11 Ways Good People Create Their Own Blessings Without Even Trying
Truly good people have a way of showing up for others in the same way they'd want others to show up for them.
ShotPrime Studio / Shutterstock Some people in this world don't have to try too hard when it comes to good things happening to them. They have a kind of quiet magic about them, leading with integrity, kindness, and compassion. These people often don't realize how their kindhearted nature helps them create their blessings for themselves and others without even trying.
When you're someone who moves through the world with a pure heart and good intentions, you're able to establish a foundation where blessings simply find you, continually making your life better and better. Good people don't do things for karma points or to prove anything. They do what they do because of who they are and how they choose to show up for the people. Chances are, if you recognize these patterns, you're someone who gets to enjoy the fruits of your life without very much labor.
Here are 11 ways good people create their own blessings without even trying
1. They show kindness without expecting anything in return
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One of the ways that good people are able to attract blessings is by having genuine kindness for others. They lend a hand when someone needs it, offer a compliment, and go out of their way to help those who may be struggling. Their kindness isn't rooted in trying to prove things to other people either, but rather treating others in the way that they would want to be treated.
"Think about the power that a kind gesture, a kind hand, a kind word, or a listening ear can have on someone in a moment when they feel like their world is crumbling. Think about the way that it can make an already-good day that much better. Now think about the positive impact on the giver’s physical and mental health. The power of kindness is remarkable," explained wellness scholar Robyne Hanley-Dafoe.
These small moments end up reaping rewards for these individuals as well, and while that's not the reason they're doing it in the first place, life and the universe have a way of returning the kind of energy that you put out into the world and onto others.
2. They practice gratitude even in hard times
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Good people can find the light in any situation they're in. Even if they're facing stress, uncertainty, grief, or loneliness, they'll still find a way to make space and focus on what's good in their lives. Their gratitude isn't something that's forced, but a mindset that helps them stay in control when the going gets tough and everything feels unstable.
"Being grateful is linked to higher levels of life satisfaction, optimism, vitality, helpfulness, empathy, forgiveness, and positive affect. Gratefulness broadens our perspective on life, allowing us to be more creative and insightful. Gratitude also reduces feelings of envy, negativity, depression, and anxiety," explained behavioral researcher Ross E. O'Hara.
It doesn't mean they're ignoring the painful moments, but choosing to see past that. They know that not every struggle will last forever, and by holding onto the hope that things will turn around instead of focusing on the negative, they're allowing blessings to find them even when it's bleak.
3. They forgive easily
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These individuals know that nothing good can come from holding onto resentment and having grudges against other people, even if that other person deserves their anger. Forgiveness allows them to move on and find peace without having to carry all of that extra emotional baggage that comes with holding onto anger.
"When you forgive someone, you forgive yourself. That may sound like a nice little catchy phrase, but it’s true. Bearing a grudge against someone who has hurt you is not just about what they have done to you. It’s about what you have allowed to happen to you. Sometimes you can’t help what happens to you in a relationship because you’re just going along doing what you do," pointed out psychiatrist Abigail Brenner.
It doesn't mean they just let people walk all over them. They definitely have boundaries, but they sometimes would rather choose their own peace over holding something over someone else's head for the sake of it. This allows them to free up more space in their minds and hearts to nurture and cultivate more connections that inevitably bring more blessings into their lives.
4. They listen deeply
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They are not only hearing what you're saying, but these individuals are actually listening. Good people don't just wait for their turn in conversations or rush forward with advice they weren't even asked for in the first place. With this ability to listen intently and deeply, they're able to create a space where others feel safe to open up, knowing that they won't be judged or criticized for it.
"While listening is often viewed as something that just naturally occurs through the simple act of hearing spoken words, in reality, there is nothing simple about good listening. It’s an acquired skill that requires daily practice and discipline, although well worth the time and effort because good listening helps us effectively examine, accept, or challenge the information we hear, thereby improving our decision-making," said psychologist Sherrie Bourg Carter.
They have an immense amount of patience and empathy as they sit and allow someone to be vulnerable and open up about the things that are on their mind. Good people create their blessings by being the ones who actively choose to listen, and that may be a dying trait amongst human beings.
5. They stay humble
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Good people are not interested in announcing to the world just how good they truly are. They don't move through life trying to prove what kind of soul they have through the actions they do to help others. They believe in humility, through and through. They aren't just sitting around waiting for praise and applause from those around them.
"Humility can keep you grounded and spare you the erratic swings between narcissism and shame. This virtue is an antidote to shame because it embraces your humanity, which is the essence of your worth. It is also protective against narcissism," explained psychiatrist Dimitrios Tsatiris.
Their humility allows them to connect with people from all different areas because they don't place themselves above anyone. They're simply not driven by ego, and are able to attract healthy, loving friendships without even having to seek them out. People are drawn to those who have humble hearts and don't seek validation because there's just something authentic about them.
6. They cheer for other people's wins
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Good people aren't threatened by the success of others. They know that winning doesn't just come for one person and can never be seen again. There is enough for everyone to go around, and they know that. These individuals just want to be supportive any chance they can get.
"Showing up is sometimes for others and sometimes for ourselves. Whether our relationships are strong or frayed, being there and being seen to be there is what nourishes and strengthens those relationships and the many ties and connection points that make them and keep them vibrant and alive," explained therapist Ariadne Platero.
Whether it's cheering a friend on as they graduate or showing up for a family member after they've won an award, their joy is sometimes louder than the person experiencing that win. There is not a single bone of envy in their bodies because they truly want to uplift others through their journey.
7. They trust their intuition
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These individuals have a way of knowing what feels right and what doesn't. They have an immense amount of trust in their gut and aren't afraid to lean into those nudges and that voice that can tell them what is and isn't for them. It helps guide many areas of their lives, including friendships, goals, and simply how they show up and move around in life.
Since they're able to honor and fully listen to their intuition, they are able to avoid unnecessary conflicts and drama, and they surround themselves with the right kind of people. They're able to find the right path in life because they trust themselves enough to know that it's exactly what they need to find success and growth.
8. They laugh at themselves
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They know not to take themselves too seriously. They'll be the first ones that chuckle at their own mistakes or awkward moments because they know that it can not only keep things light but also help avoid feeling shame and guilt for things that sometimes aren't even their fault. This ability to laugh at themselves helps create a space where others aren't afraid to be their authentic selves as well.
People feel immediately more relaxed in their presence and don't feel any pressure to be perfect because perfection doesn't even exist. Their humor helps make tense situations feel less constricting, and without even trying, they're able to turn those embarrassing moments into funny memories that people can look back on with fondness.
9. They give people second chances
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Good individuals can understand that not everyone is perfect. People make mistakes, and sometimes they shouldn't be crucified for it. When someone messes up, these individuals are always willing to offer a second chance. Not because they're blinded and naive, but because they are compassionate and want to give someone the benefit of the doubt.
It doesn't mean they're overlooking past behaviors or allowing people to cross their boundaries, but that they're choosing to extend grace without jumping to judgment first. That kind of kindness and care always ends up rewarding them in the end.
10. They speak up for people who don't have a voice
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They simply can't stand by and watch someone be treated unfairly. Instead, they'll make sure to stand up and defend anyone and anything that isn't being acknowledged properly. Even if it ends up making things uncomfortable, they'd rather act from a place of wanting justice than stand by and be idle.
They know that staying silent won't solve anything and, in fact, will only make things worse. They're the biggest advocates for those who need it, and by using their voice for good, they're able to make significant changes in their communities and with the people they care about.
11. They're emotionally available
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They are not people who tend to shy away from their feelings. These individuals can show up fully, empathize, and share their vulnerabilities without fear of being judged or shamed for it. It's because they know that there's nothing scary about being able to express your feelings and share them with the people that matter.
Because they are people who show up with honesty, others often feel compelled to do the same. Their openness means they're able to connect more deeply with other people because they're not wearing a mask or hiding behind pretenses. What you see is what you get with them.
Nia Tipton is a staff writer with a bachelor's degree in creative writing and journalism who covers news and lifestyle topics that focus on psychology, relationships, and the human experience.
