If You Wonder If A Guy Really Loves You, There's A Big Problem That You Can Fix

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What To Fix Within Yourself If You're Asking "Does He Love Me?"
Love, Heartbreak

4 steps for creating a powerful shift that will never again leave you wondering.

Nothing is more upsetting than putting your heart, body, and soul into a relationship only to feel like all your love is just going one way.

As far as you're concerned this man you've been dedicated to is your soulmate, yet there is always an uneasiness lingering in your mind: "Does he love me?"

Overcoming this heart-aching feeling really comes down to a major shift in your consciousness about how you give and receive love. Honestly ask yourself, "Am I ready and willing to have the love I really want now?"

If up to this point you have been investing your heart so deeply in this relationship that leaves you questioning time and time again, then what benefit are you still getting by pouring all your love into someone without him mirroring it back to you?

If you are ready to shift the way you view this relationship forever, then read on.

There are 4 areas you must take an honest look at:

1. What kind of love do you really want to have and share in a partnership now?

Are you really ready for a love that you don't ever have to question? "To acquire love, fill yourself up with it until you become a magnet," said Charles Haanel.

It's necessary to become as clear as possible about what soulmate love looks and feels like for you. How committed are you to each other? How do you treat each other day in and day out? How often do you see each other? Are you living together or married?

The clearer you are about this, the clearer it will be for a partner as well.

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2. How much do you love and truly value yourself?

Are you ready to be with a man who, every single day, expresses how much he loves you by telling you and showing it with his actions?

In an ongoing relationship, you are treated exactly the way you allow him to treat you. Otherwise, you would have left long ago, right? Put another way, you are treated the way that you believe you should be treated.

If you are seeking love from someone else before fully living from a place of self-love and value, then you can never fully feel loved. Your partner will reflect that "less than" love.

"You don't attract what you want. You attract what you are," said. Dr. Wayne Dyer.

Love is an action and a feeling that must be practiced and, in some cases if this wasn't modeled in our childhood, learned in order to recognize it when we experience it.

3. Are you willing to hold out for the love you really want, even if that means it's with someone else?

Are you okay with it being someone else other than this person? To quote, Marilyn Monroe, "Sometimes things fall apart so that better things can fall together."

Once you become fully steeped in your self-worth and value then the next logical step is re-evaluating this relationship. If your love is not being returned, then are you willing to hold out for something that is more in alignment with you?

Not an easy decision, of course, but when you are clear on the qualities of the relationship you really want and know that you are loved and worthy of that, it becomes a lot easier to allow yourself to be available to that love because now you believe it can really happen.

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4. Do you trust in the divine timing and order of your life?

Do you have the patience for love to come to you in the highest and best way? Poet Rumi said, "Patience is not sitting and waiting, it is foreseeing. It is looking at the thorn and seeing the rose, looking at the night and seeing the day. Lovers are patient and know that the moon needs time to become full."

If this man doesn't see your worth, then allow the Universe to present you someone that does. Hold out for your soulmate. Be available for him. This takes a small yet mighty leap of faith but at this point, it's hopefully unthinkable for you to settle for someone that can't express love to you.

Continue to meditate or journal on these 4 powerful steps. Re-visit them everyday, first thing in the morning and right before you sleep at night when your mind is most receptive. Even more often if you find yourself ever having doubts.

Feel and witness the shift in consciousness taking place within you. It may happen quickly or it may take time, but never again will you be plagued by the ongoing question, "Does he love me?"

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Dina Robison is a soulmate attraction coach and creator of the Deliberately Attract Your Soul Mate program. Begin attracting your soulmate today with a free audio "6 Ways To Begin Deliberately Attracting Your Soul Mate Now."