How To Mix Sex With Food For The Best Foreplay Ever

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Food and sex have a lot in common — they're sensual, nourishing, and have the potential for great variety.

One of the easiest, most delicious ways to literally spice up your sex life is by combining sex with food and adding some edible ingredients to your bedroom routine.

In fact, "food play" is especially suited to long-term relationships.

"One of the benefits of being in a committed relationship is that you and your partner have the opportunity to 'sexplore' each other," says Paul Carrick Brunson, a matchmaker and life coach.

Hopefully, you and your partner already know each other's tastes and preferences, as well as how to communicate what you do and don't like. Novel situations, especially a new approach to a familiar act, can keep your bond strong.

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Like sex, food is associated with both biological needs and mental and emotional urges. Eating doesn't just keep us alive; eating it feels good.

"There's an aggression to eating, a sexiness to licking your fingers and using your hands," says Pamela Madsen, a sex and intimacy coach. "We get so removed from the sensuality of our everyday lives, not just in sex but in food. But food during sex can be seductive. There's power in using food as a sexual metaphor."

So how do you get started using food during sex and foreplay? Obviously, you don't want to use any foods that might trigger an allergy or aversion, but there are a few other things to consider when tapping into the food kinks.

Here are seven sexy tips for mixing sex with food in the bedroom for the best foreplay ever.

1. Keep it sweet and light.

Whether using food on the tongue or body (more on this later), food foreplay is an appetizer, but sex is the meal. So hold the savory and spicy (which can burn skin or eyes), and stick to sweets for your sweet.

If you're into healthier sweets, try pieces of fresh seasonal fruit, like cherries, strawberries, or mango slices. If you're more of a candy craver, play with ice cream toppings, like caramel sauce, chocolate sauce, or marshmallow creme. Or go crazy and combine the two! You can gently hand-feed each other or use each other's bodies as plates.

Just remember that a little goes a long way. Eating too much before getting intimate will only make you and your partner feel sluggish, give you a sugar crash later, and may even lead to motion sickness.

Besides, if your partner's hungry enough to ask for seconds, you two should probably eat lunch first.

2. Keep food away from your private parts.

Private parts and food don't mix for various reasons, including the potential for infections, skin irritation, and let's be real, sticky pubic hair.

If you’re using plain ice, feel free to explore all over. Otherwise, the safest way to stimulate your partner is to keep all the food action above the waist. But don't worry: there are plenty of erogenous safe zones.

3. Engage all your senses.

Bringing food into the bedroom engages the senses — and we don't just mean taste. Use foods that smell and feel good on bare skin. (Sorry, stinky cheese lovers. Save that for a real meal!)

To keep things hot, try foods you can heat up, like chocolate or honey. Or you can go the opposite direction with popsicles, frozen grapes, or just plain ice.

Play around with these items, hot and cold alike, running them over sensitive zones like the neck, earlobes, nipples, and lips. At the same time, don't forget to use your hands to stroke, caress, and massage your partner, especially below the waist, where food is off-limits.

4. Get creative with your mouth.

Good oral sex is about varying the amount of pressure and speed with your tongue and mouth. Good food play works the same way.

Instead of simply licking food off of a part of your partner's body, try sucking cream off his finger or gently nibbling honey off his body. (Yes, getting toothy's okay, as long as your partner likes it.) Or start with simple lip touches and work your way toward completely enveloping skin in your warm mouth.

5. Come prepared.

You wouldn't go to a picnic without napkins, but you wouldn't take your 10,000-thread count sheets either. So don't forget to pack some appropriate gear for your naked picnic.

Lay down towels or sheets that you don't mind getting dirty. Bring napkins or even baby wipes for clean-up. Using tools, like a drizzle bottle for chocolate and honey, can make food play a little tidier and keep your hands clean.

Ideally, licking fingers (or other parts) clean will suffice before you get busy. And don't forget to keep the usual sexy stuff nearby — condoms, lube, and any sex toys.

6. Have fun.

"Play" is a key component of foreplay. Be creative in the way you use food during sex with your partner.

Tease each other with little bites. Dribble honey onto each other and slowly lick it off. Share a lollipop. Make a whipped cream bikini with cherry nipples on top a la "Varsity Blues" and make him beg for a taste.

And don't be afraid to laugh at each other. You might be surprised at how something that starts off silly can end up sexy.

7. Clean each other off afterward.

You set the table and devoured your partner. Now don't forget to wash up after getting messy!

Gather any plates, utensils, leftovers and food-splattered clothing or bedding, so you don't have a big mess to worry about later. Then hit the shower and help your partner clean those hard-to-reach spots.

Who knows? It may even lead to round two. Dessert, anyone?

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Many people are intimidated by bringing food into the bedroom, but all that matters is the connection you two have. Food is just there to add some fun!

Best Foods To Use During Sex

1. Strawberries

These compact, non-messy fruits are cute, fun, and adorable. You can feed them to each other and have a blast in the bedroom. They are also great to pair with other food items, like chocolate.

The only downside to strawberries is that the stem is trash, and that can be a mood-killer if you're surrounded by garbage.

2. Chocolate sauce

You may have seen this one in many movies where they integrate food and sex or do something more adventurous. Chocolate is a good candidate for two reasons: 1) Almost everyone loves it, and 2) Chocolate actually makes you feel pleasure.

Chocolate increases endorphins, improves your bood, relieves pain, and increases energy.

3. Bananas

This fruit gets its place in the bedroom for its very phallic-like shape, making for some sexy imagination for foreplay. Of course, if you aren't into the male genitalia, bananas are still a great go-to adding food to sex.

If you chop the bananas up and eat them during foreplay (again, you can feed them to each other or get creative and eat them off your partner's stomach or back), they can help prevent leg cramps during sex.

4. Whipped cream

This one has a time limit on it of about 20 minutes, so if you can get warmed up for sex.

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Whipped cream is great because it can go anywhere (excluding the genitals) and be licked up immediately, with no real threat of infection. It's light, fluffy, and incredibly sweet.

The 20-minute mark is there because after that, the cream starts to smell odd and gets a bit more watery, which can become uncomfortable.

5. Champagne

If you feel like imbibing a little during sex, use champagne to add a touch of class.

Pour the champagne all over your partner's naked body and lick your way up to kiss them on the mouth. You could also transfer the champagne from mouth to mouth.

There are so many things you can do with this bubbly drink to get things moving in the bedroom.

6. Ice cream

This is in the same lane as chocolate, but adds some coldness to it.

One thing to note when using ice cream during sex is to stick to classic vanilla, strawberry, or chocolate. This is so you don't run into nuts or cookie crumbs ending up places you don't want them to be.

Ice cream also has the potential to be messy when it melts, but after it melts you can probably take it from there.

7. Mango

This is the fruit with an aroma that actually complements the smells and intensity of sex! It's also not overly sweet, making way for several rounds of feeding each other bites of the tantalizing fruit.

8. Cherries

Cherries make this list because everyone has heard of the sexy party trick of being able to tie a knot in a cherry stem with your tongue. You can both try and inevitably fail if you'd like, or you can be more sensual with your cherries.

Focus on your mouth and tongue when you eat them to make your partner tremble with anticipation.

The potential downfall for cherries if they haven't been pitted. So, if you plan to bring this fruit into the bedroom, look for the no-pit cherries at the grocery store.

9. Honey

Honey is sweet, which is why it made the list. However, it's incredibly sticky, so you probably should refrain from pouring it all over each other.

Instead, place a drop of it somewhere on your body and have your partner, blindfolded, try to find it with their tongue alone. This could be a fun game that can lead to an even more fun time in bed. It's bringing food play in bed to a literal meaning.

10. Gummy Bears

For gummy bears, you can stick them on each other and eat them off. That can be kind of fun and adorable.

Or, you can start a gummy bear war and throw them at one another. This will have you both laughing and running, which can end in amazing sex once you've caught up! Adrenaline is a gift.

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