7 Oral Sex Tips That Make A Woman Orgasm When You Go Down On Her

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7 Best Oral Sex Tips On How To Perform Cunnilingus & Make A Woman Orgasm By Going Down On Her

Women love when you go down on them, and here's how to get it right.

Recently, a friend posed a question: What would you do if man refused to perform oral sex or go down on a woman he was dating?

I posted a poll asking the women I know, and the results were interesting:

  • 10 percent swore they would leave.
  • 30 percent would wonder if something was wrong with them or their partner.
  • 47 percent would try to get to the root of the problem by discussing it directly.

Only about 13 percent said they could live without it, despite consistent misconceptions and myths that women don't care as much about receiving oral sex as men do. In fact, performing oral sex on a woman is one of the surest ways to give her the most intense orgasms of her life!

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That means, according to my little survey, almost 90 percent of women consider a lack of oral sex to be a big problem, so I’m bringing it up before your partner does.

Guys, whatever your reasons may be for not going down on a woman, it’s time to give it another try.

Here are 7 oral sex tips on how to give a woman intense orgasms by performing cunnilingus like a pro while going down on her:

Tip #1: Spread the love

She loves it when you focus your attention on the clit. However, if you focus all your attention on one spot, it gets super sensitive bordering on painful.

Mix it up! Use your entire tongue. Make it flat. Make it pointy. Make it soft. Make it rigid.

The clitoris has 8,000 nerve endings, and you can stimulate them all!

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Tip #2: Start off slow

This is not fast food. This is a gourmet restaurant and she wants you to savor every moment.

Kiss and nibble her inner thighs, use your lips or your breath on her labia. She feels every little nuance, and it all feels very, very good.

Tip #3: Skip the porn tricks

Guys, she is a regular, everyday woman. She is not a porn star. Plus, she can tell when you’re using Howard Stern’s alphabet technique (I know you can be more creative than that!).

Rather than trying something you saw or heard about from your guy friends, keep it simple. Try swirling your tongue around her clitoris in small circles, clockwise and then counter-clockwise. You’ll find the right spot, guaranteed.


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Tip #4: Forget the game plan

If you come to the bedroom with a super specific end goal, say giving her a squirting orgasm, it can be a turn-off. The moment it becomes goal-oriented rather than pleasure-oriented, she loses interest. Plus, she’ll feel like something is wrong with her if you try really hard and she just can’t get there.

If you want her to be comfortable with squirting, try not to focus on it too much. She wants to get lost in the moment, not feel like you are trying to turn her into your favorite webcam girl.

Tip #5: Remember the golden rule

Think of all of the things you love when she goes down on you. Do you love gentle sucking? Nibbling? Light teeth? Deep suction? Great! Maybe she does, too!

Gently try those techniques on her clitoris. After all, it is essentially a small penis with double the nerve endings.

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Tip #6: Don't forget your fingers!

Once she is good and warmed up, get in there with your fingers! Many women enjoy one or two fingers inside their vagina while you kiss and suck on their clitoris. You may find her thrashing around in your bed from a blended orgasm when you try this technique.

Just be sure your fingers are very clean and that you have filed down any rough nail edges (see tip number two — she feels everything down there).

Tip #7: Get into it!

If she senses you're feeling the least bit obligated or bored, she will shut down.

Please be aware of how vulnerable she may feel lying there with her legs spread and try to be very complimentary and enthusiastic.

I promise it will pay off.

That little extra effort can turn a self-conscious woman into the lusty, naughty woman you’ve always wanted.

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Chrystal Bougon is a sex toy expert and owner of Curvy Girl Lingerie, whose passion is for making babes size 12 to size 28/30 feel relevant, beautiful and sexy.