America, Are You REALLY Surprised About Trump Using The P-Word?

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What candidates say matters.

Can I be honest, America? Are you really surprised to hear the latest from Donald Trump?

Can you honestly look yourself in the face and say, “Wow, I never thought he’d go that far or stoop that low”? If you can, you’ve got your head deeper in the sand than I do.

Because, while I never could have predicted the actual words he would say, it is predictable. Since his campaign started, Donald Trump has shown us in many, many ways that he thinks he’s untouchable by social norms and free from respecting his fellow humans at the basic level we teach our kids to in Pre-K.  When you really consider what we’re seeing here, it's behavior that would send your child to time out, detention, or worse.

That is what Donald Trump has shown us all along. If you really need examples, Google “Donald Trump's most vicious remarks” and see what you find.

Today, I saw a video that’s making the rounds on Facebook about President Obama saying the P-word. A few of my Trump friends are using this 30-second clip to explain that “everyone” slips. Maybe they’re trying to say there’s an inner Trump inside of us all?

Perhaps that's true, but it misses one very specific point. In the video Obama is reading from a book, he’s not stating his beliefs. He's not telling the world that he believes he has a right to control a segment of the population by force or intimidation.

To me, the intention behind the word makes all the difference.

When you view these two videos in comparison, the real difference lies in what's going on behind the word. Since we're being honest, let's take it a step further. We all know LOTS of people who use the P-word. Many of them are very good people. The P-word, along with many other seemingly vulgar words, have made it into our vernacular and the use of it alone does not indicate that someone is a bad person.

It’s what’s BEHIND the words that matter.

Think about that as you try to compare the actions of Donald Trump and our president.

I think we need to take a long look at how we got here and what has happened to our very humanness, particularly now that someone who thinks that controlling other people as a “right" is fighting to become the leader of the free world. It’s absurd. How can we tell our children to use their manners or to follow the golden rule when the person who is in charge of our freedoms, safety, and way of life lives by a different set of values?

That’s hypocrisy at its finest.

And, really, one could argue that this kind of hypocrisy lives on both sides of the aisle. There’s enough evidence out there to show that Secretary Clinton isn’t fully who she claims to be publicly either. But, at least, her rhetoric doesn’t include dismissing half of the world’s population as subservient.

If you don’t see Mr. Trump's behavior as a slippery slope to our way life, you’re missing what’s behind most of our outrage at his latest outburst. We have all fought long and hard for our rights in this country: women, gay people, black people, religious people, poor people, and immigrants, all in an effort to create a world where our own person freedoms count and are respected.

We live by the creed that you don’t have to like me, but you do have to respect and honor my choices in life. Because after all, it's MY life.

I think this is a very difficult set of values to live by because, on one hand, we encourage people to LIVE their lives as they see fit and, on the other, we know that some of those values don't match our own personal beliefs. We work hard as a nation to honor and respect this right because it is what defines us uniquely in the world as American.  

That IS the American dream.

We all have a stake in this race. Yes, Donald Trump may not be coming after your personal freedoms, but who thought we would be here less than a month before we get out and vote? Who would have thought that this guy who has rallied millions of people around him would have deteriorated public rhetoric to this place?

Well, if you ever watched the Celebrity Apprentice, can I ask you, are you REALLY surprised?

Maya Angelo once said, “When someone shows you who they are believe them; the first time.” I believe we are seeing the real man; this is who he is. And, as much as his wife may try to tell us that "he's changed." I don't believe it.

Can people reform? Absolutely. But do you really see a different man in front of the camera than we saw in that video?

That is the question that must be asked. If we don't, it will be us, and our children, who pay the price for our foolishness. 

Think about this.

And, if you’re someone who is conflicted because of a single issue that plagues your conscience, I ask you to consider not casting a single issue vote. As a Catholic mother, I follow a lot of the discussion on Facebook and much of it is around how to vote your conscience in this election. I think that’s very important. You DO have to consider the world you’re bringing your kids up in.

If your conscience matters to you, remember this, Jesus wasn’t a single vote prophet.

He didn’t stake his whole mission on one of the beatitudes or one of his beliefs. In fact, if you’re keeping count, in the Sermon on the Mount, there were 8 beatitudes, not to mention the 10 Commandments. There is no value system in the Bible that says one sin is worse than another. They’re all bad.

So, if you’re worried that Donald Trump will put someone on the Supreme Court who will overturn Roe v Wade, let’s look at how realistic that is. Statistically speaking, if Roe is overturned, what’s likely to happen is that the states that have strong anti-abortion laws would make it illegal and the rest would not.

According to the Christian Postusing today’s numbers, you’re looking at a 10% decrease in abortions nationwide. Right now, the nationwide abortion rate is the lowest it’s ever been and that’s under a democratic president who supports women’s right to choose.

If abortion rights are your single issue vote, consider the very limited impact your vote could have on that issue. It’s very small. Not to mention that Trump has a history of being pro-life, so if you trust that he’s not a man of his word, first, his word changes regularly AND the odds of overturning Roe are actually quite slim.

This is a serious election and we’re playing with a guy who sincerely thinks it’s OK to control other people for his own gain. Moreover, he thinks if we were smart, we would do the same. All of the issues that matter have to be considered IF you’re going to vote with your conscience.

Not to mention we all have a moral obligation to explain to our kids what happened. We have big problems in this country and it’s time we stopped letting our election be a reality TV show searching for greater and greater moments of “OMG, I can’t believe he said that."

He did. He absolutely said it.

And there’s more where that came from. 

Just know that every moment that you focus on the insanity of the matter instead of getting into the solution, you are helping to create the oxygen that allows someone like Donald Trump to breathe. If we take away the source of his narcissistic fuel, he will go away and we can focus on the real issues we have in this country.

Isn’t it about time that we turn off the TV and get back to what really matters?

I, for one, pray that people get their heads out of the sand and come out and vote with their hearts and conscience in mind. Vote for Johnson, vote for Clinton, or write in your own vote, but don’t let the two-party system rule the day.

Things will never change unless we all decide that it’s time.

And, for me, it’s time.