Photo: getty
They protect their heart at all costs.
By Christine Schoenwald — Written on Feb 18, 2020
When you become emotionally invested in someone, you’re gambling with your feelings. You have no way of knowing how they’re feeling or if they’ll break your heart down the line. You take a chance when you let your walls down.
If you’re someone who has been hurt one too many times, you’re not going to willingly put yourself at risk again. You’re going to guard yourself, and when you sense that you’re getting too close or being too vulnerable, you’re going to pull back or put up walls.
In astrology, there are some zodiac signs who avoid becoming emotionally invested in an effort to protect themselves and not get hurt.
No one likes getting hurt, so why would you take certain actions if you knew the outcome might be devastating? You wouldn’t — you try to not get involved or develop any feelings for the person.
When you’re emotionally invested, it makes it easy to forget the past and how you suffered. Then, when you finally come to your senses you find yourself in a dangerous position. It’s much safer for your emotional state to not get involved and to keep your distance.
1. Aquarius (January 20 - February 18)
Aquarius is well-practiced in keeping an emotional distance. The more detached they are, the less the possibility of getting hurt. Sometimes it may seem as if they're detached without any cause, but there's usually a reason behind their aloofness — and that's to avoid getting hurt.
They enjoy people but it's better for them if they keep themselves from getting too attached or invested. They may appear to be indifferent, but that's just a smokescreen.
2. Sagittarius (November 22 - December 21)
Sagittarius would prefer to keep things light and easy. They've been hurt too many times, and they don't want to have to go through the pain and anguish of another heartbreak.
To avoid becoming emotionally invested, Sagittarius changes things like their location. If you know you're going to be leaving soon, it's much easier to not get too attached. The problem is that Sagittarius aren't indifferent — they care very much, but it's easier if they ignore their emotions and just move on.
3. Virgo (August 23 - September 22)
For Virgos, not getting emotionally invested is a defense mechanism. If they don't care, they lessen the danger of getting hurt. Virgos will be honest about where they are and they'll tell you they just can't get attached right now. But perhaps in the future.
Right now, Virgo needs to recover from the last painful emotional situation they were a part of and do some healing. They're not going to sugarcoat the truth or give anyone false hope.
4. Libra (September 23 - October 22)
Avoiding becoming emotionally invested is a definite Libra move. They don't want to get hurt and have to recover from any kind of emotional pain, so they're going to keep things on a very surface level — no deep emotional dives for them.
Libras don't want any trouble, they don't want to piss anyone off, and they don't want to invite any heartbreak. They'd rather be detached and safe than fully invested and in a lot of pain. If love was fair, maybe Libra wouldn't hide behind an emotional wall.
5. Gemini (May 21 - June 20)
When you become emotionally invested, you care; when things go wrong, it's difficult to remove your emotions from the situation. Caring leads to a whole world of pain, and Gemini isn't down for that. They'd rather avoid getting attached, choosing instead to ignore their own feelings and wait for them to go away.
If Gemini feels as if someone is too interested in them and Gemini isn't sure of them, they may end a relationship before it even starts. They may come up with a list of why it wouldn't work, but the truth is, Gemini doesn't want to get hurt.
6. Aries (March 21 - April 19)
Aries avoid getting emotionally attached by distracting themselves and filling up their schedule. They can't get hurt if no one has time enough to hurt them. Aries make themselves too busy to care, but it's not like this works that well.
Aries still has those few minutes when it's just them alone with their thoughts when they think of what could have been, but then they remember that while they may miss out on the positives of being emotionally invested, they also miss out on the pain.
Christine Schoenwald is a writer, performer, and astrology lover. She has written over 500 articles on the zodiac signs and how the stars influence us. She's had articles in The Los Angeles Times, Salon, and Woman's Day. Visit her website or and her Instagram.