The 5 Things Couples Who Avoid Infidelity Do Without Fail

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Five Rules of Fidelity

Protect your marriage from infidelity.

I talk a lot about how to heal from infidelity and I have helped a lot of couples thrive after this interpersonal crisis. Having said that, being faithful to your spouse or committed partner has many advantages.  

These advantages include:

To know how to be faithful, here are the 5 rules of fidelity and if you follow these rules, you will have the best chance at resisting temptation having a happy long-term faithful committed relationship:

1. Spend time together.

Spend 10 quality minutes (at the minimum of course) with your partner where you both focus on each other’s feelings, emotions, and desires.

Being physically affectionate with each other during these 10 minutes works as well! Do this daily!

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2. Be willing to talk about the tough stuff with each other.  

Reveal things that are difficult to share even if you are concerned about his or her reaction. This action cuts down significantly on the chance of acting out some of these more (shadowy) sides of your personality.

3. Instill trust.

If you need or want to talk to someone from the opposite sex, let your partner know and make sure your spouse gets a chance to meet this person if possible.

If this other person (whether it is an old friend or colleague) is unwilling to meet your spouse, then you need to be unwilling to meet your old friend or colleague alone.

That is a red flag sign that the other person does not respect your committed relationship.

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4. Communicate often if you're apart.

If you need to go out of town for a while, contact your intimate partner frequently and while you are away, be wary of drinking too much or using any drugs that can interfere with your judgment.

5. Think about the long-term effects of giving in to temptation.  

I actually mean take some time to think about the benefits of being faithful and the pain of being unfaithful even if it means saying no to some temporary pleasure. Thinking about it beforehand can actually help us have good judgment even when faced with temptation.

Following these 5 rules of fidelity is really about creating an optimal, amazing, alive, passionate relationship. Be focused on that goal and do not let other people or even your more shadowy sides of yourself interfere with what you truly want for the long term.

Todd Creager is an expert in relationships. He has just released his newest resource to help couples heal from infidelity 10 Steps to Healing From Infidelity. Get a copy and find out the 10 steps that will help you or a loved one start healing from infidelity today.

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This article was originally published at Todd Creager's website. Reprinted with permission from the author.