30 Signs A Man Is Quietly In Love With You, Even If He'll Never Admit It
These behaviors reveal just how deeply he feels about you.
Hayes Potter | Unsplash You notice he never seems to get tired of looking at you and wonder what he is thinking. He wants to make you smile, so he figures out your vibe and tries to cater to it. He makes you so happy that you smile whenever you think about him.
But how does he do it? What actions and words create the joy you feel? He isn't outright saying he loves you, but you feel it. There are so many meaningful ways he quietly reveals he's in love with you, so pay close attention.
Here are thirty signs a man is quietly in love with you, even if he'll never admit it:
1. He texts or calls to say goodnight
A cute goodnight text or a quick call before either of you goes to bed lets you know he is thinking of you. He is making sure you know you are always on his mind. This will send you to sleep with a smile on your face every time.
2. He texts or calls her to say good morning
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As with the goodnight messages, sending a sweet good morning text gets your day started right. He might text once he is sure you are fast asleep, so his sweet words will be the first thing you see when you wake up and look at your phone.
3. He says you're beautiful
When he calls you beautiful instead of saying you are pretty or cute shows a deeper love. These words may all seem like they mean the same thing, but the distinction is a big one. Hearing him tell you you are beautiful lets you know he thinks you are exactly his type, and he wouldn't want you to be any other way.
4. He gives meaningful gifts
Most everyone loves getting gifts, especially when they come as a surprise and seemingly for no reason. He doesn't need to break the bank. An inexpensive gift can mean so much more than an expensive gift that you would never want for yourself, no matter the cost.
5. He wants to commit
He makes sure you know he is afraid to lose you and he'll do what it takes (within self-respecting reason, of course) to make sure that never happens.
6. He treats you the same when his friends are around as when you are alone
He doesn't make the dreaded mistake of trying to play it super cool in front of the guys at your expense. If he usually holds your hand when it's just the two of you, he holds your hand when his friends come along. If he tells you he loves you before you get off the phone, he will tell you he loves you when his friends are there with you, too.
Being consistent will let you know he means what he says and that he is someone you can rely on.
7. He is there when you need him
We all need to know our partner will be there for us in the good times and in the bad. In order to feel happy, you need to know that he has your back and he'll be there by your side when you're going through struggles or challenging times.
8. He sends random texts to say he's thinking about you
Texting can help to feel connected throughout the day and will make you feel happy because you'll know he is thinking about you all day, even when you're not together in person.
He can save the deeper, more important conversations for when you're together or over the phone, but a short, sweet text will remind you that he likes you as much as you like him, and it'll make you feel good for the rest of your day.
9. He makes sure the people who are important to him know who you are
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If his family and friends don't know who you are or how special you are to him, it will make you question the foundation of what you have together, and for good reason. He should know who it is that means the most to you in life, and likewise, his people should know you.
10. He makes you a priority, not an option
He makes sure you know it matters a lot whether or not he gets to see you, talk to you, or do things with you. If you feel like he may always be on the verge of turning down spending time with you to do something else, it will be hard for you to feel happy with him for very long. Pay attention to how he fulfills your needs!
11. He loves the simple joy of doing nothing with you
If you know he is just as happy to chill with you at home as he is when the two of you go out, it will make you feel secure that he is with you because he likes you, and not just because you are someone to do things with. It's important to spend time together, just you two.
12. He notices what you need before you ask
He helps you with your coat, pulls out your chair at the dinner table, and opens the door for you. He even stays off his phone when he is talking to you. This shows he is considerate and well-mannered, and will make you feel happy to be with someone who knows how to handle himself like a grown-up.
13. He is willing to compromise
Occasionally backing down in an argument, even when you may be wrong, shows he is emotionally mature and in control of himself. He shouldn't cave in all the time or give up on issues that are deeply important to him, but trying to win fights just for the sake of winning rarely does a couple any good.
If he is willing to make a compromise sometimes, you will be so happy that you probably won't fight as often.
14. He is proactive when making plans
He plans something fun that the two of you can do together, and lets you know that all you have to do is show up and enjoy yourself. You love having a chance to not worry about the details, relax, and appreciate how special he is.
15. He is respectful
He respects you, your family, friends, and morals. People who feel respected in their relationships are far more likely to feel happy than those who don't.
16. He can slow dance with you, even if there's no music
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Honestly, it doesn't get much more romantic than that. And there's not much that makes you happier than a man who knows how to be sweet and romantic.
17. He shows you affection
He hugs you around your waist, kisses you softly on the neck, and tells you he loves you. Physical touch is deeply important in human connections, as it causes our bodies to produce oxytocin, the hormone associated with love and happiness.
18. He believes in you
He supports your ambitions and loves your flaws. He lets you know he has absolute faith in your ability to achieve whatever it is you set your mind on.
19. He is someone you can trust
He makes sure you know there is no reason for you to doubt that he is and will be faithful. He makes sure his words can be trusted, that he is consistent, and you don't have to worry about potentially being betrayed.
20. He gives you his hoodie when you're cold
Then he lets you keep it. You appreciate his generosity at the moment as you keep warm, and then later you wrap yourself and feel like he's there in your arms.
21. He writes sweet, handwritten love notes
The best love letters are the ones that come straight from the heart. He writes you a sweet message that lets you know he loves you and why. You aren't able to stop smiling.
22. He supports you when you're ready to give up
He holds you tight when you're at your weakest. He is your protector and makes you feel safe.
23. He has your back
He never let others have a negative influence on his feelings for you or on his intentions for the relationship. If someone he cares about and respects says something about you that gives him pause, he talks with you about it instead of confronting you as though he's already decided you've done something wrong.
24. He wants people to know you're together
He doesn't have to go full-out with the PDA, but he does make sure you know that he's proud of you and wants other people to know you're together and loving one another. For example, he wraps an arm around you when you're standing still. It can even be as simple as holding your hand as you walk.
25. He's willing to take the first step
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He doesn't wait for you to start everything. If you know you both want to get a new car, he does some research and shows you what he's found. If you've talked about taking up a new hobby together, he writes down a list of things he'd like to try and share with you.
You don't do it alone, because he is taking the first step to let you know he is excited to be on the journey called life with you.
26. He brings flowers for no reason at all
Not just when he's in trouble or on Valentine's Day. Like the gift-giving mentioned above, bringing you a store-bought or hand-picked bouquet is a loving gesture.
27. He gives a real massage
Foot, back, neck, shoulder, or even your whole body. The key here is to he mmakeit a real massage that lasts at least more than a few minutes. And, he expects nothing from you in return. He helps you relax, he makes you happy, and you're sure to return the favor on your own.
28. He avoids responding with 'OK'
Or any short answer that makes it sound like he isn't listening, doesn't care, or is annoyed. This is especially important when you're communicating over text, and tone can easily be misinterpreted.
29. He saves your photo as his phone background
That way, you know he is thinking of you every time he looks at his phone. And you also know that anyone else who sees his phone knows about you.
30. He makes you laugh
Laughter is his way to win you over, especially if it's been a long time since you've last let one go wild. There's nothing better than the pride he feels after making you laugh. He makes harmless jokes to make you laugh.
He tailors his sense of humor to what makes you giggle.
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