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Why It's Difficult To Love Him, Based On His Zodiac Sign

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Why It's Difficult To Love Him, Based On His Zodiac Sign

Love is supposed to be easy. Your search to find the perfect person should be long enough that you know what you don’t want in someone, but not so long that you lose hope in ever finding them.

When you do meet your forever person, the both of you should know instantly that you’re fated to be together. As you get to know each other, your feelings get deeper and deeper until there’s no question that you’re each other’s soulmate.

Unfortunately, love is rarely easy. If it were, there’d be no novels, songs, poetry, theater and every other kind of art about it.

There are some personality traits that can make someone difficult to love like stubbornness, being scared of showing their emotions, refusing to let down their guard, having an inability to say that they love someone, or being rigid in the way they live their life. If it’s impossible for someone to feel safe enough to open up, they will present as someone who isn’t interested in being loved or loving.

A good relationship doesn't happen overnight and if one of the partners won’t participate, it’s not going to get better. When things are starting to come together, the partner may walk away even if a loving relationship is exactly what they want and need.

Some people don’t want to believe in love and look for evidence to back up their theory that love doesn't exist, even checking their horoscope to prove themselves right. But you can look to astrology when you want to know more about the male zodiac signs who are hard to love, and why.

ARIES (March 21 - April 19)

There are times when you're in a relationship with an Aries that you feel as if you're alone in it. Aries can be very self-centered and forget to include you in their immediate activities, their future plans, and whatever impulsive thing they decided to do.

An Aries individual may put everything else before love and they'll overschedule themselves to such an extent that they have no time to even think about sharing their life with someone. If they're too busy for love, then they probably don't want it.

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TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)

There are so many things about Taurus that make them easy to love — they're loyal, generous, and sensual. However, it's their inability to compromise that counterbalances all the good and makes them difficult to love. They tend to refuse to give up anything, nor will they change anything about themselves for love.

Relationships require give and take, and Taurus aren't down with the giving part. It's hard to love someone who won't admit to ever being wrong or who you have to prove to them over and over again how worthy you are.

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GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)

Geminis are smart, funny, and great conversationalists. However, they can be cynical, and their humor can be biting and sarcastic. It's okay to be the butt of a joke on a rare occasion but having someone constantly making sarcastic comments about you or having a sometimes brutal outlook on life can be off-putting.

Then there's their lack of consistency. It's hard for them to stay dedicated to one thing or one person for a long time, and you may find yourself not wanting to get involved if you know that Gemini isn't looking for a long-term relationship.

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CANCER (June 21 - July 22)

Most Cancer individuals live for love. They're faithful, loving, and protective, but their baggage can make them difficult to love. If they were betrayed or hurt in the past, it's very hard for them to let that go.

They can be so weighed down from their past relationships that they're completely oblivious to the potential love they have staring at them in the face. They don't want to repeat the same mistakes that were made before, but instead of causing them to be careful, it immobilizes them. 

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LEO (July 23 - August 22)

Leos are vibrant, spectacular, and kind. Leos are the sign that everybody wanted to grow up to be. They can be hard to love because of their popularity. They've got so many people that love them, that they can believe that they don't need anyone else and that they don't need love in their life.

There are times when Leos don't realize the importance of having a deeper kind of love in their life. They have their dark moments of the soul when they're alone at night and they wonder if they're deserving of love, but most of the time they ignore that feeling and make it seem like they're doing great on their own.

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VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)

It's fantastic having a Virgo in one's life, but it can be tricky getting one. Virgos want love, but they are sometimes under the mistaken idea that they can't love someone in return.

There are times when a Virgo will get close to love and panic — instead of running towards love with open arms, they run the opposite direction, convincing themselves that either they or their would-be partner aren't perfect enough for love. They believe that they aren't able to open themselves up and take a chance on love, and it may seem impossible to persuade them otherwise.

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LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)

Libras can be hard to love because it's difficult for them to open up about negative things. Libras strive to present a happy, positive facade — they want to keep things harmonious and conflict-free even if that means holding back on their more negative and unpleasant feelings.

If it's not about social justice, a Libra is going to avoid confrontation. It may be confusing on who the real Libra is and what they're honestly feeling. You want them to just be their real selves but that scares the crap out of them. But you can't love someone you don't really know.

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SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)

While a Scorpio man has many qualities that make them the perfect hero in a romance novel, they can actually be somewhat difficult to love. It may not seem like it, but Scorpios are very sensitive, and when their feelings get hurt, they can become angry, rude, dramatic, and hell-bent on revenge.

They're so busy having a drama meltdown that it's practically impossible to get their attention or get to know them on another level. When a Scorpio is upset, they're not just in a bad mood, they're in an epic, Shakespearean come-apart-at-the-seams episode and no one wants to start a relationship with someone in that state of mind.

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SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)

Sagittarius individuals are great people — fun, funny, and open to adventure. The problem is they can be skittish when anything smacks of commitment and settling down.

They may fight against love with bluntness, inappropriate humor, and impatience. Plus, they get bored easily, and no one wants to feel like they're the court jester in the relationship and that it's on them to keep everyone interested and entertained. If it's brief, Sagittarius men are easy to love, but if it's for a long-term love, they may feel threatened and take flight.

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CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)

A Capricorn man on paper is everything you want in a husband or partner — they're very hard-working, loyal, dependable, and smart. However, they can be so career-driven they can be difficult to love.

Capricorns can get so caught up in their work that they push love to the side, thinking that they'll get to it when they're more secure financially. We're past the time of dowries and looking at marriages as business mergers. Love should be a feeling, not a means to an end.

When a Capricorn shuts down their emotional side, it can make them hard to get to know and hard to love.

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AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)

Aquarius are awesome — they're very creative, intelligent, and kind. But what can make them challenging to love is their problems with emotion. They don't like to share what they're feeling with others, but what they hate even more is when someone is emotional around them.

Aquarius can become aloof and detached because the most predictable thing about them is that they're completely unpredictable. They tend not to follow any behavioral pattern and it can be problematic trying to figure out how to reach them.

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PISCES (February 19 - March 20)

Pisces are the best, but they don't always know it. It can be difficult to love a Pisces because they don't always love themselves. It's true, Pisces sometimes don't value themselves enough and when someone else loves them, it can make it difficult to believe in that love.

When they are able to love themselves, they'll be able to be more accepting of another person's love. It's easy to find things to love about Pisces, they just need to realize it too.

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Christine Schoenwald is a writer, performer, and teacher who loves writing and performing personal narratives. She's had pieces in The Los Angeles Times, Salon, Woman's Day, Purple Clover, Bustle, and is a regular contributor to Ravishly and YourTango. Check out her website or her Facebook page.