3 Things To NEVER Do During Speed-Dating (And 3 Things You SHOULD)

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A few first-hand tips.

Based on a recent speed dating experience, I came up with the following list of tips for what to do and what not to do to make the most of one's time in the unique world of forced encounters on the clock.

Here are three things you should do:

  1. Tell a person about your habits or quirks. Just maybe not in the first sentence, like "Hi, I'm really messy. What about you?" Oh, are we moving in together? Funny. I thought we'd just met.
  2. Feel comfortable voicing if you're feeling nervous or awkward about wearing a "Hello, my name is..." tag, making small talk for six minutes and rotating to meet another stranger at the sound of a gong. Chances are, your date feels the Twilight Zone vibe, too. Plus, disclosure is rad.
  3. Take notes. Seriously. You think it'd be easy to remember details about 15 people, but it's not.

And on the opposite end of the spectrum, here are three things you absolutely should NOT do:

  1. Use humor that might be perceived as off-color or unfunny. For example, don't mock the Indian accent of your med school classmates to a date of Indian heritage. You'd think this one would go without saying.
  2. Be a smartass. Answer the "What do you do for a living?" question in the following manner: "Hmm, let's see, how I can explain this to you? Have you seen Pretty Woman? Yes? OK, I do what Richard Gere does in that movie." I can't expound enough on the d-bag nature of this response.
  3. Knock it 'til you've tried it. Whether you're looking for an activity buddy, using it to get yourself back out there after a breakup, or going all out in search of true love, life is short and speed dating awaits.