Despite Popular Belief, Monogamy DOES Work


With the hookup culture on the rise, being in a faithful and monogamous relationship doesn't seem to be the norm these days. Instead, a lot of people compare the idea of a committed relationship to being trapped because you can't go out and "explore". In fact, many have this notion that monogamy is pretty much the end of your sex life—and that's just not true!

When YourTango Experts Senior VP Melanie Gorman talks to EFT trainers Elana Katz, Zoya Simakhodskaya, and George Faller as well as author Dr. Sue Johnson talk about the fact that monogamy shouldn't be treated as if it's a deprivation or delusion, we couldn't agree more. The idea that being in a committed relationship means that you are going to have a lackluster sex life is beyond ridiculous. What people have to realize that sex isn't just about the physical; there's an emotional connection involved too. Being committed shouldn't make you feel like you are missing out on something. Having one night stands without worrying about getting attached may seem fun at first, but you'll eventually come to realize that sex just isn't the same without that strong bond. Also, even though having an open relationship would mean that you would get to go out and do your thing without having to worry about keeping it a secret, it would only end up increasing the distance between you and your partner.