4 Tips For Making Sure The Company You're Buying A Sex Toy From Is 100% LEGIT

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These days, consumers often enjoy the convenience of one-stop shopping on massive online shopping sites like Amazon, eBay, Wal-mart, etc. where consumers can even buy things to spice up their sex lives.

However, have you noticed that the sex toys for sale on large mainstream retailers are not actually sold by those companies, but are being sold by third-party sellers? Do you know how to avoid sex toy scams?

So who are these third-party sellers sending out your sex toys, and how do you know you can trust them to send a sex toy that is not a knock-off or filled with toxins?

In the early days of these programs, most resellers on these sites were small businesses in the USA that were expanding their sales through large manufacturer sites to get more visibility and increase revenues. Things got competitive quickly where the game of how low can you go with regard to pricing was something that often got consumers seemingly great deals on products.

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However, in doing so, many of these retailers were banned by the sex toy manufacturers for violating their MAP (Minimum Advertised Price) legal agreements. Once caught, these sellers were not even allowed to sell their sex toys from their main websites, let alone through sites like Amazon.

Sex toy manufacturers have had such a hard time keeping up with the legal violations that most have banned retailers from selling their products through such sites.

So, who is selling you the sex toys through these sites if many legitimate retailers are not allowed?

What may surprise you is that in a growing number of cases, it's shady manufacturers in China, Taiwan, India, and other foreign countries that are knocking off sex toy designs and selling them at very low prices. This is not to say that all sellers on these sites are bad, but you should be made aware that in some cases, they are violating patents and manufacturing products that contain toxins and cheap components that will not last.

In some cases, they ship them from their countries or have them bulk shipped to warehouses like Amazon to distribute them. While in other arrangements, they have contacts in the USA who ship them independently.

What is more disturbing is that many of these third-party sellers are fly-by-night, and once they sell out of a product or get enough bad reviews, they close their seller account through the big online retailer they're using, open a new one, and start over again.

Consumers may be shocked when they go back to their order history when they have problems with their sex toy and cannot find the seller because their listing was removed.

Even more confusing is when a knock-off company deceives consumers by listing their company name as some version of the legitimate sex toy manufacturer so consumers think they are buying the brand-name product from the actual manufacturer when in reality, they are not.

The positive reviews on some of these sellers may also be false. There are a variety of ways to scam the reviews sections with fake reviews along with incentivizing people to give good reviews or take off any negative reviews by giving them free products, financial incentives, and even having internal employees writing them.

Even more disturbing are those resellers who take returns and the resell them sending out products that may not just have harmful bacteria, but possibly STDs (sexually transmitted diseases).

With all these things to consider it may seem a little scary to buy a sex toy.

However, rest assured there are many great, reputable sex toy retailers that not only sell authentic, quality sex toys but who care about their customers and take good care of them by keeping their order details private and shipping products that consumers love and that are safe to use.

Here are 4 ways to protect yourself and make sure you're buying from safe sources:

1. Make sure they are a trusted site or seller.

Look to buy from retailers who are well-established, have very detailed information about their policies, and allow you to communicate with them.

You should be able to call the company and ask questions about products and receive detailed answers about product functioning, materials, warranties, and even their company history. Companies that just have a P.O. box or email as the only way to reach them may be some that you want to evaluate further.

Authorized sex toy retailers abide by manufacturer legal agreements, so if you see prices that are too good to be true, they are. There is also most likely a catch whether it's a cheaply-made knock-off, toxins, or even a previously sold sex toy. Remember, a good business needs to be accountable to legal agreements with their manufacturers and they cannot be the party to shady scams or they will be cut off so too low a price is actually a good way to know if they an authorized dealer.

2. Don't purchase from anyone that doesn't guarantee to keep your information private.

Good sex toy retailers will not sell your information and will send your sex toys in a discreet manner. A very good sex toy retailer will tell you how they ensure this and put this in writing for you so they are accountable for these policies.

3. Don't buy anything if it seems ... off.

Avoid resellers that make unrealistic guarantees. Sex toys are a very personal thing. Just like not everyone is going to love a certain type of food, not everyone is going to love a certain type of sex toy.

That is why making a guarantee that a sex toy will rock your world or other marketing hype is coming from a strategy of trying to sell you the product rather than find you a product that will realistically work for you and/or your partner’s needs.

Look for retailers that spend more time telling you realistic and accurate details about a sex toy rather than trying to convince you that it will fulfill every fantasy you could ever have. Just like eating a good meal can be amazing, so can using sex toys but rest assured it is not going to be for everyone.

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4. If they're not willing to teach you about it, they're no good.

Avoid sex toy retailers that do not educate consumers. Part of being good at selling sex toys is helping and empowering consumers by educating them about things like what types of lubricants can be used with certain sex toy materials to avoid chemical interactions, or how to properly clean or store your toy.

There should also be basic safety guidelines such as not using a dildo without a flared base for anal sex to avoid any problems with retrieval.

Any sex toy manufacturer that cannot provide consumers with basic sexual health information should not be selling such products. There are safety and health issues that are serious and an ethical company understands this and will ensure that they deliver educational resources to their consumers.

Be an empowered consumer, get educated and know who you are dealing with when buying something for your sexual health and pleasure.

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Lisa S. Lawless, Ph.D. is the founder and C.E.O. of Holistic Wisdom, Inc. which provides sexual health and wellness education, resources and products. To learn more about what the latest developments in nontoxic sex toys and sexual health are, visit HolisticWisdom.com for consumers and the National Association for the Advancement of Science & Art in Sexuality for professionals.