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Once you know what it is, you can work on it.
By The Mind's Journal — Written on Dec 10, 2018
By Mykh
Let’s not start with the whole "healthy relationships are hard" stuff. This is a given fact and does not require reiterating.
Let’s take a different approach. You know how, according to astrology, zodiac signs are good markers of personality and temperament? Well, going forward from that approach, it is only natural that those personality traits would also be good markers of your greatest personal strengths and weaknesses in relation to emotional power and how the signs handle pressure.
What can be more pressuring than a relationship?
The situation changes not because of love, mind you, it changes because of the way people handle the situation, respecting the feelings of the person in front of them and in what way.
It is always good to know what your flaws and weaknesses are so you can work on them. Your zodiac sign might hold the clues behind the way you deal with emotionally trying situations. And if you know how you are going to react beforehand, there is a good chance you might be able to salvage the situation and save your relationship.
If you've ever wondered about your own greatest weakness, here's how zodiac signs react to their relationships, ultimately leading them to subconsciously (or consciously) sabotage their chances of finding true love:
Aries (March 21 - April 19)
They are vagrant warriors, never still, never calm, and definitely never too strong on the commitment. Think of the Comanche tribe or the Mongol hordes; Aries too are strong and definitive in their action. They are always on the move, so to speak, which is never great for a relationship which has some form of surrender implied in them.
Moreover, Aries thrives on conflict. All they want is a good fight. And that is never ever healthy in a relationship.
Taurus (April 20 - May 20)
You have triggers that make you irrational, much like the proverbial red cloth for the bull that symbolizes you. The trigger is mostly about some stupid thing you did in the past.
Another major character flaw you have is that you are too much into money than into a particular person. Yes, practical materialism is healthy, but not the kind you practice. You need to learn that you can’t put a price tag on everything.
Gemini (May 21 - June 20)
Let’s face it, you are indecisive. Even when you don’t have a dilemma in your life, you go looking for one. This makes you probably one of the worst people at going on a date with. You thrive on dilemmas and the conflicts they bring with them.
And when that search for a dilemma makes you even for once think that there might be someone better than your current partner, more than half of the damage has been done.
Cancer (June 21 - July 22)
You have to be in control in all of your relationships. Like Taurus, you are pretty practically grounded but there are expectations that you have in a relationship that may be a little more than other people might have. You want a relationship like that of in fiction — and this is not a standard everyone can live up to. It’s just one of those things.
You also like to go all in with people you have met pretty recently, which also scares them away sometimes.
Leo (July 23 - August 22)
You happen to believe that everything you say is correct and while most of the times you might be, it is necessary to sometimes take a step back for people you love. You do not do well with coming to a compromise because for you, things you say or decide are unchangeable. This tendency makes you push people away just so you could do things the way you want to, without any exterior input.
There is a lot you feel like others do not understand, but this happens because you do not give them a chance to understand. People are not deals or machines, and you are not the only one with emotions and thoughts.
Virgo (August 23 - September 22)
You cannot be satisfied. You have a problem with everything and always focus on what is negative, no matter how inconsequential those things might be. You constantly crib about how things could have been marginally better if something else was done in a situation but you do not appreciate the greater good.
Your relationships do not last because of your cribbing and being miles away from any kind of positivity. For you, there is no winning and this transfers on to the person you are dating. This makes them want to push you away.
Libra (September 23 - October 22)
You are the sign of everything soft. You have a soft heart and even softer attitude and you expect the same from the world. You are naive and think that everyone around you will be a nice person — and it does not end there.
Libras tend to take every joke and jibe seriously and then come the waterworks. Our Libra friends cannot deal with even an iota of criticism and think that people are trying to hurt them even when they are just joking and engaging in friendly banter. There is a lot to the world — not everyone is trying to insult you.
Scorpio (October 23 - November 21)
For you, the reason is that you do not let people around you long enough. You want things to happen right immediately and the moment you think that it is a little different from what you expected it to be, you sprint and how.
You need to learn how to give people an opportunity to show how they actually are and make you see why they should be around you and how you need them and finally, they are what you wanted them to be.
Sagittarius (November 22 - December 21)
Having standards is not a bad thing, it is healthy and a simple way to find people that you deserve but if you have standards that are sky high, you can kiss all your relationships goodbye. You forget that people you date are humans as well, and they cannot be perfect all the time. It is too much to ask for, to expect that they will do exactly what you want and need all the time.
Things take time and you have to learn to give this time to them and see how things pan out.
Capricorn (December 22 - January 19)
You feel like you will get hurt no matter what. This is the reason why you have built up walls around you so high and thick that they are almost impenetrable. You fail to realize that doing this frustrates the people that you are dating because they are trying to be your partner, someone who is trying to know and understand you. Learn to be nice and give people a chance.
Aquarius (January 20 - February 18)
You do everything half way, especially relationships, and that is not something that is going to fly. People have expectations and sometimes we have to live up to them because that is how you show that you love them and you care.
Pisces (February 19 - March 20)
Being friendly is a great thing but flirtatiousness when you are dating someone would obviously be upsetting to them. You do not find in it you to regard your partner’s emotions, so learn to do that.
Mykh is a writer for The Mind's Journal.
This article was originally published at The Mind's Journal. Reprinted with permission from the author.