How To Get Your Ex Back, According To His Zodiac Sign
Show him what he's been missing.
Do you want to win your ex back after a breakup? Learning about his zodiac sign using astrology can help you to understand how to win him back and keep him, especially if you loved each other but didn't know how to show it in healthy ways.
You might be able to if you find out what went wrong first. Some zodiac signs are meant to be together. So, when they break up, one or both partners will try to win get back together again.
Some relationships pull you in so much that when they end, it breaks your heart and you don’t know what to do with yourself anymore.
All you can think about are the good times you had together with that one special person, and when you still have feelings for someone after you break up with them, there can be that question of, “why did we break up in the first place?” in your thoughts every time you think of them.
But relationships end for a reason and sometimes, it’s possible to get back together with that person you found so special, as long as you play your cards right.
If you’ve ever wanted to know how to get him back, you’ve come to the right place.
First, it’s important to ask yourself if you really do want to get back with him or if you’re just missing dating anyone, not necessarily that certain someone.
When you’ve been single for so long, or with the wrong person for so long, you can latch onto the memory of someone else you used to date when you were happier that might trick you into thinking you miss that person.
Of course, there are those people we date that we never really get over, not completely, and we sometimes wish we could win them back. But winning him back isn’t entirely about what you want; it’s also about what he wants.
There was a reason (or more than one reason) why you broke up in the first place, which is something you will most definitely need to acknowledge head-on. If he thinks you’re just messing with him and that you don’t really care about what happened between you two in the first place.
Sorry to say it girl, but he isn’t going to give you the time of day.
If you show him that you really do want to make an effort with him, though, then he’ll be more inclined to listen to you. Just think about how YOU would want your ex to approach the situation if he were trying to win you back.
Winning someone back shouldn’t be a selfish task; it’s supposed to be a mutual respect for one another, taking into account that things may have already changed between you two and that the past can’t be changed, but it can be improved upon.
And all men are different, obviously. So just because you would want him to shower you in “I’m sorry’s” and kisses doesn’t mean he feels the same. And it also doesn’t mean that one tactic works for all of your exes – if you were to try to get all of them back at one point or another.
But based on his zodiac sign, it’s easier to know what would work for him and what wouldn’t. Some signs would much rather you be honest and upfront about not letting the past define the two of you, while others want someone to show proof that they’ve changed.
But astrology isn’t the only thing that should be used when trying to win him back.
You should also think about the person you know him as, not just his star sign. But as you try to make an effort to patch things up, use this as your horoscope guide to how to win him back, based on HIS zodiac sign.
ARIES (Mar 21 - Apr 19)
When you’re trying to win an Aries back, you need to adapt to his strong personality. He already knows what it’s like with you in his life, so there’s no need to convince him that you’re a catch. Instead, subtlety is going to be your best friend until he really does realize you’re the one for him. If you keep things light and friendly, it’ll make him think it was his idea to get back together all along.
Don’t forget that he already knows what dating you is like. So, it’s important to remind him of that at certain times when it matters most: when he first wakes up and when he’s about to go to bed. Snapchat him, tag him on Instagram, or text him, but however you do it, make sure that you’re the first person he thinks of in the morning and at night. It’ll keep you on his mind ALL day.
TAURUS (Apr 20 - May 20)
When dating a Taurus, it’s important to be heart eyes for him all the time. He’s a big believer in public (and private) displays of affection, which he enjoys sharing with friends and romantic partners. Of course, you might not be able to get away with kissing him or holding his hand until you DO win him back, but you can still show him what he’s missing without you by his side.
To do this, you need to be extra sweet and kind to him. You don’t have to bend over backward and make him think you’re trying too hard, but you should make a serious effort. Treating him to a smoothie, volunteering to drive to the movies, or helping his mom around the house are all ways that can remind him that you were an important part of his life before and can be again.
GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
Look, we’ve ALL had our share of bad breakups — that’s how life works sometimes, right? And when you’re trying to win back Gemini, these bad moments in your own break up will most likely crop up. He feels like he doesn’t want to make the same mistake twice, but what he forgets is that there were good times, too. But if you want him back, you have to take the bad with the good.
The most important thing is to be open and honest with him. He isn’t going to care one bit if you try to skirt around why the break up was so bad in the first place. If you can lay all of your cards on the table for him and tell him that you really do care about him still, it just might work. If there’s any reason for him to suspect that you’re messing with him or lying, he’ll never give you the time of day again.
CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
Cancer loves being in a relationship, but it can sometimes feel like he has certain rules and preferences that he never actually shares with you — which is probably why your relationship failed in the first place. He’s a very affectionate person who loves spending time with you, but what’s also incredibly important to him are his friends.
If you want to win him back, you need to get close to his friends and make sure they know you aren’t going to isolate him again. Even if you weren’t doing that in the first place, friends ALWAYS have an opinion of significant others. They might feel like you want to take him away from them, but if you try to “bro down” with them a few times, they’ll be more inclined to give him the nod of approval.
LEO (July 23 - Aug 22)
Any Leo knows that relationships are best when they’re full of fun and unexpected things. Whether that’s a lavish dinner for two or a weekend getaway, he’s most attracted to you when you are your most spontaneous self. He wants to be wowed and excited in his relationship, whether that’s a new one or a second go with you.
Your best bet to win him back is to be totally unexpected and bold. Take him on a crazy date you can remember for years or treat him to concert tickets for one of his favorite bands. Remember that you can still do all of these things with him as friends, but there will be that underlying question about how he wants to pursue this relationship (again) in the back of his mind.
VIRGO (Aug 23 - Sep 22)
After a breakup, Virgo always has mixed feelings. He still wants to be your friend, but he also knows how awkward it is to try to act cool after cutting out the romance part of your relationship. This might make it hard for him to open up to you at first, but there are ways to get around his weird exterior and back into his heart.
The biggest advantage on your side when trying to win him back is that the two of you are friends. Even if the breakup was pretty nasty, he can’t deny that your relationship was still built on a strong foundation of friendship. So even though you might not be romantically involved (yet), you can still be there for him as a fierce friend. Then, it’s only a matter of time before he realizes that he wants to get back to making out again.
LIBRA (Sept 23 - Oct 22)
Libra uses his head a LOT when it comes to deciding if he wants to let people who have hurt him back into his life. He also has a ton of terms and conditions when it comes to romantic relationships, which can make winning him back really tough. But even though it might seem like he isn’t interested at all in getting back with you on the outside, he’s still doing a lot of negotiating in his head.
If you want to win him back, you need to hit him with all the facts and smart words you can think of. If he feels like you’re just begging him or using him, he won’t be interested at all in what you have to say. But if you give him proof (tangible or otherwise) that your relationship was successful and happy when it was at its best, he won’t be able to resist. Libra just loves his indisputable facts!
SCORPIO (Oct 23 - Nov 21)
Scorpio can pick up hints from a mile away, so if you show up at his door out of the blue like your breakup didn’t happen, he isn’t going to believe you just want to be friends. Instead, you need to remain unassuming and casual — no matter what it takes. If you’re serious about winning him back, you need to play the game.
This might mean telling him that you’re not totally over him yet, but keeping the other part quiet for now (that you want to win him back). You NEVER want to lie to him and tell him getting back together is farthest from the truth because he’ll most definitely call you out. Instead, tell him that while you enjoyed dating him, you really just want to get back to being friends again. He’ll appreciate your honesty and directness.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov 22 - Dec 19)
Sagittarius might be a pretty laid-back person to his friends and family, but when it comes to relationships, he tries really hard for things to be perfect. And when something like a nasty breakup happens, he feels like a total failure for even trying in the first place. So when you decide that you want to win him back, you need to be his Superman — or Wonder Woman — that will make the stress go away.
He might not ever say it, but Sagittarius really wants you to be a problem solver. Because he tries so hard to make things perfect for you, he wants you to be the one to tell him you’re in this together. He might have forgotten that when you were together, but now that he sees you’re still amazing at handling your stuff on your own, he’ll realize he doesn’t have to worry about you when you’re together — you’ve GOT this.
CAPRICORN (Dec 20 - Jan 19)
It’s easy to want to cut off all communication after you break up with someone, but just because that’s one of the first things Capricorn did when he broke up with you doesn’t mean he still doesn’t care. If you notice, he still hasn’t unfriended you on social media because he wants you to think he’s way too busy to bother… but we all know the truth.
In reality, what he wants most from you is how you’ll best win him back. You need to make an effort to keep in touch, even if it hurts. Don’t go out of your way to do so (he’ll know you’re trying too hard), but prove to him that you still care about your friendship with him, even if you’re not dating. Ask him questions about family and friends, and let him pry into your life — it’s his way of feeling out a potential relationship reboot.
AQUARIUS (Jan 20 - Feb 18)
You know as well as everyone else that Aquarius and serious relationships can be VERY rocky if not done correctly. He feels like he’s going out on a limb when making it official with you, so when you break up with each other, he feels like he’s gone against everything he likes about himself – solitude, moodiness, and being “just friends” with benefits.
Tread carefully as you try to win him back, but remember that it isn’t impossible. Really, what Aquarius wants is a really awesome friend that he can open up to and have a good time with. So your best bet is to get creative and FUN.
Surprise him with exciting plans for the weekend and he’ll be eating out of the palm of your hand. He remembers you were fun when you were dating, but THIS fun? Man, he must really be missing out.
PISCES (Feb 19 - Mar 20)
Pisces knows how to get in touch with his emotions, but everyone acts a little funny after a breakup. He doesn’t want to admit that he’s probably not over you yet, but he also doesn’t want to be the first one to crack. So how DO you win him back? Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable around him, but make sure that however you do this that you’re being 100% genuine.
He wants to see your true feelings, not something you’ve made up just to fool him into getting back together with you. You don’t have to cry (but he might), but be honest and make your much-needed talk about where you two stand to be real and raw.
He doesn’t want you to feel embarrassed by this outpouring of emotions, but he does appreciate that you care about him enough to try again — for real this time.
Emily Ratay is a full-time writer living in Pittsburgh. She's passionate about the environment and feminism, and knows that anything is possible in the right pair of shoes. She plans on writing a book in the future.