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Some people are destined to take charge.
By Emily Ratay — Written on Sep 21, 2021
Figuring out whether you’re more dominating or submissive in the bedroom isn’t just about what your preferences are — astrology can also lend its hand in helping you figure out which role you or your partner like better.
When it comes to which zodiac signs are submissive and which are dominant in the bedroom, it all depends on their specific personality traits.
Which zodiac sign is the most dominant?
Leo is the king or queen of not being told what to do. They must be in control of every situation, but that's particularly true during sex.
Given their endless amount of energy, huge ego, and overly competitive nature, it should be no surprise that Leo needs to be the dominant partner in the bedroom. The upside is that sex with a Leo is fun, creative and sensual.
Which zodiac sign is the most submissive?
Though Virgo is logical and somewhat of a control freak, in the bedroom, they tend to take a backseat. During sex, Virgo is submissive, instead allowing their partner to take the reigns.
However, even if Virgo is the most submissive zodiac sign, that doesn't mean sex with them isn't great; in fact, Virgo always has some tricks up their sleeves when it comes to their most intimate moments.
Now, no matter your zodiac sign, there’s something sexy about being both controlling and giving up that control in the bedroom. For some, it all depends on the mood, and whether you want to be the one to call the shots or the one to obey them.
Being a dominating partner thrills some people because they love being in charge. But then again, being the submissive one in the bedroom can be just as thrilling.
Of course, not everyone feels the same way when it comes to sex. Usually, a person is more interested in one role over the other, which means they put in much more effort to live up to that role. So, which role do you prefer?
Zodiac Signs Ranked From Most Dominant To Most Submissive
Leo (July 23 - August 22)
Leo hates when people tell them what to do, so naturally, they would want to be the more dominating one in the bedroom. While they also love when their partner worships the ground they walk on, they still want to be the one to call the shots.
For Leo, being the dominating one in the bedroom is not just about being able to tell their partner what to do, but doling out the punishments should they disobey. The thrill of being able to take charge and stay in control keep things spicy.
Scorpio (October 23 - November 21)
Scorpio is all about passion, and being the one who takes charge in the bedroom comes easy for them. They have a naturally aggressive personality and they tend to translate that into sex.
Scorpio shows their dominant side through talking during sex, but they aren't shy about bringing toys or props into the equation either.
Known to be jealous and suspicious by nature, being able to be in control is better for them.
Capricorn (December 20 - January 19)
Capricorn is a boss in their professional life and a boss in their personal life, too. They aren't the type of person who secretly loves giving up power behind closed doors; they are always in charge and it stays that way.
Capricorn is a pro at self-control. They use this personality trait as a way to stay impartial and in charge when things get intimate.
Sagittarius (November 22 - December 19)
Sagittarius is not the type of person to roll over while someone else call the shots. They don't like being told what to do, but even more, they feel like being submissive during sex is trapping.
Sex is about being in charge and getting exactly what you want, which is why Sagittarius likes being the dominant one. Sometimes, they even prefer having sex with another dominating personality, but don't always deal well when sharing the spotlight.
Pisces (February 19 - March 20)
Pisces doesn't seem like the type of person to like being dominant in bed, but it's a side of their personality they don't always show in public. They are what many call a "lady/guy in the streets and a freak in the sheets."
Pisces is a known dreamer, so for them, being dominant is just another way live out some of their fantasies.
Gemini (May 21 - June 20)
Gemini is always ready for fun when it comes to sex. The only thing Gemini is more scared of than having to make all of the decisions themselves is a repetitive, boring sex life. When Gemini is the dominating one, they don't have to worry about either of those things.
Gemini can call the shots without ever having to worry that things are getting boring and predictable. Every once in a while, they do enjoy being submissive, but it's all part of their hot and cold personality.
Aries (March 21 - April 19)
Aries is dominant during sex, but it's simply out of necessity. They hate when their partner isn't doing what they want, so they like being in charge so they can be satisfied.
Aries can't help themselves — they are bound to be a leader in all aspects of their life.
On the flip-side, Aries also likes letting go and relaxing at times, so if being the one in charge starts to feel like work, they will choose to be submissive for a while. It's not their favorite thing to do, but they still enjoy it.
Taurus (April 20 - May 20)
Taurus is known for their stubbornness in every other aspect of their life, but there's just something about letting go of all their inhibitions during sex. For once, they don't have to be the boss!
Taurus can be a possessive, jealous person, so during sex it's a chance for them partner to take charge instead.
Libra (September 23 - October 22)
Libra has a terrible problem with making decisions and sticking with them. They tend to flip back and forth without ever really landing on a choice. This is why Libra is more likely to be submissive in the bedroom.
It can be sexy to be submissive, but it also means they don't have to worry about being too aggressive or lenient. This way, though, it's in a safe environment where Libra can still pick and choose what they like most.
Cancer (June 21 - July 22)
For Cancer, not being in charge is just something they love most, especially during sex.
Cancer can also be a highly imaginative partner, which means that just because they aren't calling the shots, it doesn't mean they don't know how to make things more exciting.
They aren't shy about talking about their fantasies, either. Cancer just prefers to have a more dominating partner to help bring them to life.
Aquarius (January 20 - February 18)
Aquarius absolutely hates being told what to do in real life, but during sex, they give up control because it's a way for them to escape from their normal, everyday self.
Aquarius prefers to unwind and enjoy sex for what it is, rather than continue to be in charge.
Virgo (August 23 - September 22)
Virgo is always the one who is in charge, handling their problems as well as everyone else's. It's not so much that they want to be in charge, but more so that they are put in that role because they know what they are doing.
This is why, when Virgo is in the bedroom, they don't want to have to put in the work to be the dominating partner. They prefer to enjoy every second of not having to know what they are doing.
Emily Ratay is a full-time writer living in Pittsburgh. She's passionate about the environment, feminism, astrology, and plans to write a non-fiction book in the future.