3 Ways To Have Better Sex In Your Relationship (That Are Easier Than You Think)

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You won't be able to get enough of each other.

Let’s talk sex. Great sex is absolutely one of the most special aspects of a great relationship. Conversely, stress around sex is one of the hardest things to deal with. 

So what things can you do to make your sex life even more amazing?

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Here are 3 things you can do that will lead to having better sex in your relationship:

1. Connect emotionally.

The best sex is not just physical, it is about the whole person and so much more intense. 

Really hearing each other — especially when it's about things that deeply matter — is a great way to set the stage for great sex. Some would argue that this is more important to women than men, but the reality is that even if this matters way more to one of you than the other, you will both benefit from this because you will both become more open to sexual intimacy as a result.

Feeling taken for granted, misunderstood, or simply neglected leads to a desire to withdraw and go into self-protect mode. But in order to have great sex, you be able to be vulnerable

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2. Practice assertiveness.

Assertiveness is the ability to know and express what you think and feel without minimizing yourself or harming another.

Perhaps you are stuck in a rut and enter the bedroom on automatic pilot. Take some time to think about what you really enjoy about love-making ahead of time. This may double as a great way to get in the mood, too.

Then, be prepared to share it with your lover. Truly, few things are sexier than your partner verbalizing what they are loving with you and wanting with you. If this is hard for you to do, it will be easier if you "out yourself" by telling your partner that you want to work on verbalizing more. (I’d be shocked if that doesn't go over well!)

3. Be intensely present with one another.

It's funny how good advice for life, in general, is great advice for the bedroom, too (or wherever you end up playing). The ability to concentrate your thinking on only what is happening to your body and your partners’ body — and to the feelings and sensations you are experiencing — will greatly intensify your experience. So pay attention to the sensations you are feeling the next time you two have sex.

The level of enjoyment your partner will receive by you being fully present will greatly increase, too. Learn to read your partner’s body language more, too, and you can increase the pleasure for both of you.

Now hop to it. Looks like you have some "practicing" to do. 

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Marilyn Orr is a Relationship Coach with Luv Life Coaching, committed to equipping couples with the tools for real and lasting intimacy. Is Luv Life Coaching an appropriate next step for you? Take their online questionnaire to find out.

This article was originally published at Luv Life Coaching blog. Reprinted with permission from the author.