75 Sexy Questions To Ask Your Girlfriend (And Find Out What Turns Her On)

Verbal foreplay for the win.

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Men can all agree that there is something incredibly sexy about getting a woman aroused simply by talking dirty to her. There are so many ways to turn a girl on just by speaking! And now, thanks to technology, we can add hot sexting to that list, too.

If you're looking for the best dirty questions to ask a girl — whether you plan to whisper them when you're face-to-face or send them along in some steamy text messages to up the ante before you see each other again — you’ve got to have a game plan.


Some areas of dirty talk are generally safe to attempt, while some others are more likely to be taboo, so if you really want to know how to turn a girl on, it’s smart to have an idea of good list of sexy questions and dirty talk examples ready in advance.

Whether you’re a pro who already knows how to talk dirty or a relative newcomer who feels a little uncertain, these are skills everyone can better at with time and practice.

It never hurts to try out new flirty sex questions to ask your girlfriend or wife so you can both figure out what works and what doesn’t.

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Once you've done this, you'll know how to arouse that special woman in your life in a way that makes her feel exceptionally sexy.

Dirty talking is a great way to get you both aroused and excited for what’s to come, especially if you’re planning on taking it slow and including plenty of other foreplay ideas and sex games into the mix.

After all, scientific research has found that people who communicate better are more likely to having a satisfying sex life!

Important disclaimer: While some guys might use these questions to flirt with a girl they’ve just met, that's not always advisable. Women often feel offended (that's a little too much, too soon, buddy!) rather than aroused. It's best to save these kind of naughty questions for a woman who's solidly in your life.


For guys who want to turn a girl on, here are the best dirty questions to ask a girl in order to get her in a hot and heavy mindset for sex.

Sexy Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend

1. What do you wear when you go to bed?

This is always a good question to start with since it gets her thinking about the bedroom and often leads to questions about sexy lingerie and flirty pajamas. Ask her about any sexy nightgowns she likes to wear, and whether or not she sleeps in the nude.

2. What is your sexiest outfit?

Find out what she thinks she looks sexiest wearing. You might be surprised!

Sometimes, long-term couples learn a little more about each other's sexual fantasies by asking this innocent question. For some it's the perfect opportunity to tell their partners about a sexy new outfit they've been wanting to try on.


3. Have you ever accidentally (or purposely) watched another couple make out?

This is the perfect question to ask to slowly give your line of questioning more sexual overtones. Since you're inquiring about the sexual activities of other people, she's more likely to continue to relax and play along with your line of sensual questioning.

4. Have you ever decided to kiss or make out with a guy just because you were horny?

Men often stereotype women, believing that women don't get the same primal sexual urges that men do. Newsflash: Women also experience sudden bursts of sexual desire and feel no shame about acting on them.

Getting her to open up about a wild makeout fling not only gives her a chance to brag, but it's the perfect opportunity to let her know that you wouldn't mind if she made out with you.

5. If you could see any part of a man's body first, which part would it be?

Try and encourage her to name something other than the standard answers that include his eyes. Encourage her to pick any part of his anatomy. Have fun discussing why she chose this particular part of a man's body and why this turns her on.


6. What's your secret move to turn a guy on?

Be sure to make her describe this move in detail and ask suggestive questions about it yourself. The more she talks about performing a specific sexual act, the more aroused she is likely to become.

7. Where is the one place on your body that always gets you in the mood?

Not only will this question let you know her sexual preferences, it will also cause her to visualize them. As she is describing her stimulating zone, chances are she is also thinking about it. This question helps to get her aroused and can also improve your technique with her in the bedroom.

8. Do you get aroused from receiving a massage?

Some women find it easy to become sexually aroused during a massage and others find it extremely difficult. However she feels about this, you can help her become aroused just by describing how a massage given by you will feel.

9. Do you want me to kiss you?

Any questions involving kissing almost always have a woman picturing physical intimacy with her partner. By having her describe some of your more passionate kisses, she can visualize the romantic encounter between you and become aroused hoping that it happens again.


10. Do you enjoy oral sex?

No matter what answer she gives, you already have her thinking about sexual intercourse.

11. Would I look better with body hair or completely shaved?

While this question will not garner a lot of discussion, it will have her picturing you naked and aroused.

12. What can I do to help you become aroused? (Or, more casually: What can I do to turn you on?)

This question will make her appreciate much more, and it's also a good way for you to learn what she truly enjoys.

13. Are these questions arousing you?

If the questions haven't gotten her aroused, then this is the perfect opportunity for you to begin describing everything sexual you would like to do to her. Once she has this visual in her head, she is sure to become turned on.


14. May I kiss you now?

Although very subtle, this question lets her know that you're craving her presence.

15. Would you like me to touch you now?

By the time you ask her these last two questions, hopefully she'll feel sexually aroused and be waiting for you to satisfy her to the best of your ability.

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Sexually Intimate Questions To Find Out What Turns Her On

16. Which parts of your body do you like to have kissed?

17. Where's the craziest place you've ever had sex?

18. Do you enjoy wearing lingerie?

19. Do you like making eye contact during sex?

20. How do you feel about PDA?

21. Have you ever incorporated food into sex?


22. How long do you like to have sex for?

23. Do you enjoy quickies?

24. What are your favorite positions?

25. Do you like erotic massages?

26. What's the kinkiest thing you've ever tried?

27. Have you ever tried anal sex?

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Flirty Sex Questions

28. Do you like to snuggle?

29. What is your guilty pleasure?

30. Have you ever kissed a stranger?

31. What was the sexiest dream you've ever had?

32. Have you ever given a hickey?

33. Have you ever pictured me naked?

34. What songs does your ideal sex playlist include?

35. What age did you lose your virginity?

36. What is your secret fantasy?

37. What kind of underwear do you have on right now?


38. Have you ever been in a friends with benefits situation?

39. What is the sexiest outfit you own?

40. Have you ever had sex in the shower?

41. Have you ever gotten caught having sex?

42. Do you ever sleep naked?

43. Do you shave down below?

44. What is your favorite part on a man's body?

45. Have you ever had sex with an older man?

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Dirty Sex Questions to Turn You Both On

46. What is the best way to get you to orgasm?

47. Would it be a turn on to watch porn together?

48. What do you think about during masturbation?

49. What do you taste like?

50. When is your favorite time of day to have sex?


51. What is your favorite thing about your nude body?

52. Have you ever fantasized about having sex with your professor?

53. What is your favorite oral sex technique?


54. Do you remember your first orgasm?

55. Would you ever touch yourself in front of strangers?

56. Have you ever had a naughty dream about a close friend?

57. What is the naughtiest text you've ever sent?

58. Do you like dirty talk?

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Questions to Ask About Her Sexual Limits

59. Are you dominant or submissive in bed?

60. Do you enjoy biting or being bitten?

61. Do you enjoy being spanked or flogged?

62. Do you enjoy having your hair pulled?

63. Do you like being tied up?

64. Would you ever try bondage?

65. Would you let your partner take nude photos of you?

66. Do you enjoy incorporating sex toys during sex?


67. Have you ever watched people have sex?

68. Would you ever try swinging?

69. Would you ever participate in a threesome?

70. Would you ever have sex in public?

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Donna Begg is an expert editor, mentor, analyst, and researcher.