Smoking and Relationships


Smoking is a popular pastime, but for many people it is a deal breaker when it comes to choosing a partner. Some people actively seek a partner who smokes, while others are completely put off by smoking.

If you are a non-smoker, having a partner who smokes may not be an option, while those who smoke may prefer to have a partner who smokes. For people who don’t smoke, smoking is generally considered to be an unhealthy habit, which contributes to serious health problems as well as leaving a lingering smell on clothes, furnishings and breath. 

For some people who feel particularly strong about smoking, the mere sight of a person smoking is enough to put them off and they will not even consider approaching them.

Physiological effects of smoking

We live in a health conscious society and many people take great care to keep themselves fit and health. Most people are aware of the potential dangers associated with smoking and it can be a huge turn-off if somebody is willing to endanger their health. Possible consequences of smoking include increased risk of cancer, heart disease, respiratory problems and high blood pressure, and there are also cosmetic problems that can arise.

Smoking also has unpleasant effects on the appearance of an individual. People who smoke are more likely to have yellow, stained teeth and dirty nails and smoking also increases the rate at which the skin ages, meaning people look much older than they actually are. 

Social consequences

For smokers, smoking is often a social habit and now that there is a smoking ban in public places in many countries across the world, there is a more obvious divide between smokers and non-smokers. If you don’t smoke, it will probably be annoying for you to date somebody who smokes because they will regularly disappear in the middle of dinner or drinks to go outside and have a cigarette. For people who don’t smoke it is unpleasant to be around people who smoke; smoke has a strong odour and can cause people to cough and suffer from itchy, irritable eyes. 


Smoking can cause problems when it comes to intimacy, especially if one person in the relationship smokes and the other doesn’t. If you don’t smoke and your partner does, the chances are that you won’t be overly keen on kissing them when they’ve just had a cigarette.

If you are living together, smoking may cause problems because the smoker may want to smoke in the house. Smoking inside will create unpleasant smells, stain the walls and increase the amount of dust in the home. The smell of smoke is also very hard to get rid of and you will find that you can smell smoke on your clothes and even in your hair if you have been around people that smoke. 

Family life

Smoking is potentially very dangerous, especially for unborn babies and young children. Children that grow up in a household where someone smokes are more likely to develop respiratory problems, such as asthma. Smoking during pregnancy can also cause low birth weight and premature birth. If you have children, smoking will set a bad example, as well as having potentially damaging effects on their health. 


Smoking is not a cheap hobby, especially if you are a regular smoker and this may cause arguments between partners. If you smoke but claim that you don’t have enough money to go out, pay for dinner or buy birthday or Christmas presents, for example, yet you can still afford to smoke your partner may start to question your priorities and this could contribute to tension and difficulties in the relationship.