Community Blog

You don't have to be a professional to write for YourTango. Every member has a blog that we create automatically when you register with the site. Just login, click write a post, and voila! Your words are published in our Community Blog. Your post could even be included in our weekly "Best Of YourTango" write-up, or featured on our homepage. Write a post now!

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Have a blog about love, dating, sex or relationships? Looking for more exposure? Be a guest blogger! Email sarah@yourtango.com for more information.

Essays & Articles

Want to write for YourTango? Send us your ideas!

Direct pitches to Sarah Harrison at sarah@yourtango.com and include the word "Pitch" in your subject line. Please include your resume and a link to a writing sample or blog if you have one. Your pitch should include a few lines detailing what you want to write about and how long you think it'll be. Pieces on our site are generally between 500 and 1500 words. 

Please note: YourTango is all about sex and relationships so anything you write about should involve love, dating, marriage, divorce, sex and the like. A YourTango piece can be about almost anything—travel, food, fashion, money—as long as it explains how the subject affects your (or someone's) love life. 

If you write about traveling, explain how your trip influenced your outlook on dating; if you report on a new trend in sex toys, demonstrate how the toys are changing couples' sex lives; if you give kissing tips, show how the advice can bring spouses closer together. 

We look to freelancers for personal essays, reported articles and service pieces. The YourTango voice is smart, playful and real. Read some pieces on the site before submitting your pitch to get a feel for our tone and the type of stories we publish.  

Personal essays should be intimate, revealing and surprising. They should come from a place deep within you, make an emotional connection with the reader and illuminate a larger, universal truth. 

Sample personal essays: Portrait Of An Open Marriage, Tales Of A Reluctant Trophy Wife, How An Affair Saved My Marriage, 12 Relationship Red Flags, Short Man In Love.

Reported pieces should be unexpected and attention-grabbing. They can relate an experience (going to a sex club, or trying out tips from an advice book), report on a trend (how new technologies are affecting relationships) or outline a scientific or psychological breakthrough or idea (a newly discovered hormone that controls attraction). We cover news and trends in our blogs, so make sure your reported piece is original, and not something that we or other outlets have already written about. 

Sample reported pieces:  The Female Happy Ending Massage, The Myth Of The Male Orgasm, Are Sex Parties The New Vibrator?, The Suburban Swingers Club.

Service articles should include information women can really use. The tips should come from an expert (an author, a psychologist, a scientist), from personal experience, or a combination of the two. We want to avoid superficial and mechanized how-tos in favor of advice delivered with emotion and insight. 

Sample Service Articles: Learn To Flirt Like A Pro, The Etiquette Of Oral Sex, How To Make Long-Distance Love Work.

Most of our lists and Q&As are done in-house, but if you have an awesome idea let us know. Blogs are closed to freelancers, but if there's something you think we should cover email us at tips@yourtango.com. And we always like to hear from men (our What Guys Think section is popular) so guys, pitch away!

One more thing: no phone calls, please. We love talking but we won't respond to pitches received via phone.

Call For Fetish Essays!

Do you have a fetish? YourTango is looking for personal essays from people with sexual fixations on objects, ideas or body parts. We want to get inside your head and learn what you think and feel about your proclivity and how it affects your relationships.

Your preference can be common or unknown—cross-dressing, erotic asphyxiation, plushies, pony play, etc—all are welcome. You can be an intense fetishist—you need to incorporate your preference into every sex act in order to experience pleasure—or someone who enjoys the activity but doesn't require it for pleasure.
 

We're not looking for erotic writing or graphic descriptions of what goes on in your bedroom, although the essay will probably need an overview of how a particular preference works. Instead, we want to understand the psychology behind your desire.

Some questions to get you started:
When did you discover you had this preference? How did you begin to incorporate into your sex life? When did you first suggest it to a partner, and how did that person react? If you're single and dating, how do you introduce the idea to a new lover? If you're married or in a long-term relationship, how have you incorporated it into your sex life? Has the fetish ever caused disagreements or fights between you and a partner? Has it brought you closer to someone? What are your emotions surrounding your fetish?  Would your love life be different if you didn't have this preference?

We also welcome pitches from fetish newbies or one-timers—you don't need to be a knowledgeable insider to tell an insightful, interesting story. Write about doing something you'd always thought about but had never tried, or the time a date asked you for a sex act you'd never heard of, or attempting a wacky idea with your partner just for the heck of it. Did you like it, or decide it wasn't for you? What did you think and feel before, during and after the act? How did you talk about it with your partner? Did it bring you closer together or further apart, or neither? Did you learn anything from the experience?

Send pitches to Sarah Harrison, sarah@yourtango.com. Thanks!