9 Things Deeply Magnetic People Do On A Regular Basis
Magnetic people walk into a room and immediately shift the energy.
Mr Arif | Canva There are nine things deeply magnetic people do on a regular basis. I spent most of my life wanting to connect better with people through some sort of mystifying magnetic force. I hated leaving a meeting and feeling like I said the wrong thing or that I’d lost a potential friendship because of something I did or didn’t do.
Research indicates that effective connection with others relies on a combination of active listening, empathy, authenticity, and shared experiences. Cultivating a sense of shared reality, expressing positive emotions together, and demonstrating genuine interest in others are also crucial for building meaningful relationships.
I couldn’t figure out how to become a deeply magnetic person for a long time. I’d look at others who seemed to magically make friends effortlessly and feel a pang of sadness, but through years of people-watching and mistake-making, there is much I’ve learned about being a human personality magnet.
Here are nine things deeply magnetic people do on a regular basis:
1. They lead with compassion, not people-pleasing
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There’s a difference between using a ‘nice’ demeanor to maintain harmony and being genuinely pleasant around people. The former is often a subtly manipulative tactic used to avoid being hurt. But this won’t do you favors if you want an authentic connection.
Instead of being nice, dare to be real. Be kind and compassionate, yes. But also be open to expressing your opinion if it doesn’t always gain approval. Smile when you want to smile. Being nice all the time when it doesn’t reflect your inner reality is draining, and others will sense this.
2. They dress with intention and confidence
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Many of you don’t need to know this because you’re already crushing it. Just because most people care less about how they look doesn’t mean it’s okay to follow suit. Tend to the small details.
Wear crisp, clean clothes. Fumigate that bad breath. It will attract people to you because they see you care about yourself.
3. They speak with intention, not excess
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Talking a lot is healthy and a sign of your enthusiasm. Just be careful you aren’t talking so much that it begins to work against you.
For example, if you’re so keen to speak that you barely give others a chance and continually cut off their sentences, you best believe they're itching to leave.
It’s not all about you. Listen just as much as you talk, if not far more. This also creates intrigue.
Show interest in others, and they will become interested in you. Research suggests that certain qualities associated with quiet or reserved individuals can be appealing to others.
4. They choose their words carefully
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It can be challenging to put thoughts into words. But often, we are inarticulate when we are nervous or when we rush.
Rushing your speech makes it harder to understand you, and people find it difficult to be drawn to people they cannot understand. Slow your rate of speaking a fraction. It makes it easier for you and for others.
5. They don't stress over the uncontrollable
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Look around you. Most people are in their own worlds, worrying about stuff they can’t control. It’s getting worse because most people are overwhelmed with information.
Detaching from what might scare or worry others is worth mastering. According to A Penn State study that tested people and how likely their worries were to come true, 91% of their worries were false alarms.
The more seemingly carefree you are, the more likely others will be to feel a magnetism to this happy energy. Start not in the mind but in the body. Drop your shoulders, take a breath, and your attitude toward life will follow.
6. They read between the lines
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Isn’t it refreshing and pleasantly surprising when someone observes you, that few make? Maybe they commented on your shirt or expressed a perceptive insight about a word you used.
It doesn’t have to be clever. Most people are so preoccupied with their stuff that they don’t see beyond their noisy filters.
7. They vent when needed but never wallow
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I know — you’ve had a hard day. The kids have been screaming in your ears all morning.
A good moan with a good friend can be cathartic. But when I find myself with people who refrain from complaining much, if at all, I often find my admiration for them grows.
It’s easy to moan. It’s a little harder to focus on the good. That’s the kind of person you want on your team. Be that person. According to a study, the more that people vented, the worse they felt their day had gone, and the longer these negative feelings lasted.
8. They don't take themselves too seriously
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We all have a humorous side that will have others in stitches when you let go and see the funny side. Be the goober who chooses to be goofy at the right moments, especially when others are not. This can open the gates to a more light-hearted mood, and people will like you for it.
9. They exist fully in the moment
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I know what it’s like to enter a social situation and close down, burdened by swirling thoughts and a sweaty brow. The irony here is that the best social interactions involve present people who aren’t in their heads and tapped into an upbeat, creative flow.
Letting go of troubling thoughts, opening your senses, slowing down, and focusing on the present gives you this. Aware people are rare. They come across as a fascination to others — and they won’t know why.
Alex Mathers is a writer and coach who helps you build a money-making personal brand with your knowledge and skills while staying mentally resilient.
