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People With These 5 Personality Traits Know The True Meaning Of Kindness

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What Is Kindness? Men & Women With These Dominant Personality Traits Know How To Be Kind

Today, more than ever, there is a need for us all to work harder at emulating the personality traits and characteristics that foster kindness in the world.

The trauma of living in the modern world with it’s rigid bipartisan animosities, the disappearance of civility and grace, the rise of mental illnesses and the escalated reduction of personal connection because of social media makes it more important now than ever before for us all to make sure we know how to be kind.

What is kindness?

By definition, "Kindness is a behavior marked by ethical characteristics, a pleasant disposition, and concern and consideration for others. It is considered a virtue, and is recognized as a value in many cultures and religions."

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With everything that seems so terribly wrong, it is important that we are kind to the people around us, those we know and those we don’t. By acting kindly toward one another, we can make the world a little bit better of a place.

So, what qualities are markers of someone who is naturally kind?

Men and women with these 5 dominant personality traits are those who understand the meaning of kindness and truly know how to be kind.

1. Self-compassion

People who are kind are usually self-compassionate. Someone who knows how to be kind to themselves is someone who's likely to behave kindly toward others as well.

Instead of mercilessly judging and criticizing themselves for their shortcomings, people with self-compassion are kind and understanding to themselves when confronted with personal failings. They understand that they are just a person in the world, working hard to be the best person that they can be in spite of sometime insurmountable odds.

Once a person can be truly aware of the humanness of themselves they can more easily be kind to others because they know that other people have their own personal issues, needs and stories and that they deserve our compassion and kindness.

2. Resilience

People who are kind, more often than not, are people who have struggled with hardship themselves. They have gone through hell and back, and they've survived.

People who have suffered tend to be truly grateful for all they have, particularly the human connections that keep them afloat. People who have struggled are aware of the suffering of others because they have suffered themselves and are, as a result, kind to those who are currently in need.

We've all heard stories of people dealing with extreme adversity who, despite their own difficult circumstances consistently reach out to help others in need. They are well aware that were it not for the kindness of strangers, they may not have made it to where they are in the world today, and they give back every at opportunity they get.

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3. Consciousness

People who are kind are people who are consciously awake. People who are awake are living in the minute, paying attention to those around them and willing to recognize all that is good in the world.

How can someone whose head is down, focused on their phone, even notice when there is an opportunity to be kind? How can someone who is always looking ahead to what is next see when someone right in front of them could use their kindness, right now? How can we be willing to be kind if we are obsessed with things that are toxic and life sucking?

How about you? When was the last time you looked up from your phone and noticed when someone needed your kindness? Do you look out for opportunities to be kind to those in need or do you keep your head down and ignore those who might use a helping hand?

Stop. Pay attention. Be kind.

4. Generosity

People who are generous are most often so because they realize all of the gifts that they have in this world. They know how lucky they are and want to share their luck, and love, with others.

You know that person — the person who doesn’t have a lot of time to give but nevertheless spends four hours each week volunteering at the homeless shelter. That person could be using their time to watch TV or drink beer with friends, but instead they are being generous with their time so they can be kind to others.

That person knows that the best way for them to unwind is to be generous with their time in the service of others. By doing so, they feel better about themselves and make the world a better place.

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5. Gratitude

People who are kind recognize their gifts and know how they lucky they are to have the life that they have. Because they are grateful, they are able to help people who are struggling see the good in the world, recognize the gifts in their own lives and reach for the happiness they want. They have a clear picture of what contentment looks like and can guide others towards that light.

People who take their life for granted, who seek adulation and material riches, who don’t recognize how lucky they are to have what they have, are people who aren’t likely to see the good in the world. They will struggle to be kind, because for them, the world is all about what is lacking. And because of that, they will never be happy.

Every day I wake up in my beautiful house, laugh at my silly dog and celebrate having found the love of my life. I know that I am supremely lucky, and it helps me be the truly kind and compassionate person I am, personally and professionally.

So, look around. How lucky are you?

If you look around this world full of conflict and hatred and you are wondering what you can do, I would suggest that cultivating kindness would be a gift both to yourself and to those around you.

The next time you see someone struggling, step forward and reach out your hand. Recognize that while suffering may be the human condition, within it there remains hope for joy and acceptance.

Be kind to everyone you encounter and make the world a better place along the way. If you can make the difference in the life of even one person, what a gift that will be!

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Mitzi Bockmann is a NYC-based Certified Life Coach and mental health advocate whose writing has been published on The Huffington Post, Prevention, Psych Central, Pop Sugar, MSN and The Good Man Project, among others. She works all kinds of people to help them to be all that they want to be in this crazy world in which we live, so email her now to get started.

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