The Art Of Being Magnetic: 8 Simple Habits Of People Who Radiate Energy Others Can't Ignore
Everyday habits make certain people glow with a kind of irresistible energy.
pocstock | Canva As an awkward teen, I struggled to connect with people. It made me feel alone and continually frustrated for years. This drove me to get good at understanding how to connect better with people. I learned a lot about why some people seem to pull others in while others repel.
Ready to discover what sets magnetic people apart? It mostly comes down to energy. These tips aren't complicated tricks or manipulative tactics. These habits are simple, consistent practices that transform how you interact with the world and how the world responds to you.
Here are 8 simple habits of people who radiate energy others can't ignore:
1. They don't need to put on a performance
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Trying gives off a very different energy than simply being. When we operate in the mode of ‘try,’ we emphasize the reality that we aren’t there yet. This feels try-hard. So magnetic people don’t force anything and express who they are.
According to psychologist Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, you can't be happy with yourself when you're busy trying to be someone else. Instead, you must take time to celebrate yourself with self-love, self-care, and self-respect.
2. Their let their quirks shine through
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Attraction is closely tied to authenticity. When we act like everyone else, we signal our discomfort. When we allow what makes us different to rise without resistance, like our geeky interest in gardening, we telegraph what makes us human, too. This is interesting and attractive.
Studies on dating have found that authenticity is attractive because it indicates that a person has a strong sense of self and is comfortable with who they are. This confidence is contagious, making others feel more secure and comfortable in their presence.
3. They don't speak vaguely
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Ever had a conversation with someone who talks only about vague concepts and loose theories? It’s easy to lose track of and interest in. It also reflects a lack of belief in what they are saying. Those who keep you hanging off their every word use specific examples, details, and relevant stories.
Mastering the art of concise and compelling storytelling is a key component of effective communication and social grace, according to personal coach Caroline Maguire. By making narratives clear, engaging, and relatable, you facilitate better understanding and build stronger relationships, leading to more effortless and impactful social interactions.
4. They don't overload you with their presence
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Magnetic people don’t overload you with their presence. They know that strategic absences create intrigue. People who are always available and quick to respond to every little thing transmit their abundance and self-respect, too. Always being there pitches you as lower status. That which is scarce is more expensive — and certainly more magnetic.
Research shows that people are motivated to close information gaps because the uncertainty can be intriguing. Our minds work overtime to fill in the blanks, causing us to think about the mysterious person more intently and frequently.
5. They don't rely on external validation or approval
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When we rely on others being nice to us to feel happy, we’re in a precarious place. It may feel great to gain validation, but when we get criticized, we’ll sink. Magnetic people know that all the validation they need is internal, and they express this with a light-hearted approach to life.
Clinical psychologist Dr. Lesley Goth explains that deeply confident people don't rely on others' approval to feel worthy. Instead, they practice self-compassion, talking to themselves the way they would to someone they love, and embracing challenges as opportunities for learning rather than viewing mistakes as personal failures.
6. They refuse to let their inner critic run the show
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Low-energy people live in a prison of their own making. The prison walls are reinforced by the sense that they are not adequate. They believe they are broken and listen to society that reinforces such nonsense. But that seems real only to the extent it is self-created. Those who walk with a bounce in their step know they are whole.
Research on dating shows that being yourself is a highly effective long-term mating strategy. It naturally draws in like-minded partners who also value honesty and genuine connection, leading to more satisfying relationships.
7. They choose their words carefully
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Their mouths are not openings out of which spew whatever comes to mind. They exert self-control. They are sparing with their words and choose them carefully. They don’t bring others down. This creates mystery, but it also emphasizes their communication skill, which is inspiring.
Jessica M. Miller, a relationship, personal development, and motivational coach, explained that as soon as your mind wanders, subtle subconscious facial movements and body language take place, alerting the person you're with that you're no longer fully present.
8. They have nothing to prove
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Those who speak slower, even if just a fraction, often appear to be in the authority position. In other words, when we talk comparatively faster, it seems we are trying to prove something or are slightly nervous. Magnetic people are relaxed and have nothing to prove.
Career educator Hanna Goefft explains that what corporate environments call 'executive presence' is how effective you can be at inspiring confidence in others and convincing them of your vision. The key lies in how you deliver your message.
Alex Mathers is a writer and coach who helps you build a money-making personal brand with your knowledge and skills while staying mentally resilient. He's the author of the Mastery Den newsletter, which helps people triple their productivity.
