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He's focusing on something else right now.
By Christine Schoenwald — Written on Dec 15, 2017
It should be easy to find the right person to love and commit to, but it’s one of the most difficult things to do. If you find your forever person when you’re in high school and stay happily together for the rest of your lives, you’re a very lucky person.
It isn’t just young women who are looking for love, it’s everybody from all different ages and backgrounds. We all want someone to love and to be able to count on. But it’s not as easy as books and movies make it seem.
Finding love shouldn’t be frustrating, annoying and just plain hard, but it is. There are times when even the most focused person has to take a break from looking for love and concentrate on other things such as having a wonderful life all on their own.
It’s more than okay to give up looking for love; in fact, some people believe that when you give up looking, that’s when you find it. Love is wonderful when it catches you unaware and you don’t have to work for it.
But everyone has different reasons for ending their search for love, whether they're tired of looking or their horoscope told them to focus on more important things. And sometimes, the best way to be open is to not search for it at all and just let it come to you.
However, there are still people who doubt they'll ever find their "person." Here's why each zodiac sign gives up on love.
ARIES (March 21 - April 19)
He can't find anyone who has his same energy level and can keep up with him. He wants someone to share adventures with and challenge him. His perfect partner would be competitive and adore taking risks. He needs someone who can stand up to him and won't crumble if he gets confrontational.
The Aries man needs someone who isn't a shrinking violet but someone who grabs life by the horns and lives every moment to the fullest. It's a rare person who has the qualities that Aries seeks, so he's done searching for now.
TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
He's tired of putting his heart out there and getting it stomped on. He's putting up walls and is in protective-mode of his heart.
Taurus would rather be alone than take a risk on someone who will ultimately hurt him. He was careful in his search and he still got hurt, and he's determined not to let that happen again.
GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
He doesn't know what he wants, and he doesn't want to be stuck with the wrong person. He's afraid that if he commits to one person, he'll immediately find someone else who is better and more exciting.
He doesn't want to be an a-hole, so it's better if he doesn't look for love and just plays the field. A no-strings relationship is the best relationship for Gemini right now.
CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
He feels that his ex was the perfect person for him and if they can't be together then it's better if he's alone. Of course, since he's built up his ex in his mind so much, even they couldn't live up to his idealized version of them, no one could.
It's far better for Cancer to think of his ex as being his one and only true love than to go out and risk getting disappointed.
LEO (July 23 - August 22)
He's pretty sure that love is already within his grasp. He's surrounded by love and, eventually, the right person will make themselves known; all he has to do is be open to it.
If Leo doesn't find it immediately, that's okay as he already has a full life and doesn't need a life partner to make himself feel complete. Why make an effort when most things come easily to him anyway?
VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
He's done his research, he's downloaded the apps, and has been a little too focused on finding the one that it's backfired on him. He needs to step back and not put so much energy into finding someone.
Virgo is so intense that it's scaring people away. He needs to relax and focus his attention on other things and, hopefully, love will find him without him trying so hard to find it.
LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
He doesn't want to be dumped. He knows that's the chance you take when you give your heart to someone and at this point in his life, he'd rather not experience the pain of loving someone more than they love him.
There's no sure thing when it comes to love, and by not trying to find love, Libra is guaranteed to not have to go through an ugly breakup.
SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
He's tired of being lied to and cheated on. He's doubting that anybody can be counted on to be faithful and honest.
He doesn't love one-night stands but as long as he gets his sexual needs met in some way, he's cool. While Scorpio may not be actively searching for love, that doesn't mean he won't be longing for it.
SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
He finds that love holds him back and complicates things. He has a world of experiences to have, and he doesn't want to feel tied down to one person or place. Sure, he could find someone as independent as he is but that would take time away from just experiencing life.
Hopefully, when Sagittarius has satisfied his curiosity and wanderlust, he'll be able to commit to one person, but for now, it's all about flings with fellow travelers or locals that he'll see just for a short while.
CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
He needs to focus on his career right now. Love is a distraction and trying to find it takes too much time away from accomplishing his goals.
He'd like to eventually find someone and build a life for them, but he's got to get the foundation in place first. Capricorn can barely take a day off, so how could he possibly look for love when he has such a demanding job?
AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
He can't stand small talk. He doesn't want to go on blind dates or meet Tinder people for coffee. Sometimes it feels like pulling teeth trying to get his dates to open up and say something real about themselves.
He knows he shouldn't judge them because he's not exactly forthcoming with his personal details either. Aquarius wishes he could skip initial dates and just go right to the third date, but since that's impossible, he's going to take a dating break.
PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
He doesn't understand game-playing. He doesn't want to follow the rules of modern courtship. If you like something, that should be enough, but it never is.
Pisces has imagined his perfect person in his head and when he meets them, he'll know right away. In the meantime, he's going to focus on his art.
Christine Schoenwald is a writer, performer, and teacher who loves writing and performing personal narratives. She's had pieces in The Los Angeles Times, Salon, Woman's Day, Purple Clover, Bustle, and is a regular contributor to Ravishly and YourTango. Check out her website or her Facebook page.
