The 5 Most Common Thoughts About Happiness — That Get In Your Way Of Actually Finding It

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Don't let these false beliefs stop you from being happy.

Many people have happy lives — and for a variety of reasons, too.

Being happy and at peace is what most people dream of. However, there are certain myths about happiness that somehow affect the level of happiness that individuals feel. When we think about happiness in the wrong way, we can fall into happiness traps that actually keep us from being happy.

Learning how to be happy usually involves a positive attitude and having courage to face any challenges that life may bring.


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To live a happier life, avoid falling into these happiness traps and negative ways of thinking. They only hinder you from enjoying what life has to offer:

1. Happiness is based on time.

There is no specific time when you can feel happy. Actually, you can be happy when you are with your friends, family and other people who usually make you happy. You can also feel happiness anytime and anywhere.

Choosing to be happy can make you feel better, even more beautiful, and eliminate stress that was caused by work or circumstances at any given moment.

2. Happiness is event-based.

This means that you can feel happiness in several events such as marriage, vacations, jobs, and a lot more. It is true that events can give a high level of happiness to a lot of people, but you can also feel happy for no apparent reason.  

Just choose to BE happy! You do not need to wait for an event to be happy.

3. Happiness is usually associated with things.

There are a lot of people who believe to feel happy they need something. It can be food, alcohol, spending, and relationships or sometimes may be something that you have sentimental value or good memories with that gives you a feeling of happiness.

We may participate in an act of doing, going or listening to something because you associate happiness with that thing, place or person. Learning to BE happy with yourself and love yourself for who you are is already enough and makes all the other things that much better.


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4. You'll be happy once you like yourself more.

Happiness is an inside job. It is not about how you look but how you feel about yourself. This affects what you do on a daily basis to take care of yourself. You will not make good decisions or treat yourself well if you don’t like you.

You have to learn how to love yourself where you are right now and not wait to look better to feel better. When you change your identity from "I’m not enough" to "I’m fabulous", you will make better choices and feel better about yourself. It’s an inside job.

5. Thinking happiness is not possible because of bad things that happened.

It is natural to encounter bad thing in our lives. Bad things do happen to good people but as psychotherapist Virginia Satir says, "The event is never that which determines your fate, it is the coping of the event." 

You get to decide if you want to repeat bad events or you want to create new more fulfilling ones. The best thing that you can do move forward and find something good out of it. I love asking myself the question, "What’s good about this?" 

I always find the silver lining. Today, many of my bad experiences have led me here to help so many others find their true happiness and move on to live an authentic life that is happy, healthy, and free!​


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Lisa Lieberman-Wang is a relationship expert and creator of the neuroscience Neuro Associative Programming (NAP). If you need help finding your truth and living an authentic life, reach out to her or e-mail her at Lisa@finetofab.com.

This article was originally published at FinetoFab. Reprinted with permission from the author.