11 Career Skills That Can Help You Score A Date

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Say what you will about work, but it can prepare you for a happy love life.

Before I start this article, let’s talk about some of the things we heard growing up, especially about dating. We were all told that there was someone for everyone (there’s not), and that dating isn’t complicated. A common “lesson” we hear when we’re growing up is that getting a great job will make you super-attractive to the opposite sex, and that it’ll get us all the dates we want.

Much of what we were told as young kids just isn’t true. Dating is very complicated, some folks do end up alone, and a good job never guarantees that you’ll find the right person. However, it’d be a bold-faced lie to say that having a great career won’t help you find a date. Success is sexy, financial comfort is nice, and having the money to leave a bad relationship due to said job is great.

The biggest thing people tend to forget, though, is that the skills you can learn on the job also work wonders in the dating scene. Don’t believe it? Here are some job skills that can help you get a date and apply to your love life, too!

1. Tact

You need to learn how to be tactful in order to work in most offices, even if you’re not a salesperson or customer service rep. Tact is often what makes or breaks relationships, especially when it comes to issues that may be difficult to talk about. More often than not, being tactful is what prevents a breakup from happening.

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2. Interview skills

Believe it or not, a date is basically a job interview the first time around. You are interviewing the other person for the position of boyfriend or girlfriend. The only difference is that the interview is a lot more intimate than a regular job interview.

However, the ideas of presenting yourself well and getting a good feel of the candidate still apply — and yes, it’s a two-way street.

3. Investment/asset management

A relationship is an investment, whether you realize it or not. If you are a stockbroker, you already know a lot about fallacies that keep people in bad relationships or have them shelling out money for bad investments, such as the Sunk Cost Fallacy.

The key thing to know about Investment Management is knowing when it’s time to cut your losses. If you apply that same set of skills when it comes to dating, you’ll be much less likely to be burnt and much more likely to get out of abusive relationships before they start.

4. Punctuality

Yes, being on time is a skill you can learn on the job. In fact, if you don’t have this skill, the chances of you getting fired are really high. Being on time helps make sure you don’t have a ticked off date.

5. Assertiveness

Did you ever wonder how some salesmen make the quotas they do, and why some people just can’t do sales? A lot of it has to do with being assertive enough to state what you want, and doing so in a way that doesn’t scare people away.

The same can be said for dating and even getting respect from people around you. If you have a hard time standing up for yourself, getting a part-time job which teaches you to be assertive is a smart move.

6. Empathy

If you’ve ever done a customer service job, you’ll understand why being empathetic toward folks in retail or service is so important. Hopefully, I don’t need to explain why empathy is important in relationships.

7. Perceptiveness

Many jobs involve reading between the lines in order to figure out what’s really going on. Being able to read people is a skill many people have to pick up on the job, just in order to make sure they know what to do. This is true for law enforcement, sales, psychology, customer service, and even teaching.

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A perceptive person has a much higher chance of having a happy relationship than a person who is too obtuse to figure things out.

8. Time management

Because trying to juggle a relationship and a full-time job isn’t easy, nor is trying to figure out how much time you should be spending on Tinder.

9. Followup

This is primarily a sales and HR skill, but oh Lord, will it help you get great dates.

Followup is the tactic of actually calling people who seemed mildly interested back up to try to set something up. You’d be surprised at how many dates you can get just by following up on people who are seemingly neutral to you.

10. Money management

Because going broke to impress your date is never sexy, nor is expecting your date to shell out cash for everything you want.

11. Persistence

Given the chance, the dating scene will take you in, chew you up, and spit you out. And it’ll get you to apologize for it. What makes or breaks your ability to make something happen is persistence and ignoring all the “no’s” until you get to a yes.

If you apply this classic job skill to your love life, you will notice a lot of improvements in ways you never expected to see happen.

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Ossiana Tepfenhart is a Jack-of-all-trades writer based out of Red Bank, New Jersey. When she's not writing, she's drinking red wine and chilling with some cool cats. You can follow her @bluntandwitty on Twitter.