If Someone Is Actually Your One True Soulmate, You'll Notice These 11 Divine Signs
You'll never be confused about if you're with your soulmate or not.
ViDI Studio | Shutterstock Finding your soulmate is often described as this ethereal experience where you just magically connect with someone instantly. It transcends regular romance and instead becomes this intense and deep bond that you've formed with the person you know you're meant to be with. It's as if you've met this person before despite the fact that it's first time you've ever laid eyes on them. And while people may encounter relationships with others that they really did love, finding a soulmate is often on an entirely different level.
Because if someone is actually your one true soulmate, you'll notice certain divine signs. It'll be the little cues that clue you into the fact that this person is special and the love they're about to bring into your life is equally as special. It's someone who always makes sure you feel safe and supported. A day doesn't go by where you're wondering if they truly see you. Even if you've been in a relationship before, being with a soulmate has a different kind of energy.
If someone is actually your one true soulmate, you'll notice these 11 divine signs
1. You feel lighter around them
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Just being around this person brings a sense of calmness and peace over you. You never dread having to see them nor do you look at the clock, waiting as the minutes tick by until you can separate from them.
Their presence has the opposite effect on you. They make everything feel less heavy, and maybe you've been carrying this weight around all day from the stresses of your own life, but being in their company makes all of that just disappear.
"Working together to create a safe and nurturing relationship environment will benefit you both, making it easier for you and your romantic partner to be vulnerable and rely on each other in times of need and to feel supported by the other person’s attention, loving words, and helpful behavior," explained clinical psychologist Arash Emamzadeh.
You don't have to constantly put up walls around them or act as if you have everything together. You can let the mask you may wear around other people slip a little bit in their company because you know they won't judge or criticize you. Instead, they'll be there to comfort you and help you solve the problems that seem to be weighing you down.
2. They inspire you
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If someone is actually your one true soulmate, you'll notice that they inspire you frequently. In fact, just being around them makes you want to be a better version of yourself. It's not a need to impress them, but in a way where their presence sparks a sense of inspiration and creativity for you.
Being around them makes you want to level up so that you're both on the same playing field. It's born from genuine motivation and also awe of the kind of person they are.
It's not as if they're asking you to improve either; in fact, they constantly tell you how you're more than enough. But the way they talk about their dreams and hopes just does something to you and what you want for yourself. You simply end up catching yourself thinking that you want to show up in the way they do.
3. Small moments feel magical
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You could be doing something quite ordinary with them, like making breakfast in the morning or going for a walk around the neighborhood, but these moments still feel magical and one-of-a-kind. While the grand gestures and fancy dates are great too, there's something nice about the little everyday things.
"In a busy life, these little moments might feel just like that — little moments that don't really matter. How big of a deal can it really be if you don’t look up from your phone when your partner makes a comment about something they see out the window?" social psychologist Amie M. Gordon questioned.
"But each moment we ignore is a missed opportunity to connect and build up an emotional bank of positive moments that can help buffer us when things go wrong," Gordon added.
Even when the two of you are sitting in silence, maybe watching a movie, or even just eating a meal together, time spent never feels boring or dull. These are memories that stick with you for a long time even after they're over and done with.
It's the kind of thing that you look forward to when coming home from a long day of work, just being able to spend these moments with your soulmate.
4. Mutual care flows naturally
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Things are not done out of obligation nor are they keeping score. Instead, they show up because they genuinely want to. They're noticing what you need and you're also noticing what they need as well.
There doesn't have to be any questions asked or begging involved. It's someone who's wholeheartedly paying attention to you and tuning into your life because they want to know exactly how you operate.
"Healthy relationships require effort. This might mean making time for each other, being open to differing perspectives, or collaborating to achieve mutual goals. Successful relationships are reciprocal; they grow with genuine acts of kindness and support without keeping score," insisted psychotherapist Ilene S. Cohen.
They aren't asking you what your love languages are, they're just paying attention and giving you the kind of love that you both need and deserve. You are both showing up for each other in the ways that matter, and by doing that, you're making each other's lives so much easier.
5. You trust them with your emotions
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All of the imperfect moments are not something you run away from when it comes to your true soulmate. The messy and confusing feelings are something that you allow them to see because you know they're not only making space for them, but they aren't turned off by seeing them either.
You aren't just coming around them when you're all put-together and emotionally stable. You let them see you break down and rant about things that are bothering you. It's because they take your emotions seriously, even when they're complicated.
Having someone like that in your corner can feel so comforting, especially if you've gone so long being ashamed of those parts of yourself.
6. You forgive without resentment
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It's not that you never argue with this person or that you're somehow able to avoid any type of misunderstanding, but that you are willing to work through it. This feeling that you have with them is enough to be able to work through any little bump that comes up along the way.
You don't just stew in the fact that you're angry or keep everything bottled up. Instead, you're reaching out and asking them to meet you halfway. So, if someone is actually your one true soulmate, you'll notice these divine signs.
Not only that, but they're willing to as well. You don't feel the urge to drag issues back up after they're resolved because of how safe you feel with just being able to move forward. The same goes for them, which is why you feel this innate sense that they're your true soulmate.
7. There's effortless comfort
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You're never having to force yourself to relax in their presence because it's just automatic and natural. Your body and mind finally get to exhale. You don't feel the need to perform or impress them because they take you as you are.
It's the kind of comfort where even in silence you still feel at peace. There's no inherent pressure to try and make sure you're entertaining them and no anxiety about all of the things that you should be saying next.
"As wonderful as the excitement of the early stage of a relationship is, I find the calm and comfortable later stage more appealing. Spending time with someone you love, and who loves you in return, in an atmosphere of mutual affection, can be its own type of excitement," philosophy professor Mark D. White admitted.
It's just two people being able to exist in the same space, and that's enough for you to know that you've found the person you're meant to be with. Especially when you might have struggled in the past with feeling comfortable around the people you were with, it can feel like such a breath of fresh air to now be with someone who you can just let your hair down around.
8. They remember the little things
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If someone is actually your one true soulmate, you'll notice that they remember the little things. They're not trying to score points with you or make it seem as if they're the perfect partner; rather, the fact that they remember all of the little things that you talk about is because they're genuinely paying attention to you.
They're picking up on your habits and preferences. They're picking up on the quirks that make you stand out and even the flaws that you try to shove away from them.
To be seen on that level feels so special and is a sign that you've met the person you're meant to be with. It makes you feel important because they're so tuned into the words that you say to them and the memories that you share with them as well. They hold on to these things because of how much you matter to them.
9. You argue against fear
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Instead of pulling away when the fears and insecurities get to be too much, you're able to push through them with your soulmate. In the past, you might have let these fears drive you away, but now you instinctively want to fight for the relationship rather than letting the fear make all of the decisions.
Anytime that you suddenly think you're being too much or that they'll suddenly change their mind, they're also the first one to give you the reassurance that you need.
"Fear is inevitable, but how we deal with it ultimately leads to our openness to take a chance to see love in our life," pointed out therapist Neal Holmes. "An openness and willingness to be vulnerable and be open about your fears should be discussed in a safe space."
You're never asking for too much when you need to hear how they feel because they know exactly what happens if they don't. Your true soulmate never wants you to feel insecure in the relationship or with how they feel about you. They'll stay by your side as you fight through the fears and be there on the other side of it all.
10. You feel a deep sense of belonging
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It's that feeling where you know you can be completely yourself. You don't have to fight for space in their life or try and prove that you're worth pouring energy into. They just do it because they genuinely appreciate and enjoy being around you.
They accept you for the version that you are right now. They're not looking at your potential or thinking of your growth.
"Meaningful belonging is essential for our romantic life, but it has a price: It limits the number of romantic partners we can have, as belongingness involves commitments and resources that we cannot allocate to a wide range of people. Fortunately, profound lovers do not consider this limitation to be negative," said philosopher Aaron Ben-Zeév.
Your presence around them isn't just tolerated for the sake of it but it's actually welcomed. With them, you don't just feel like you're taking space in their life for the sake of it because they've made enough room for you to be yourself wholeheartedly.
That sense of belonging might feel unique to you because every person before them wasn't actually your soulmate.
11. You know this connection is rare
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It's just this feeling that you have in the pit of your stomach. There's no denying it or trying to run from it either. You've somehow managed to stumble into meeting and being with your true soulmate.
There's this awareness in how the two of you interact and the way that everything just happened to click into place. There was no fighting to make it work. Especially when you compare it to past connections, you know that you may have never been loved in this way.
There's less confusion and guessing going on. You're not wondering if they like you or if they even want to be with you in the first place. You're not overanalyzing their behavior and laying awake tossing and turning at night.
Everything feels easy and natural. While there's no such thing as "perfect," you know in your heart of hearts that this relationship is by all accounts perfect for you.
Nia Tipton is a staff writer with a bachelor's degree in creative writing and journalism who covers news and lifestyle topics that focus on psychology, relationships, and the human experience.
