How Each Zodiac Sign Can Combat Resentment In Their Relationship, According To Astrology
Don't let these feelings go unchecked.
getty What is resentment? Resentment is when you feel angry or antagonistic at what you perceive to be unfair treatment, and it can fester and grow if you don’t do anything about it.
If you’re in a relationship and are feeling resentful, but you don’t express it, it can cause major problems and make things toxic. Resentment or holding a grudge don’t make you very enjoyable to be around.
Luckily, astrology can provide valuable relationship advice for the zodiac signs, especially when it comes to combating resentment.
For some, having a heart-to-heart discussion with their partner is a great way to get rid of any pent-up negative feelings, while others do better when they seek help from a therapist. If you deal with what’s making you feel resentful, there’s no one way that’s better than another — it’s about what works for you.
You don’t want your resentment to get so bad that you lose your temper and say something that could fracture your relationship. And there are times when we can’t stop our resentment from bubbling up and causing damage.
But if you don’t deal with your resentment, it will come out, whether it's in passive-aggressive ways, sarcastic and cynical comments, or playing the victim. How else will your partner know what's bothering you if you don't say something?
Aries (March 21 - April 19)
Aries can combat resentment by connecting physically. A hug, a sensual massage, or intimacy can do a lot to help alleviate resentment because physical touch is a type of connection. Intimacy strengthens the bond between two people and can help to get out a lot of negative energy.
If Aries and their partner aren't in the same emotional place, connecting physically can prevent them from feeling entirely disconnected. Touch can be the first step into feeling safe enough to express feeling without worrying about making things worse.
Taurus (April 20 - May 20)
Taurus can combat resentment by focusing their energy on their family, friends, and their partner. By replacing their feelings of resentment with feelings of love, gratitude, and empathy, Taurus can stop themselves from getting caught up in negativity and becoming bitter, disillusioned, or hopeless.
By looking at what's good in their life, Taurus can work through their resentment and get to the other side.
Gemini (May 21 - June 20)
Geminis combat resentment by being direct and clear about what they're thinking and what they need. They don't assume their partner will automatically know what's going on with them. Instead, Geminis use their great communication skills to stop their resentment from growing and possibly destroying their relationship.
Talking about what they're thinking can start a positive dialogue if both parties are careful not to get defensive. The sooner Gemini and their partner can talk things over, the better.
Cancer (June 21 - July 22)
Cancers also combat their resentment by talking, but they focus more on what they're feeling rather than what they're thinking. Cancers can express their emotions very well and they're good about not holding them in.
The good thing with talking about emotions is that it comes from the heart and isn't open to debate. Cancers are able to be honest about what they're feeling, which is the quickest way for forgiveness to occur.
Leo (July 23 - August 22)
To combat resentment in their relationships, Leos will try to substitute empathy for resentment. Every day, Leo will try to see things from their partner's point of view, and they'll check in with them to find out how they're feeling. Leo will make sure to really look them in the eye and give them their undivided attention.
Empathy helps couples to get along better because it can reduce stress and anxiety, and help them to feel closer. When Leo is empathetic with their partner, they build up feelings of understanding and compassion.
Virgo (August 23 - September 22)
Virgo combats resentment by managing difficult situations as quickly as possible. Virgos are natural fixers, and they're not about to let any bad feelings or difficulties get worse over time. They're going to get a conversation started and find out what they can do to make themselves and their partner feel better.
Virgos are great partners because of their willingness to work on their relationship, and for being honest about what they think needs fixing.
Libra (September 23 - October 22)
Libras combat resentment by keeping things balanced. If they feel as if there's some inequality in their relationship — such as doing all the housework, initiating intimacy all the time, or doing more for the household financially — Libra will find a solution so things feel more balanced.
They'll talk about what they're feeling and brainstorm with their partner to come up with solutions so Libra doesn't feel taken advantage of or that they're doing everything.
Scorpio (October 23 - November 21)
Scorpio combats resentment by making sure they or their partner never feel like they're not a top priority. If Scorpio feels as if their partner never makes any time for them or never makes any plans, they can get resentful, which means they can get very sarcastic and jealous.
It's not always easy for Scorpio to just come out with what they're feeling, but they know that if they don't, their resentment will grow rapidly. Scorpio lets their partner know when they need attention, and they also try to find a place where they can express their feelings without judgment.
Sagittarius (November 22 - December 21)
Sagittarians combat resentment by not blaming their partner when something goes wrong in their life. They look inward and take responsibility for their own actions. This zodiac sign is honest with themselves, even when it seems like the hardest thing to do.
Talking to people comes easily to Sagittarius, but it can be more challenging to take the time and consider their part when their relationship is having trouble. But if their relationship means something to them, they'll do it.
Capricorn (December 22 - January 19)
Capricorns combat resentment by focusing on the things that are important to them and by setting goals. It's good for Capricorn to not obsess about their feelings of anger and resentment because it will only lead to bitterness.
However, if they have things they want to achieve and put their energy towards what is important to them in their relationship, it can brighten their outlook and make them feel happier... as long as they don't minimize or discount their own feelings in the process.
Aquarius (January 20 - February 18)
Aquarians combat resentment by turning things around and looking at them with new perspective. If Aquarius' partner is doing something that seems unkind or thoughtless, this zodiac sign will be compassionate and try to find the reason their partner is behaving in a way that's hurtful.
Aquarius will wait until they're calm because they know if they try to have a discussion when emotions are high, the tension in the relationship could escalate and things could get even worse.
Pisces (February 19 - March 20)
Pisces combat resentment by staying present. If they focus on anything in the past that their partner did or they dwell on things that previous partners did, they risk becoming way too emotional and may say or do something they'd regret.
Pisces will focus on what they love about their partner, and all the good and wonderful things they do. Pisces also makes sure to practice active listening where they repeat back what their partner said to make sure they understood correctly, and they validate their partner's feelings.
Christine Schoenwald is a writer, performer, and astrology lover. She has written over 500 articles on the zodiac signs and how the stars influence us. She's had articles in The Los Angeles Times, Salon, and Woman's Day. Visit her website or and her Instagram.