guys love independent girls because they challenge them to be better.

They know that the moment they start mistreating her, she'll have no problem leaving. Her life is great with or without him, which makes him want to be a part of it. 

It's true, some guys are intimidated by confident girls who have their shit together, but those aren't the kind of guys you want to date anyway. You want a man who appreciates a woman who can take care of herself, and in turn wants to help take care of her too. 


So don't let your independence slide when you get into a relationship. Don't fall into the routine of having him do everything and putting everything on hold for him.

Keep yourself a priority, and your relationship will be stronger because of it.