Women Typically Find Men With These 11 Personality Traits The Most Attractive
Women are interested in more than just physical appearance.
Prostock-studio | Shutterstock Men are always wondering why women don't just come out and reveal what they want in a partner. They want to feel as though the woman respects, honors and desires them. But it's about more than physical attributes; in fact, it has more to do with who a guy is on the inside — women typically find men with these personality traits the most attractive.
Attraction starts to manifest within a man when he shows up for his life's purpose and is authentic. That change happens with the inner self in terms of how he feels, and this has a direct correlation with a man's behavior and motivation in his daily life. And, in turn, this creates a significant shift in his presence, where women are captivated by a man that knows his worth and carries it with respect and integrity.
Women typically find men with these 11 personality traits the most attractive
1. Purposefulness
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Most relationship and dating advice will tell people that confidence is an irresistible trait. But it's hard to have confidence when you aren't aligned with your purpose. Having a purpose means having your eye on something that fulfills you and not letting anyone stand in the way of that.
While it doesn't mean a guy needs to quit his 9-to-5 job and start something that fulfills him, he should plan and invest time in what fulfills him. It's not only incredibly attractive to women, but it requires full transparency with himself.
As licensed therapist Susan Saint-Welch explained, "Feeling good about yourself is different than just being happy. It means you recognize something you do well or a quality that makes you feel like a good person. It is a sense of feeling worthy, that you matter and can make a difference in this world."
2. Honesty
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Women typically find men who are honest to be attractive. It's because being unapologetically honest shows confidence and also shows a woman that he has a lot of dignity. He has his own opinion, which means he isn't just trying to impress and please her.
In fact, research published in Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin found a link between honesty and attractiveness. Researchers determined this was because of perceived warmth and openness associated with truth-telling.
3. Courtesy
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It's very attractive when a man has a sense of pride in the way he treats others. Whether it's a stranger on the street, a waiter at a restaurant, or a next door neighbor, in a woman's mind, this is a direct reflection of her own character and future respect for her.
For a woman, the first sign of a rude man is a giant red flag. If he's rude to wait staff in public, what will he be like behind closed doors? She won't want to stick around to find out.
4. Intelligence
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A woman wants to be able to have conversations with a man that she can exchange with and learn from. She wants a man that will be able to share advice, but also some personal things that he has been taught.
A man with intelligence means she can build a connection on a deeper level, instead of just something surface-level. It shows a sense of strength and stability in a man as well.
5. Spontaneity
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A man that can keep a woman on her toes is very exciting and incredibly attractive. It keeps the endorphin levels up and makes a woman excited about what's to come. Men shouldn't be afraid to plan something that can get the adrenaline rushing.
According to research published in the Journal of Humanistic Psychology, spontaneous experiences and gestures bring people, particularly couples, closer together. And this, in turn, can strengthen bonds, add some adventure to the connection, and deepen the connection.
6. Humor
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Women typically find men with a good sense of humor to be the most attractive. Because when a man can make a woman laugh, they start to share a special bond with him, and women want to be around someone who brings happiness to the table.
Research from Evolutionary Psychology found that men who make women laugh are more likely to score a date with her. As lead researcher Jeffrey Hall explained, "The idea that humor is a signal of intelligence doesn't give humor its due credit. If you meet someone who you can laugh with, it might mean your future relationship is going to be fun and filled with good cheer."
7. Charisma
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There's something so incredibly attractive about a man who has positive energy and makes a woman feel happy and optimistic. It kind of makes a woman think, "I want what he has," or, "I feel so good around him."
Charisma is a personality trait that's not only attractive to women, but everyone else around that person. For a charismatic man, he has the ability to draw others to him, and makes him stand out among the rest.
8. Ambition
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This is a huge personality trait that women find the most attractive in a man. This is because a man without goals has no direction, and a man without values has no self-discipline.
Women lose attraction when they have to carry the weight of finding out who a guy is. As licensed professional counselor Caralee Crary explained, "Ambition is attractive for a number of reasons. If the idea of potential in a person's ability is examined, that potential will translate to achievements if ambition is present. For example, a person who might spend their life sitting on the couch... isn't necessarily seen as ambitious... They may not be viewed as someone who can be a good partner."
9. Intentionality
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Women typically find men with intentionality as a personality trait the most attractive. Why? Because when a woman feels like a man is not desperate to rush things so they can be together, she will honor and respect this and be even more attracted to him.
It's not to say a man is going to come in with this "player" mentality and say, "I don't need you; I don't want you; I'm so cool." No, it's about his willingness to take the time to cultivate something good for both of them. By doing this, he becomes a leader, and women are attracted to a man that can lead.
10. Respect
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Not only is respect in a relationship necessary for a long-term bond, it's also something women look for when getting to know a man. A respectful man doesn't just take things slow and admire her boundaries, he doesn't try to fix her or judge her.
According to research from Evolutionary Psychology, women prefer men who are generous, which ties back into his level of respect for her, himself, and the people around him.
11. Stylishness
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While many women are known to be fashionistas, men should craft their own personal style, as women are attracted to stylish men. Not everyone is going to want to wear trendy clothes, but being a stylish person means smelling good, feeling good, and presenting themselves to make an outstanding impression.
Apollonia Ponti is a certified coach, speaker, and dating and relationship coach for men. She teaches men how to be successful in all aspects of life including love, dating, self-confidence, personal development, family, and spirituality.
