Star Wars is more than just action and eye candy, the movie also taught us a few good love lessons.
Here at YourTango, there are certain holidays we like to celebrate the heck out of: Valentine's Day; Mother's Day; World Nutella Day. Today is Star Wars Day, and we're super excited to have a legitimate outlet for our general geekery. And because we also tend to have love on the brain, we decided to look at one of our favorite movie franchises through heart-shaped lenses, and share with you what Star Wars taught us about love.
1. Our taste in men develops early on. Based upon this Love Buzzer's early, animalistic attraction to Luke Skywalker, I should have known that I'd end up married to some scrawny, pale guy. Star Wars' use of two incredibly different lead men helped young girls everywhere solidify their preference for either the youthful-looking, sensitive guy or the scruffy, tough-talking bad boy.
2. High-pressure situations lead to high-octane sex. It's true. Excitement and unpredictability create a spike in the brain's natural amphetamines —dopamine and norepinephrine—which in turn intensifies arousal levels. It's no wonder Princess Leia had men throwing themselves at her left and right. It was just inevitable that all that hand-to-hand combat and across-the-universe, high-speed spaceship-chasing would get everyone all hot and bothered. We suggest doing something similarly exciting (though perhaps less life-or-death) if you're looking to spice things up.
3. Size doesn't matter. While we were certainly wowed by Luke's nice, long... um... light saber, Han Solo certainly seemed to get the job done just fine without any help from a long, glowing, magical disco stick. If you need further proof that it's not about the size of your hoo-ha, but rather about how you use it, remember the Death Star. Talk about unsuccessfully overcompensating. 7 Body Parts Men Love—Just The Way They Are
4. A woman who can kick ass is highly attractive. While Princess Leia did receive some help from two highly attractive men, a couple of robots, a Wookiee and those adorable Ewoks, she was certainly able to hold her own in a number of dangerous situations. And the men in her life didn't seem at all intimidated. On the contrary, they only wanted her more. So don't feel that you have to force femininity in order to get the guy. You can be your bad self and still land your prince.
5. And yet, we don't mind being rescued every once in awhile. There's nothing sexier than an independent, autonomous woman. Yet many women put so much pressure on themselves to do and have it all that they end up burnt out. The next time you find yourself dressed in a metal bikini and sporting shackles, imprisoned by a large, ravenous slug, remember: you're allowed to lean on the ones you love.
6. Do or do not; there is no try. Or rather, stop pining away for Mr. Hot Stuff, and fruitlessly fluttering your eyelashes at him. It's okay for you to make the first move. Sex: Who Should Make The First Move?
7. You can fly a piece of crap spaceship and still win the heart of your dream girl. This one's for all the guys out there. Just so you know, your BMW Z4 convertible won't mean a damn thing to us if you're not also intelligent, thoughtful, caring and in possession of a cute butt. (Though if you're all of these things and more, we wouldn't mind going for a spin in that there convertible.)
8. Being called a stuck up, half-witted, scruffy-looking, nerf herder can actually be a sign of affection. Especially if you date junior high guys. Or men who never fully matured. Or—to put it more kindly—men who have trouble showing their emotions or being mushy. (And this is why we can never tell whether or not we're in The Friend Zone.)
9. You must be careful when it comes to dating. If you don't do your homework before committing, you might end up lusting after your long-lost twin sister. Or dating a psychopath whose number one hobbies are binge drinking and gambling. Or marrying a man who doesn't want any of the things that you do. 9 Secrets A Healthy Couple Shouldn't Keep
10. Don't try to change him. We loved Star Wars. We obsessed over Star Wars. We wanted to make babies with Star Wars. And yet... we allowed the Star Wars prequels to happen. Why couldn't we leave well enough alone? Similarly, if we truly love someone, we should let them be. Attempts to change your man will only lead to resentment on his part, and eventual regret on yours. Remember why you fell in love with your man in the first place.
Any love lessons we missed? Let us know in the comments, and may the Fourth be with you.