If A Woman Has These 11 High Value Habits You’ve Found A Rare Kind Of Partner
A woman is a special partner to have if she does these things on a regular basis.
Josep Suria / Shutterstock Finding a partner with high-value traits can be difficult. When it comes to landing the perfect partner, men put a lot of pressure on themselves. They want to make sure the person they’re settling down with checks every box, because sometimes they struggle with commitment. With the fear that comes with ending their bachelor lifestyle, they want to find a woman with high-value habits that make her the rare kind of partner who sees them as a priority and never tries to control them.
“All of us are faced with two conflicting urges: to merge and become one vs. being independent and free. When a man and woman fall in love and come together, it is normal and common to have fears come up about losing one’s separate sense of self, one’s space, one’s own identity, and unique pursuits and interests,” says Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. When they can push back these fears, a high-value woman with these incredible traits makes it easier to settle down. These women can make it feel like they were meant to be, which can settle anyone’s nerves.
If a woman has these 11 high value habits you’ve found a rare kind of partner
1. She takes responsibility for herself and her actions
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Behaving responsibly is a high-value habit anyone should appreciate in a potential partner. When you can count on a woman to own up to her decisions and hold up her side of an agreement, you know you have found a rare partner. A woman like this will never blame the man in her life for how she handles her emotions. She takes responsibility for how she feels, holding herself accountable when needed.
She will never try to make her partner feel guilty for the things he cannot control in her life. That means that when she is struggling for reasons that exist internally, she won’t try to blame him. Being in tune with herself, she can regulate her emotions and take accountability when needed. She is a rare woman to have in your life. She is also financially responsible, keeping her personal spending reasonable. You can always count on her to put thought into any decision before she makes it.
2. She’s always growing
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Men who fear commitment can be worried that the woman they choose to settle down with will stay stagnant. It can be scary to build a life with someone who may not be interested in taking the same steps towards growth that you are. That’s why a partner that doesn’t fear growth can be so special. The relationship will continue to bloom as each partner works on self-improvement.
The idea that a woman is always seeking growth, either in her career or her personal life, is attractive to most men.
“Personal growth does mean different things to different people, but ultimately, think of it as your end goal. I should add it’s an end goal that is always a moving target and frankly shouldn’t be an end. Active growth adds meaning to your life. Why would you want that to stop? You don’t. Besides, when you increase your self-awareness, given a choice, it’s unlikely you’ll go back to a life of dissatisfaction,” writes Danielle A. Vann, a life coach. A woman who follows this mindset is a rare kind of partner.
3. She respects boundaries
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Everyone needs to set boundaries to protect themselves. Even the most trusting couples need to establish lines that can’t be crossed. When a woman is respectful of boundaries, it can make a man feel comfortable. He knows that finding someone who values his boundaries makes for a rare partner.
Not only does she respect boundaries, but she is good at setting her own. She will clearly communicate her wants and needs in a relationship. She will always hold herself and her partner accountable with their boundaries. It makes forming a healthy relationship easy.
4. She is thoughtful
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All of us have dealt with a partner who lacks thoughtfulness. It feels like they are only in the relationship for themselves. They don’t go out of their way to make the other person feel cared about. This can be a major red flag. However, a thoughtful partner is of high value. They will always go out of their way to make their significant other feel loved.
“Remember back to when you were first dating and how you did little things for each other? How did it make you feel? Isn’t that part of the reason you are with your current partner? All I’m suggesting is that you continue doing those things long after you have both checked into your retirement villa,” says Barton Goldsmith, Ph.D, for Psychology Today. “Doing nice things for no reason is such a healer, and it promotes a lot more love in your life. If someone does something nice for you, you are more likely to return the favor. I’m not talking about buying Super Bowl tickets or diamond tennis bracelets. It’s all about the little things, like leaving love notes, lending a helping hand, or dancing in the living room when nobody’s watching. These are the things that make the difference between a relationship that’s nurturing and one that’s falling apart.”
5. She is a good communicator
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Practicing strong communication skills is a highly valued habit. To have a relationship with a firm foundation, you need to talk easily with one another. Needs need to be communicated clearly. Each partner should be able to speak in a way that allows them both to be heard. When someone isn’t a good communicator, it can make relationships difficult.
Women who are comfortable having tough conversations make for rare partners. They never go to bed angry. These women want to make sure each partner is happy and heard. Good communication skills go a long way. They can prevent arguments from turning into full-on fights. This type of woman is special.
6. She’s never controlling
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Having a controlling partner can be scary. Feeling like you’re losing your independence to a partner can be overwhelming. When a woman has the high-value habit of being sure not to make her partner's decisions for him, she can be a rare kind of partner.
“Men are socialized to see themselves, and frequently look for ways to prove to others that they are independent to the point of being self-reliant, that they don’t need help from anybody, that they are their own man and not influenced by others,” says Avrum G. Weiss. “If you ask any man if he is afraid of being controlled by his partner, he will, of course, adamantly deny it. He might tell you that he is angry about her attempts to control him, but scared is probably not a word that comes readily to his mind, and certainly not the word he would use to describe himself to anyone else.”
7. She maintains her independence
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Having an independent partner makes a big difference. It’s important for each partner to have their own lives. Of course, they need to be able to come together and do things with one another. However, having a partner who has her own friends and hobbies can allow personal growth. She is not always glued to her partner. She is doing things that she wants to do.
When a couple spends all of their time together and absorbs each other's interests, it can become overwhelming. One may feel like they are losing themselves to their partner. Women who can step away from their spouses to nourish their own interests make for rare partners. Some time apart is important.
8. She respects herself and others
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Making sure to act respectfully is a high-value habit. When a woman stands firm in herself, it prevents her from being caught up in things that don’t matter. She knows who she is, and she wants to stay true to herself. She won’t get dragged into unhealthy situations. This is attractive in a partner because she can stay clear-headed and proud of herself.
She also has a strong respect for others. As a firm believer in self-respect, she values giving it to others. She’s never going to be rude or offensive. She may have issues with her partner, but she will always approach them in a kind and productive manner. Those who respect themselves make for wonderful partners.
9. She stays positive
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Positivity can go a long way. Women who are confident and uplifting in their relationships are special. No one wants to be in a relationship with someone who is constantly negative. When your partner views everything as an issue, life together can be difficult.
“If you tend to have a negative outlook, don't expect to become an optimist overnight. But with practice, eventually your self-talk will contain less self-criticism and more self-acceptance. You may also become less critical of the world around you,” says the Mayo Clinic. “When your state of mind is generally optimistic, you're better able to handle everyday stress in a more constructive way. That ability may contribute to the widely observed health benefits of positive thinking.”
10. She has integrity
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There is something special about a woman who has a strong sense of integrity. She knows who she is, and she stands by her beliefs. She values good traits and fosters them within herself. She wants to be a good person and acts on that goal every day. She has a strong sense of self, never changing to please others. These women make for the best partners.
Integrity helps build a strong foundation in a relationship. Trust comes more easily with someone who is strong in their beliefs. They never waver in their morals. When you settle down with them, you know exactly who they are. While they are constantly growing, they are simply bettering themselves, not changing completely. They will never set out to do someone wrong. They are kind, giving people.
11. She loves deeply
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Women who love deeply are special. They can be one-of-a-kind partners. They will always prioritize the happiness of their loved ones. They are special in the way that they care for themselves and others in their lives.
“Deep love is attempting to understand the things another person’s mind thinks and your mind doesn’t; it’s being inspired by them. It’s wondering how you found someone whose differences compliment yours. Because differences are normally things that tear people apart, but in deep love, your differences bring you closer together,” says Nicole Tarkoff for Thought Catalog. “It’s like the things you both find unfamiliar about each other somehow mould together and form this beautiful little mess, and that mess somehow fits perfectly between the cracks inside your heart you never knew how to fill. Deep love fills those cracks without making you forget that they exist. Deep love allows you to remember the past and how hard it might’ve been, and then it allows you to feel grateful for what you have now. Deep love makes you feel lucky for finding it.”
Haley Van Horn is a freelance writer with a master’s degree in Humanities, living in Los Angeles. Her focus includes entertainment and lifestyle stories.
