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10 Tips To Take Missionary Position From 'Meh' To OMG

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Who says missionary style sex has to be boring?

Sick of the same old, same old routine in your boring sex life?

You don't have to get crazy trying new kinky sex ideas with your partner in order to change things up and learn how to have great sex again. By adding a little more spice into your usual routine, even old favorites like the missionary sex position can be thrilling!

The missionary position is a classic for good reason. It's one of the most comfortable and versatile of all sex positions for both men and women.

Still, we all know that boredom is a libido killer.

If you're in a sexual rut and find yourself having boring sex in a missionary style position all the time, it may be time to add a bit of variety to amp up the pleasure.

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You don't have to give up the missionary position to have more fun in bed.

Here are 10 experts tips on how to increase your pleasure and have amazing sex in the classic missionary position.

1. Orgasm before intercourse

Most women do not have orgasms from intercourse alone. That's why one of our Pleasure Mechanics Golden Rules of Sex is this: have orgasms before you have intercourse.

Follow this guideline and intercourse will become much more pleasurable.

Make sure your guy masters his oral sex and fingering techniques so he can bring you to orgasm before penetration. Orgasms prepare your body for pleasurable penetration, so many women find that having orgasms before intercourse makes orgasms during intercourse much more likely.

Once you've had an orgasm, you will be relaxed, aroused and ready for the pleasures of penetration. Your guy will be more confident and better able to enjoy his own experience, and you'll both be less worried about how long he lasts.

2. Maximize skin contact

One of the great things about the missionary position is that it allows for lots of skin contact.

Take advantage of this by actively rubbing your body against your lover's. Go for maximum skin contact and notice what happens. Rub your hands up and down your lover's back or your legs along their sides. Pull them close and feel your chests pressed together.

Think of yourself as starving, and the way you get fed is through your hands. Devour him with your touch.

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3. Hips don't lie

Having sex in the missionary position doesn't mean you have to lie still as he moves.

Try bending your knees, planting your feet on the mattress and moving your hips! Or, try rocking your hips back and forth, moving them in circles or in an undulating wave-like pattern. Find a way to move your hips so his movement hits your g-spot.

Most guys love it when women are more active during sex, so try not to worry about what your belly looks like. Instead, focus on what you are feeling and maximize your pleasure by moving your hips in ways that feel best to you!

4. Engage your pleasure centers

To make missionary position sex more pleasurable for you, don't ignore the center of your sexual system!

Your clitoris is the queen of your arousal. Most women need direct clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm, so don't be too shy to touch your own clitoris during sex.

Simply reach down while he penetrates you and stimulate your clitoris. If he protests, explain that touching yourself while he is inside you is a major turn-on.

You can also explore slipping a tiny vibrator in between your bodies! There are even vibrators designed to be worn during intercourse.

Vibrators can add a buzz for both of you, so get your guy on board with bringing toys into bed. Talk about it as an enhancement to, not a replacement for, his touch.

5. Deepen intimacy with eye gazing

Another benefit of the missionary position is the ability to look at your lover's face.

Try this next tip only if you want to get more intimate with your lover (this is not a trick for one night stands!): Ask him ahead of time to experiment with holding eye contact during his orgasm. Look in one another’s eyes all throughout sex, but as he gets closer to climax, lock in eye contact and don't look away.

Looking each other in the eyes as one (or both) of you have an orgasm is incredibly intense. You may find yourself flooded with emotions. You may even cry.

Be prepared for a profound emotional experience.

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6. Get naughty

Missionary position sex can be far from boring if you bring in some "bad girl sex" tricks!

Try simple bondage and invite your lover to be more dominant. Simple cuffs designed for erotic bondage are the safest option for exploring the pleasures of being all tied up.

Only try this strategy if you trust your lover to keep your pleasure in mind as he gets more rough. Set clear boundaries about what will and will not happen, and then try to surrender and let him have his way with you!

Turn it up a notch by wearing a blindfold. Without the ability to move your arms or see what is happening, every tiny touch will feel intense and you’ll soon be suspended in erotic sensation.

7. Get rough

He's not the only one who can be a little rough during missionary position sex! Just because you are on your back doesn't mean you have to be passive.

Get feisty and experiment with being a little rough.

Scratch his back lightly at first and as his arousal builds scratch him even harder. You can also try slapping his chest or back. Start playfully and if he responds well, keep turning up the volume while paying attention to his reactions. Bite his neck and shoulders, while keeping in mind that you may leave marks!

Keep your hardest love bites below his collar line so he doesn't have to explain your sexy marks to his coworkers!

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8. Whisper into your lover's ear

Take advantage of the closeness of the missionary position by clinging to your lover's body and whispering into his ear.

What you say is up to you. You can whisper sweet things like "I love you", or get as raunchy as you want.

This is a good strategy if you are shy about talking dirty in bed. By whispering into his ear you can practice saying things that you wouldn’t normally say (it is just a whisper, after all!).

Your guy will be turned on by hearing your voice and may get sent over his edge, so proceed with caution if you want sex to last longer!

9. Explore the Coital Alignment Technique (CAT)

The Coital Alignment Technique is a technique to gain more clitoral friction while in the missionary position.

The basic technique involves the man shifting forward so his penis penetrates at a more vertical angle. The goal is rubbing the clitoris with the base of the penis and pelvic bone as he thrusts downwards.

The CAT technique is a little awkward at first, but if you can make it work you may find that intercourse becomes much more pleasurable.

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10. Breathe more to feel more

If you simply want to feel more pleasure during missionary position sex, try the most basic yet most effective sexual technique out there: breathing. The more you breathe, the more you feel.

Start by taking long, deep, relaxed breaths and pay attention to the sensations in your body. Many people report feeling more expanded pleasure, full body pleasure, streaming or tingling sensations when they breathe deeply during sex.

Once you've mastered long and slow breathing, you can try breathing more rapidly. Or, play a game and ask your lover to match the rhythm of his penetration to your breath. This little game will force him to pay close attention to your body, put you in control of the speed of penetration and allow you to feel more sensations as he moves inside you.

With these 10 strategies to play with, you have a lot to explore as you heat up missionary position sex!

Remember, adding more pleasure to your sex life should be fun, not stressful.

Integrate new techniques slowly, check in with your lover about what they like best and never hesitate to go back to your tried and true pleasures.

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The Pleasure Mechanics are a two-woman team of sex educators and touch experts (named Charlotte and Chris) dedicated to providing men, women and couples around the world with the tools and strategies they need to experience maximum sexual pleasure. Their books and videos offer time-tested strategies based on human anatomy, psychology and an understanding of the social nature of human sexuality.

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