The Inner Turmoil Of Loving Someone With Depression

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It's incredibly difficult to watch the person you love suffer.

One of the toughest things in life is watching a loved one suffer through something you can't even begin to comprehend. Depression is a great example.

Those who are in a relationship with someone who is coping with depression often find themselves in a hard position. They love their significant other, but it can be hard to deal when you can't help them through their issues.

The sad truth is that it can be very difficult for someone who doesn't have depression to be in a relationship with someone who is affected by this condition. Here are some very real confessions of the inner struggles of what it's like loving someone with depression.

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1. You secretly feel that your significant other sometimes takes you down with them.

"I know it's selfish but my girlfriend's depression is hard on me. It affects my mood a lot and takes a lot of energy to stay cheery for her, especially when she's down because I can't be with her."

2. It can be heartbreaking when depression gets in the way of your love.

"I love my girlfriend so much that it kills me to watch her depression tear us apart."

3. You sometimes wonder if you can handle a relationship like this.

"My boyfriend has clinical depression and when he's sad, so am I. I don't think I'm strong enough to date him."

4. Your significant other can make you feel unimportant.

"My girlfriend has depression. I'm trying to be supportive but it hurts so much to just not matter to her some days. I miss the old her."

5. It can feel like they're dragging you down.

"My boyfriend is depressed and I think it's making me depressed also."

6. It can get very frustrating and confusing.

"Even though my girlfriend has depression and she sometimes can't help it I always blame myself when she gets upset and I don't know why."

7. And sometimes even terrifying.

"I am completely in love with my boyfriend but I get scared I'll lose him to his depression sometimes."

8. The relationship can make you feel exhausted.

"My boyfriend has depression. I love him, but it's hard to be with someone who struggles with a mental illness everyday."

9. It's a hard battle — and you know that your significant other isn't winning.

"My boyfriend has depression. He's so insecure and lashes out at any and everything. His anger is becoming unbearable. Worst part is he doesn't see it taking over his life and isn't going to get help."

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10. You're at the end of your rope.

"My boyfriend's depression terrifies me. It's also slowly wearing me down."

11. You feel that they're a shadow of their former selves.

"My boyfriend is depressed and I don't know how to help him. It's killing me because the strong, confident man I met has disappeared."

12. You feel conflicted about suggesting they get treatment.

"My girlfriend has depression. Is it wrong to push her to get help? She's just so different and it hurts me to see her hurting."

13. Your sexual relationship leaves you feeling unsatisfied.

"My boyfriend has depression and doesn't want sex sometimes. Especially when he's down, I fantasize about cheating."

14. You feel like it's your fault.

"I think I make my boyfriends depression worse. I try so hard to make him happy and I just always mess it up."

15. You put their needs above your own, even though you're both going through the same thing.

"I push my depression to the side because I feel like my boyfriend's depression is more important than mine."

16. Your significant other doesn't make you feel secure about your relationship.

"My boyfriend suffers from depression. He keeps going back and forth about being together. I don't know how long I can keep it up."

17. It hurts both of you when your significant other declines to get help.

"My girlfriend is depressed and is refusing to do anything about it. I'm trying to help her, but she's making me miserable with her temper and gloominess."

18. It takes a toll on your own health.

"I feel like a horrible person for saying this, but constantly trying to help my boyfriend out of his depression really stresses me out."

19. You want to always be there for them, but it can be a struggle to deal with sometimes.

"My boyfriend's depression is too much to handle sometimes. I wish I could always stay positive for him and not get frustrated."

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Sloane Solomon is a YourTango editor and writer who covers pop culture, lifestyle topics, and love and relationships.