Pro-Life? How About Pro-Dad?

Love, Family

The lack of respect for sex as sacred act and parenting as a privilege.

First, this is a rant, not a blog. I hope you will indulge me anyway. There are few things I feel more passionate about, and I know I am not alone. Having been a single mom for over ten years, I know so many of you can, do and will relate. And I must warn you, it's rated R, so I apologize in advance for any offense that may occur. Here we go......

According to Maria Fisher, with the Associated Press, Scott Roeder confessed publicly before the trial and admitted again on the witness stand. He shot Dr. George Tiller in the head in the foyer of a Wichita church. He testified, he felt the lives of unborn children were in "immediate danger" because of Tiller. He was convicted of murder. No words can suffice for the tragic loss to the Tiller family. I can barely imagine how difficult and painful it must be to lose someone in this way.

And as I sit and contemplate, I notice my own prejudice arise. Curious in the midst of this horror, I wonder why we curse the symptom and not the problem, or at least the propaganda. Instead of spending our hard-earned money to fight what has now become a political issue rather than a moral one. Why don't we suck it up and deal with the real issues? One of which is staring us all in the face.

Instead of killing the messenger, let's look at the truth. We scream "Pro Life" instead of "Pro Dad." Maybe women would stop getting so many abortions if certain men (millions and millions of them) stepped up to the plate. They could actually take responsibility for dipping their wicks every time the urge came along. Women should stop using their bodies to lure men into relationships because of their own insecurity and low self-esteem.

Perhaps that would be a start. Then, as a culture, we would all be able to see the catastrophic effect our ignorance and/or narcissism is causing us all. Perhaps then we would recalibrate with our inner wisdom, which clearly points towards sex as a sacred act and parenting as a privilege. One which lasts, for both parents, up to eighteen years. Translated: you play, you stay and you pay.

Perhaps, if we were all more honest, we would stop using abortion as birth control and address the underlying issues that motivate us to use sex as a means to an end. The primary reason we have the urge to merge is to procreate. But the absent-father syndrome in this country tells me this is not common knowledge. Perhaps some of the very men themselves, I suspect, propagate Pro-Life when they really don't care.

So I say, unless you have yanked your uterus or tied up your boys, live in alignment with the universal truth. We are each responsible for everything in our own reality, including how children are raised and who they become as a result of our choices. I say, let's start a real campaign:

NEWS FLASH — "America goes Pro-DAD."

"Men throughout the United States are suddenly becoming awake and aware of the awesome responsibility it take to have sex. They are coming in droves to realize what a father's role means. They must personally escort their children into the world, into relationships and into survival, A mother teaches the children how to love themselves. The single mother can be deficient in her ability to emotionally and physically accommodate the child's most basic human needs. They are seeing that, together, parents create an environment where the child is respected, safe and witnessed for their unique magnificence.

Not every sex act needs to result in a child. Both men and women are realizing it is everybody's responsibility to be clear on why they are doing what they most assuredly are doing. Abortion rates have dropped to an historic low." 

Wouldn't you be proud and happy to live in such a country? 

In a related story, President Obama hosted the White House Summit on Working Families recently. Michelle Obama is quoted as saying, "If employers thought to themselves, 'How do I make life easier for my employees? How do I cherish them as parents?' a lot of change could happen."

How can you be part of the change?