What It's Really Like To Have Sex With A Virgo

Despite their reputations as neat freaks, Virgos aren't above getting dirty...

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Poor Virgo! They've also gotten a bad rap as being prudish toward sex, but this isn't exactly the case.

Virgo men and women, born between August 23 and September 23, typically have a healthy attitude toward sex, but given that their zodiac sign is represented by the symbol of the Virgon,  this might be where some misconceptions about Virgo sexuality lie.

If you want to know how to have great sex with a Virgo, you simply need to understand that they approach erotic acts the way they do everything else: pragmatically.


Why are Virgos so good in bed?

To Virgo males and females, sex is simply a necessary part of life in order to keep the body-beautiful running smoothly. It's therapeutic, much like any other form of exercise. Plus, it's a great tension-releaser.

Not very sexy? No, but that's the way it is with Virgo. What you see is what you get. I wouldn't go so far as to call sex a necessary evil, but to the practical Virgo, it is what it is.

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Most of these Virgins don't frequently get what you call "randy"; they might just look at the calendar and think, "Hey, it's been a while... Time to flush out the pipes. Let's do it."

So much for pillow talk.

A host of Virgos get turned on by what might be referred to as Plain Jims and Janes: the slightly nerdy, bespectacled fellow in the next cubicle. Someone who's simple, uncomplicated, nice.

A Virgo buddy of mine had a serious case of the hots for the local TV weather girl. To me, she was a bit on the milquetoast side and a wee bit homey, but Thomas swore "she could get nasty" just by watching the way she wielded a pointer. He pined for her endlessly and ended up marrying a gal who looked a lot like her.


Many Virgos actually prefer a basic, no-frills partner. To them, it's just easier that way. Less maintenance, more practical.

In fact, some Virgos are like this themselves — not much to look at, but just below the surface they have a depth and intensity that is jaw-dropping. And oh-so-rewarding for those willing to peel away the succulent layers of the artichoke to get to the tasty heart.

Virgos are extremely attentive and respectful lovers. Their partner definitely comes first.

The Virgin's supreme kindness carries over into the bedroom by doing thoughtful, little things for their mates. It's not unusual to find a shiny trinket or a succulent chocolate on your pillow when you share the Virgin's bed. Just the knowledge that they're appreciated by a partner is thanks enough for them.


The Virgin's nurturing tendencies also mean that they like fixing things, especially in bed.

Male and female Virgos love to take an inexperienced partner under their wings and show them the ropes, so to speak. But in the kindest, most compassionate way.

Despite their reputations as neat freaks, Virgos aren't above getting their hands dirty in the boudoir. Sticky fingers and other body parts don't put them off, just so long as there's somewhere to clean up afterwards.

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While they might be a bit self-conscious about their own shortcomings and imperfections, they'll heartily embrace and accept yours. In fact, they won't see them as shortcomings at all.


Since most Virgos are naturally submissive, they get super-aroused by the notion that they're a sexual slave who is "forced" to do all sorts of "revolting" things.

For the Virgin, who spends so much time living in their own head, being told what to do gives them a breather. They have no trouble letting somebody else do the driving, or the spanking.

Ditto for being a voyeur. The very act of watching also frees the watcher from responsibility. They're looking rather than doing. They're not initiating. They're being swept along with the current instead of being compelled into making decisions.

So the voyeur isn't exactly helpless but, more closely, an "innocent" bystander. Many people find this truly liberating — Virgos, in particular.


So you see, these Virgins aren't quite the prudish lovers they're made out to be. More specifically, they're prone to being modest and a bit shy between the sheets.

However, if you help Virgos feel comfortable and safe, you'll be rewarded with an attentive, curious partner who just needs a little bidding to break out of their shell. In other words, someone "who can get wild."

True to their zodiac sign's hype, Virgo can be very, very picky, especially when choosing a bedmate. Most would rather go without sex or without a steady partner rather than just settle for a meaningless one-nighter.


So when you get selected by a Virgo, consider it a great compliment.

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Ariella Moonstone has been a sought-after astrologer for several decades, counting many recognizable names among her private clientele. Vivian Woodley, MA/MFT, has been a licensed therapist for more than 20 years, specializing in issues related to sexuality. Their book, The Astrology Sex Diet, is available on Amazon.​