8 Hot-As-Hell Texts From My Real-Life Dominant (I'm The Submissive)

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8 Hot-As-Hell Texts From My Real-Life Dominant (I'm The Submissive)

I have a real-life Christian Grey and damn, he's diiiiirty.

With the introduction of Christian Grey and Ana Steele in 50 Shades of Grey, the sexy film that took the world by storm, the concept of Dominant/Submissive (or D/S) relationships was introduced to a whole new audience. Suddenly, men and women everywhere realized, "Hey, it would actually be really hot to be the submissive in a relationship." 

And when you're interested in learning about and connecting to someone in this type of bond, it's important to have someone that you trust, first and foremost. Unlike the pretense of 50 Shades where Ana Steele gets pushed into doing things that made her uncomfortable, real dominant/submissive relationships are about creating a place of safety and trust—and being absolutely hot as hell, to boot. Are you obsessed with the idea of having a "master" who orders you around? Then you'd likely get pretty excited over being the submissive, as I am. If you're more the domineering type, however, then maybe having someone to bend to your will is what gets you hot and bothered. 

So, after realizing that a D/S relationship was something I was interested in, I went and did my homework. After months of research and learning about healthy, well-structured D/S relationships, I happened upon a gentleman who was interested in taking on and training a submissive of his own. I was unbelievably excited to get started. Not only because it would push me from my comfort zone sexually, but also because it was new and exciting.

After some serious negotiations in regards to what was and wasn't allowed on both sides, we began to assume our roles as Dominant and Submissive through text.

Now, we both agreed that neither of us would ever want to assume these kinky roles with life partners as they are mentally and emotionally demanding on both parties — but the rewards for each of us in regards to giving up and taking complete control are intoxicating. And, I’ve found, better than any therapy session I've ever been involved in, in most cases.

So without further ado, here are 8 kinky sexting examples from my real-life dominant for your viewing pleasure: 

1. Some days when he knows I'm working from home, he'll give me explicit instructions.

2. His instructions are explicit down to the last detail. 

The satisfaction for him comes from knowing I'm doing as he commands, while the reward for me is to be shoved out of my comfort zone and forced to notice the reactions of my own body.

3. Other times, he'll text me detailed scenarios...


4. They make my knees weak and my pulse quicken every time I read them.

5. One morning I woke up angry (perhaps you're familiar with the feeling), and using keywords, I signaled my desire to role play a rather intense punishment scene. 

In less than 15 minutes, I felt as though he'd hit a reset button on my brain and I floated through the remainder of the day. (Keep in mind that he never even touched me.)

6. I willingly let him take control and refer to him as "Sir."

7. His direction, control, and praise are just plain hot as hell.

8. And knowing that I make him hot makes me even hotter.

We all have things, and this is one of mine. I love handing over complete control at times and I'm relieved to have a partner whom I can trust to stay within the parameters of control I've set for myself outside of our more formal relationship.

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