30 Fun Sex Games To Help You Kill It In The Bedroom

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30 New, Fun Sex Games For Couples To Play In Bed

Constantly searching for kinky ideas and new things to try in order to keep your sex life interesting can get very tiring. That's why I wanted to share with you four of my favorite fun, sexy games to play with your partner.

If you’ve never played a sex game before, believe me, you should give it a shot.

As relationships progress, it can be easy for couples to lose a sense of playfulness in the bedroom, which is one of many reasons why introducing sex games for couples can really take your intimacy to the next level.

Adult sex games help build trust, lower inhibitions, and — if done right — can be very, very hot. And, most importantly, they keep things fun.

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When lovers try out new sex games for couples, it allows them to stop worrying about the mechanics of sex and just enjoy playing with each other.

You start thinking about your partner more, you try new things, and you remind yourself that sex shouldn’t be work — it should be pure joy and gratification.

Here are four fun sex games that are perfect for couples looking to inject a little kinky play-time into their lives:

Just a quick warning though. Don't feel like you have to try every single one of these fun sex games with your man. You don't. Only try the ones that you are comfortable with.

1. You've Got 30 Seconds.

This first fun sex game is called "You've Got 30 Seconds" because you are going to be giving each other a time limit of just 30 seconds to turn each other on and get each other off. (Just use the timer on your phone.)

Decide who goes first, and then start the timer. Whoever is "it" will use the 30 seconds to try and give the other as much pleasure as possible. Usually, this isn't enough though (which is a good thing. Trust me!) Now switch roles and restart the timer to 30 seconds.

Note: The receiver isn't allowed to do anything — just sit back and enjoy it. You're especially not allowed to give any directions or tell your partner what you are enjoying and disliking. It's up to them to discover it themselves.

You'll find that you will both need multiple 30-second sessions to get each other off. Many couples often report that they get quite competitive when playing this game, trying to win, by getting their partner off first.

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2. Hot & Cold.

"Hot & Cold" is much simpler to play, but that doesn't make it any less of a fun sexy game to play with your man. What you are going to be doing is arranging a few sweet foods (usually about three to four) that are either warm or cold. Think ice cream, champagne, and sorbet for the cold foods and heated honey, melted chocolate, and warm maple syrup for the warm foods. (Note: Food should be warm, not hot!)

Next, bring your man somewhere private, take off his pants, and then blindfold him. Tell him you're going to give him a blow job, but not just the regular type of bj. Tell him that you're in the mood for some dessert and that you have a few things prepared. If he asks what, then just say that it's a surprise but that he'll love it.

Then take a little scoop of ice cream into your mouth and start to very slowly give him oral sex. Starting slowly is crucial as you don't want to give him too much of a shock. You can continue to give him oral sex, while slowly eating more and more of the ice cream/sorbet/champagne off his penis.

Next, you can then switch to something completely different ... like some warm honey. The change should surprise your man, but more importantly, it will make for a completely different texture.

3. Slippery Sex.

This one is a particularly fun sex game to play with your man. There is something incredibly horny, hot, and arousing about having sex when you are both hot, sweating, and sliding all over each other. It feels so primal.

The best way to achieve this is by having sex in a steam room or sauna. But that's not a possibility for everyone. And besides, you can't really lie down when you're in a sauna or steam room.

An awesome way to replicate the sweaty fun of a steam room or sauna in your own home is to turn the heat up really high and cover yourself from head to toe in natural oil, like coconut oil.

Feeling your bodies easily slide over each other during sex is incredibly hot and can make for some really passionate, animalistic sex. In a way, this is not so much a fun sex game, but more of an incredible way to have great sex.

4. The "Try Not To Have" Sex Game.

By far the hottest sex game I know or have heard of is called the "Try Not To Have Sex Game." It sounds a little weird when you first hear it, and it certainly seems counterintuitive. The fact is that it's super-powerful at building sexual tension. You'll want to rip each other's clothes off! It's all about delaying gratification, and it's pretty amazing.

To play the game, you're not allowed to have sex ... but that's not actually a ton of fun. You make it fun by trying to entice your partner into initiating sex with you, while he is doing the exact same thing to you.

The loser is the person who gives in and actually initiates sex. The winner is the partner who holds out the longest.

OK, it may sound silly and dully, but it really helps you, as a couple, focus on foreplay and building up anticipation and arousal. Try it and you'll understand.

5. The 30-day position challenge.

Every day for the next 30 days, you and your partner have to try new positions. Choose different sex positions that represent a certain card from a card game and then pull one card every day for the next 30 days. There are lots of different positions and forms of sex you can try including Kama Sutra positions, car sex positions, shower sex positions, and kinky positions. Mix it up a bit from your usual sex routine and be spontaneous. 

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6. Strip Twister.

If you've ever watched "Sex and The City" you know what this is. Take the innocent childhood classic game of twister and make it dirty. You can make the rules or the rules go as followed, every time someone messes up or falls than one item of clothing must be taken off, and so on. 

7. What's your fantasy?

For this game, all you need is a hat or a jar and you and your partner write your different sex fantasies on a slip of paper and draw and see which one you get. Your fantasies can include anything from having sex in different places around the house, trying new sex positions, or doing a bit of role-playing.

8. Blind Man's Buff.

All you need for this game is a scarf or a blindfold and you blindfold your partner and lead them into the bedroom or any place where you want to have a sexy rendezvous. You call the shots and blindfolding your partner while having sex actually helps increase sensitivity and psychological vulnerability.

9. The Cake Game.

Ever dreamed about eating food off your partner's body? Well if so then this is the perfect game to do so. You can use anything from chocolate syrup, whipped cream, Nutella, strawberries, candy, whatever you want and lick their bodies clean.

10. Oral Dice.

No need for sex dice when all you need is a simple dice and you roll the dice and whatever number it lands on is the amount of time your partner should give you oral for. The two of you can swap back and forth taking turns if you want to have more fun. 

11. You are my prisoner.

Handcuffs and ties are essential in this game. Essentially you tie your partner up and take them are your prisoner, you tell them what you're going to do and tell them that you're in control. The two of you can take turns giving in and being a prisoner to your partner's sexual desires.

12. Sex toy roulette.

This game is actually a precursor to having sex with the sex toy. You have to blindfold your partner and have them click around on different sex toys on a website. Their tenth click is the toy that they have to buy and use with their partner the next time you both have sex. 

13. Sex board games.

There are lots of different sex games that you can buy including I.O.U The Game of Hidden Pleasures, Sexopoly, and Kaamastra You and Me and more. Pick a game the two of you want to try out and have fun!

14. Naked cooking.

Who says that cooking can't be turned into a fun sex game, when you're naked anything can be turned into fun. As you prepare and cook food in the kitchen you have to strip down each step you while cooking until the both of you are naked. 

15. Red light green light. 

In this game, you and your partner will explore different things you've never tried before during sex like kissing body parts, choking, biting, mutual masturbation, using sex toys. Red light of course means to stop as you don't like whatever action your partner is doing, and green light means you like it and you want them to continue. You could also say yellow light to slow down if your partner might be doing something really fast. 

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16. Read each other sex stories.

What could turn you on more than your partner reading a hot and steaming sex story while looking right at you and feel each other's heart rate skyrocket. By the time you're done with a story, if you can even finish it, the two of you will be so turned on for each other you want to have sex right away. 

17. Truth or dare.

Who said you can't turn a classic childhood game into a sexy game. When you're playing truth or dare in the bedroom, use this opportunity to get inside your partner's head and learn all about their sex stories and fantasies, and more. 

18. This is war. 

Pillow fights aren't only for kids as a naked pillow fight can be very sexy in the bedroom. All you need is a couple of light pillows and the two of you can have a pillow and tickle fight and whoever surrenders first has to give a sexual favor to the partner who won. 

19. Stop and start. 

This is a really fun game to try as it exchanges the work equally between two partners. When you first start kissing set a timer and do as you please but when the timer goes off, whatever your partner was just leading with, you follow switching roles with them and so on as the timer goes back and forth between you and your partner. Sharing the lead and being dominant equally can be very fun and can be something different. 

20. Tear it up.

Ever had a sexual fantasy of ripping your partner's clothes off and going in for a night of passionate and hot sex? Well, you can actually do that without ruining your own clothes by buying a cheap shirt online that you are willing to ruin. Then two of you can rip off each other's clothes, telling your partner they are free to destroy the clothes and take them off however they want. 

21. Position challenge.

In this game, you and your partner need to see how many sex positions you can go through before each of you achieve an orgasm. The more positions, the more fun, and maybe you'll find a position that will help you finish faster and orgasm even harder. Improve your sex life with this game and learn about different positions that you find even more pleasurable. 

22. Open your mouth... close your eyes.

The rules are very simple for this game. What you need to do is either make your partner sit down or kneel and you tell them to close their eyes and move whatever part of your body you want them to play, in front of their mouths. When you say open your mouth they can kiss, lick or suck whatever part you want them to. 

23. Grab bag.

It's Christmas except with sex toys! For this game, you and your partner need to put all your favorite sex toys in a bag and then each of you needs to randomly choose one out of the bag and use it while having sex with each other. Fun right?

24. X marks the spot.

In this game, you and your partner have to kiss each other all over your body and tell them if they are getting warmer or colder to wherever you want to put X on your body. Try sticking to one spot or make your partner guess where the different treasures of your body are. Hands should definitely be incorporated in this game as well to stimulate the body some more. 

25. Lingerie retail therapy. 

This is a fun game your partner and you can do if you've never treated yourself to some nice lingerie. Both you and your partner need to pick out something for each other to wear from a sex shop, no questions asked. Then the two of you must wear whatever each other ordered and be surprised at the outcome and how turned on you will be seeing your partner wear your raunchy little gift. 

26. Strip pong.

You may have played this one in college or at parties but it's time to bring it back except more of a sexier version. In strip pong the rules are simple, it's just basic cup pong with a ping pon ball and the two of you have to get the ball in the cup to win, whoever is the first to score all the cups is the winner and the loser has to strip. Play until you or your partner is fully naked. 

27. Orgasm race.

Mutual masturbation but make it a game. In this game, the two of you have to lie side by side and masturbate at the same time. The first person to orgasm wins, and then can watch their partner finish. 

28. This is so wrong.

Ever dreamed about having a sexy hookup somewhere totally random? Don't be afraid to get caught with this game as the two of you can find different places to have sex that you wouldn't ever dare of trying before. Maybe to be safe, try at a friend's house in their bathroom or hooking up while roommates are home, and if you're willing, maybe a public stairwell or in a restaurant bathroom. Just make sure wherever you go isn't "full-on" public. 

29. Straight face.

In this game, the two of you will need slips of paper, a pen, and a small bowl. Write down random words or sayings and put them in the bowl. Then one by one, you and your partner have to take turns choosing a slip of paper and reading it in any way from a funny voice, to a sexy voice, or a flirty voice. The first person to crack the smallest of a smile while their partner says the word, then you're allowed to take off an item of clothing from their body.

30. Never have I ever.

This is the perfect game to get on each other's level. In never have I ever the two of you hold up ten fingers and go back and forth saying what sexual things you have tried before and the first person to win or has the more experience gets to chose what activity they want their partner to experience for the first time. However, in this game, there are no losers because each of you is winning by giving in to new sexual experiences. 

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Sean Jameson is a sex expert and founder of the Bad Girl's Bible website, where you can learn advanced techniques to improve your sex life. If you enjoyed learning about these fun sex games, check out his detailed video tutorial on how to give your man a perfect blowjob.