3 Ways To Truly Spoil Each Other On Valentine's Day (And Ditch The Cliché 'Traditions')

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3 Ways To Truly Spoil Each Other On Valentine's Day (And Ditch The Cliché 'Traditions')

Tips for the perfect gift, date and romantic gesture.

If you've been living under a rock without a calendar and access to the internet, you might have overlooked the fact that Valentine's Day is right around the corner. And the pressure is on.

Alas, we see your fleeting memory and raise you this: 37 percent of men and 13 percent of women say their partner would be devastated if they forgot Valentine's Day!

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In an effort to save your butt, and give you some Valentine's Day ideas to make the day extra special for your partner, Tokii — a self-help relationship app — surveyed their users to find out what both men and women think of this special day. Not only will you learn how to be romantic in a way your partner appreciates, but take the pressure off yourself in the process.

1. Lay on the romantic gestures, but stay away from proposals.

Women love to hate on Valentine's Day. February 14 is somewhat of a controversial day if you pay attention to the criticizing cries of "commercialism!" coming from the peanut gallery.

But perhaps that criticism is coming from the 52 percent of women and 16 percent of men who admit to being envious of romantic gestures they observe from others on Valentine's Day.

Though it is a day of love, most advise against making the ultimate romantic gesture — a proposal or marriage — on Valentine's Day, as 63 percent of women and 69 percent of men call it cliché.

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2. Take a weekend getaway or just spend time together.

Turns out men and women have different ideas of what the perfect Valentine's Day date entails. The majority of men and women (50 and 60 percent, respectively) think a romantic weekend away is the perfect way to celebrate.

But if your pockets aren't deep enough to jet set to a luxurious vacation spot this February, there are some less-expensive alternatives to try. Ladies, 32 percent of men say they'd be happy fooling around in bed all day and 57 percent would enjoy a special massage. No word yet on the expectation for a happy ending.

3. Treat your partner to something they actually want.

We all agree that Valentine's Day isn't about chocolates. Many associate Valentine’s Day with some gift staples — a box of chocolates, a cuddly teddy or a single red rose, to start. But love this holiday doesn't have to come from a drug store, fellas — nor should it.

Forty-five percent of men think flowers are the way to say "I love you" on February 14, but only 4 percent of women agree. Rather, one-third of women want jewelry and 40 percent want to be treated to a day at the spa.

Ladies, when buying for your man, one-fifth would prefer tickets to the big game. However, a whopping 70 percent of men just want sex. So, it’s safe to say men aren’t as interested in the traditional Valentine’s Day present, unless the gift is in the bedroom.

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