11 Rare But Misunderstood Traits That Only The Most Valuable Women Display Constantly
Valuable women show how special they are with these misunderstood traits.
GaudiLab / Shutterstock All women are valuable. They all bring something unique to the table. They provide support, life, and guidance. However, when it comes to a relationship, some women are more valuable than others. I know, that sounds harsh. But with such a vast dating pool, there are certain traits that men are looking for in a partner. Some of these traits can be rare and misunderstood.
“A high-value woman is someone self-conscious of who she is. She knows that she has an important assignment to positively impact her generation in different ways. Therefore, she is focused on her goal to ensure that she leaves an indelible mark behind,” wrote Rachel Pace. “Ultimately, striving to be a high-value woman is a path to self-empowerment and contentment, but it should be authentic and reflective of individual goals.” High-value women are inspiring. They make everyone around them better. While they are special people, some of their traits can be misunderstood.
These are 11 rare but misunderstood traits that only the most valuable women display constantly
1. Discernment
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When it comes to women who have discernment, they can be difficult to read. They are constantly trying to judge a situation. They are looking out for themselves by reading the people and situations around them. They want to make sure they make a smart decision and use discernment to accomplish it.
Recently, Brandon Gamagami took to Instagram to share how much he values this rare and misunderstood trait in women. It opened up a conversation.
One commentator said, “It takes a lot of experience, a lot of intuition, and a lot of self-confidence to have this quality.”
Another added, “Beautifully said — it takes being comfortable in your own space to see what’s for you and what’s not. Protecting your peace may mean being alone a little longer, but it’s worth it because if someone isn’t adding to your peace, they’re creating unwanted chaos. Choose wisely.”
2. Confidence
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Sometimes, confidence can come off the wrong way. When someone exudes pride in themselves, it can make others assume they are self-centered. However, when a woman is confident in herself, it’s a rare but valuable trait.
Women who have confidence know their worth. They don’t settle for things that don’t suit them. They do not have fragile egos. Without relying on others around them to lift them up, confident women are valuable. The trait can be misunderstood because of the negative association some have with overly confident behavior.
3. Emotional independence
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Valuable women are comfortable with themselves. They don’t rely on others for emotional support. They are capable of comforting and caring for themselves. Plus, with emotional independence, they don’t get attached to others often. They have more stable relationships.
While this sounds like a wonderful trait, it can be misunderstood. Women who are emotionally independent can come off as cold. Sharing their feelings and connecting emotionally isn’t always their strong suit. They can struggle to form bonds with others. However, people who see this trait as a perk know how valuable emotionally independent women are.
4. High standards
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A woman with high standards knows her worth. While it is positive for her, it can come across as misunderstood. High standards may make others think this person feels they are better than everyone else. In a valuable woman, this is far from the truth. She simply wants to protect herself from people and situations that are not worth her time.
This is especially relevant to dating. “Men will only treat you the way you allow them to treat you. You get to decide what kind of relationship you are in. By having high standards, you are ensuring that you have a healthy, positive relationship,” says Victoria, blogger at Gorgeous Life. “You are able to identify when a man is not treating you properly and you have the confidence to let them go because they are not reaching your standards.”
Men see this trait as valuable because they know that if a woman with high standards chooses them, they are doing something right.
5. Open communication
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This is a trait that valuable women display. They are comfortable talking about hard things. This can come off differently to some people. They may think she is too opinionated or judgmental. When in reality, she has mastered talking about her feelings.
“In a relationship, communication is key to keeping the connection strong. It involves sharing your thoughts, feelings, and needs with your partner. It is understanding what your partner’s body language is telling you and responding to said messages accordingly,” writes Tina Marie Del Rosario for Healing Collective Therapy. “Effective communication is expressing oneself and responding to your partner respectfully, and avoiding name-calling or hurtful words at all costs. When both partners communicate openly and honestly, they deepen their bond, build trust, and create a stronger emotional connection. This is the power of communication in a relationship.”
6. Empathy
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Valuable women possess a high level of empathy. They can connect with others easily. They have mastered the art of comforting others. Finding it easy to relate to people going through a tough time is important, especially in a relationship. Empathy is always a good thing, right? Some people may misunderstand this trait.
Sometimes, it’s easy to pass judgment on people who are highly empathetic. Some may call them too emotional or too invested in the lives of others. While this may be true occasionally, for the most part, these women are just deeply caring. This is something that can make someone valuable not only in a romantic relationship, but also as friends, family members, and employees.
7. Ability to set boundaries
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Setting healthy boundaries is important. For valuable women, they know boundaries are the key to protecting their peace. They have no trouble setting them and enforcing them with others. They will never accept treatment they find unfair. Their boundaries keep them from experiencing things that don’t suit them.
“Many have found that setting boundaries improves your mental health and mood. Without limits, it’s hard to be self-aware and independent. If you go along with what everyone else says and does and don’t ever speak up for what you want to do, you’re sacrificing your desires for other people,” says Marissa Moore, MA, LPC. “Boundaries are essential for maintaining your interpersonal relationships. When you set boundaries, you may find your life much more fulfilling.”
8. Drive
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Valuable women are known for their drive. They work hard to get what they want. When they set a goal, they are going to accomplish it. This trait can be misunderstood by the average person. They may view her as selfish. In reality, she is hardworking.
Driven women are not selfish. They are honest. They know what they want and are not afraid to ask for it. They are also proactive. They will never wait around for someone to give them something. They work hard to make it happen for themselves. Having drive sets valuable women apart.
9. Skepticism
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A skeptical woman can come across as untrusting. This makes people assume she thinks she is better than everyone else. Often, they are just overly aware of their surroundings and constantly assessing a situation before they commit their time and energy to it.
“Skepticism is a key part of critical thinking — a goal of education,” says Marilyn Price-Mitchell, Ph.D. “The term skeptic is derived from the Greek skeptikos, meaning 'to inquire' or 'look around.' Skeptics require additional evidence before accepting someone’s claims as true. They are willing to challenge the status quo with open-minded, deep questioning of authority.”
There is a difference between skeptics and cynics, and a valuable woman is the former.
10. Protective
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Valuable women are protective. They focus on maintaining their peace. They won’t allow someone to disturb their inner zen. They are also protective of those around them. They don’t want anyone they care about to experience pain or suffering.
Sometimes, protectiveness can be misunderstood. It’s not uncommon for people to interpret this trait as selfish. Some may think protective women are possessive, but that’s not the case. They are simply respecting themselves and those around them.
11. Ability to forgive
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Highly valuable women are capable of forgiving with ease. They are understanding and accepting. If someone does them wrong, they are comfortable giving them another chance to prove themselves. However, they never forget. This can make them come across as rude or unaccepting.
“While some may misunderstand this trait, those who have it are happier. “Forgiveness is vitally important for the mental health of those who have been victimized. It propels people forward rather than keeping them emotionally engaged in an injustice or trauma. Forgiveness has been shown to elevate mood, enhance optimism, and guard against anger, stress, anxiety, and depression,” says Psychology Today.
Haley Van Horn is a freelance writer with a master’s degree in Humanities, living in Los Angeles. Her focus includes entertainment and lifestyle stories.
