9 Ways To Let A Guy Know You Like Him (But In A Sneaky, Subtle Way)

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How To Flirt With A Guy (& Make Him Want You) Without Looking Desperate
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There's a middle ground somewhere between over-the-top flirting and playing it too coy ...

Sometimes, us guys have a hard time picking up on the fact that you're flirting.

Sure, we all know that business about basic body language, like you touching your hair when we're talking and you leaning forward and touching a chest (his or yours) when you giggle. But those "sure-fire signs" can also be interpreted as wrestling with a bad hair day or a case of laughter-induced vertigo, respectively.

On the other hand, playing Britney '07 while getting out of your car may be a touch overkill (as well as supremely embarrassing if he's not down with your lady business).

If you really want to know how to flirt with a guy in a way that will let him know you're interested and make him want you bad (while not looking desperate), the best play is all about finding the middle ground.

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Here are nine low-key ways to flirt with a guy that are sure to get his attention — and let him know he has yours.

1. Juice up the physical contact

A hand to booty move is a little tacky; instead, go for an extra long hug, a kiss hello or goodbye, or an opportunity for a lap-sit.

Breaking the force field is a great start and if you've rubbed your feet on some fuzzy carpet first and there's a literal shock when you touch him, well, bully for you.

2. Buy him a drink

Irrespective of what the last several decades have done in terms of earning parity and gender role flip-flop-ery, we always recall when a lady buys us a brewski.

3. Compliment his appearance

If you can throw in a reasonable and flattering celebrity comparison, so much the better.

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4. Groom him

If his collar is askance or he has a mess of unintentional fly-aways or he's rocking a frat tuck (a maneuver in which only the front of a man's shirt is tucked in, oftentimes exposing an interesting belt buckle or emphasizing the crotch region) in a clearly no frat tuck milieu, hook him up.

It's not selfish to increase his sexy. This clearly juices up the physical contact and is a way to learn how to let a guy know you're interested.

5. Establish an inside joke

It doesn't have to be a real inside joke; it can be flashing Blue Steel or some other Wes Anderson silliness. A little bit of us-against-them draws people closer (please do not use any of these tips for demagoguery).

6. Ask him about things in his wheelhouse

Everyone feels good about slamming home answers in their areas of expertise; throwing in a bit of fawning over the depth and breadth of his knowledge is pretty slick, too — maybe even with a lean forward, hand-to-the-chest maneuver.

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7. Take plenty of photographs featuring both of you

This may be your instinct. Go with it and post those photos where applicable. Have someone else hold the camera and do the hand-over-the-iPhone-close-together pic.

8. Try a little dancing

Sure, grinding on the dance floor may not be your style, but you don't have to dagger (vertical, public frottage) to trigger a, "Hey, this is sort of like sex" light bulb.

9. Talk closely and, possibly, privately

A little bit of loud music is a good reason to sit very close and chat. Boisterous goings-on are a great excuse to take a step into an adjoining room ... alone.

If all else fails (you're probably dealing with a fellow who is obtuse, uninterested or both), ramp up the physical contact.

Do not attempt to knot a cherry stem in your mouth.

And only write an explicit note on a cocktail napkin if you're prepared for his friends and the Internet to see it.​

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Tom Miller is a writer and performer based in New York, who also happens to be the General Manager and Coordinating Video Producer for YourTango.