How To Get Over A Breakup In One Hour (Really!)

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How To Get Over A Breakup With Self-Hypnosis
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Because I advertise as being "Britain's Fastest Hypnotist," below is a quick and simple method for how to get over a breakup fast in less than an hour. That may sound impossible, but you'll begin to understand exactly how and why this works so well.

This simple system for getting over a breakup works almost every time.

Most recently, I used this process with a young woman whose relationship of three years had ended very badly. She was feeling desolate and hopeless. An hour or so later, after using just this method, she was all smiles.

It's not absolutely guaranteed to make you smile, but it should at least make you feel a whole lot better. You can do this at home for yourself in about an hour, and it's almost sure to make you feel much better.

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Before you learn this lightning-fast method, you need to be aware that this is a very powerful process. It changes your emotional state in lasting ways. Because it changes your emotions, you should use this intelligently and wisely. Learn exactly how to use this method for yourself.

I'm often asked to erase people's memories of painful or broken relationships using hypnosis. I always refuse to do that and show them this method instead. That's because it's much better.

Your memory is important. Your memories help you to avoid making poor choices in the future. Your memory is also the secret key to getting over a breakup. It's just a matter of knowing exactly how to use it. 

This little trick is not absolutely guaranteed, but I've never seen it fail. Every time, people have felt better and you'll be astonished at just how mind-bogglingly effective it is. 

How to Get Over a Breakup Fast

To get over a break up in just one hour you will need 3 things: 

1. A piece of paper.

2. A pen or a pencil.

3. A free and very special download.*

*The third of these is the free download to a unique MP3 audio, designed to quickly remove negative emotions, almost as if they were never there at all. Many professional therapists use this tool and most people find that it clears negative and unwanted emotions in minutes.

That special MP3 tool is called a "PSTEC Click Track" (Percussive Suggestion Technique).

Step 1: Make a list.

All relationships have their ups and downs, and the longer the relationship has lasted, the more ups and downs you are likely to have experienced. 

To get over a breakup, you can make use of anything within the relationship which made you unhappy. In other words, think back to recall any unpleasant memories connected to that relationship. Those memories can be used as tools to set you free. 

You're going to write down a list of these memories. Select the times when the other person did something you really didn't like. This might be memories of them being cruel (to you or someone else), or maybe they did some things which made you angry or upset or maybe scared.

There might have been times when they were very unforgiving or unpleasant, or times when they were thoughtless, or selfish or took you for granted. Maybe there were things they said or did which really upset you. Memories of arguments or disagreements, cheating, or lying can also be used.

Select a spread of the worst and most significant events you can think of. You are going to use those memories to build your list. Often, there is quite a lot to choose from, so try to think of ten or so and select the ones that seem the most significant.

Next, for each one of those unpleasant memories, you're going to allocate a code word or code words. The code words chosen should be words that will quickly remind you of each of the unpleasant past events with your ex. 

For example, if some horrible arguments took place at a hotel called the "Blue Flamingo" on holiday in Los Angeles you might just write down "holiday," "hotel" or "Los Angeles," or maybe the name of the hotel itself. Select whatever word or couple of words will remind you of that specific unpleasant memory. 

Do this for all the negative events you think of and write them down to make a list. A typical list might look like this:

  • Holiday
  • Supermarket 
  • Hotel car park
  • Funfair
  • Haircut
  • Jacket 
  • Cinema
  • Garden center
  • Stewardess
  • Boat
  • Burger bar

Your own list will be different, but each word in the list should remind you of a time when your ex angered you, shocked you, hurt you, was unforgiving, cruel, angry, or otherwise upset you. Or, perhaps you witnessed them behaving in a way that you found demeaning, embarrassing, or unpleasant. 

The code words you choose can be anything, as long as they each remind you of a specific unpleasant memory of your ex. 

Every relationship is different, but a list can be quite easily put together. You already know they're far from perfect because they let you go

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Step 2: Change the way you think.

Now that you have your list, use it.

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Look at the list for a while and remind yourself what each codeword relates to. Remember that each one should trigger an unpleasant memory of your ex in some way. Be sure that's the case. Fix them clearly in your mind and, as you do, also try to connect to the feeling you felt at the time. 

Now, get ready to read through your list over and over. It works best if you do this out loud. Cycle through that list of codewords, recalling unpleasant memories for about three or four minutes.

As you say each word in the list, let the connected unpleasant memory flash through your mind for just a couple of seconds. Then, without any delay at all, move to the next item in the list and do exactly the same.

When you get to the bottom of the list, go back to the start and repeat. Continue this process over and over for a few minutes. Remember to flash the unpleasant memories through your mind as you read each item and keep the speed up. 

In your mind, this connects all of those events in a new way. You're literally rewiring your brain and those isolated incidents are woven and connected together using this process. This will help your subconscious mind to see your ex in a different way than before

This really loosens up your thinking towards that person and makes any sense of loss seem less of a tragedy.

Step 3: Rewire your emotions. 

Use the free download mentioned earlier. Remember that this free system is also used by professional therapists day in day out. It will probably seem strange at first, but you'll quickly get the hang of it and will almost certainly find it works.

To get the free mp3 files, scroll to the bottom of this homepage. The download button for the free PSTEC self-help system is there.

The system is designed to quickly free you from any negative emotion, including those connected with a breakup. You can use it on fear, jealousy, guilt, anger, and many other emotions to erase them, but after a break p you're mostly going to target sadness, grief, or maybe anger. 

When you download the mp3 you'll find it comes with its own detailed audio instructions. Be sure to listen to them. Those instructions explain exactly how to remove any unwanted emotion in about ten minutes. 

Once you're satisfied that you know how to use it, you can then use it to target any anger or grief regarding the relationship. You should find that this makes a huge difference.

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Tim Phizackerley is a clinical hypnotist, trainer, and mind coach. To learn more, visit his website.