9 Signs She Wants You To Make A Move

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“Will she make the first move?”

“Should I?”

“Does she want me to kiss her?”

Your internal monologue likely goes through every possible scenario when you’re spending time with a woman you’re attracted to.

While reading a woman’s body language can be a guessing game and figuring out the signs she wants you to make a move can be tricky, it doesn’t have to be.

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Here are nine signs she wants you to make a move

She makes consistent eye contact with you

You may have heard the expression, “The eyes are the window to the soul.”

Making consistent eye contact with a woman can tell you a lot about them.

Does she hold your gaze? If she continues to make consistent eye contact with you, it’s safe to say she’s interested.

Holding eye contact is one of the surefire signs she wants you to make a move.

She makes flirtatious advances

A flirtatious advance can be fleeting, and sometimes it can be easy to miss.

A playful touch or twirling of her hair are flirtatious advances you can recognize that indicate she likely wants you to make a move.

She texts you first

While many women subscribe to the “men always text first” rule, that isn’t always the case!

If a woman texts you first, she’s into you, and wants you to make a move.

Try suggesting a romantic date spot to build more chemistry between the both of you!

She “likes” or engages with your social media posts

If you have social media, chances are the two of you have connected as friends on there.

If she “likes” your post or engages with you on social media, she’s sending you the signal that she would be open to you making a move!

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She moves closer to you

If she sits down next to you or moves closer to you, she wants to see how you’ll react to her closeness.

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Take the opportunity to gently brush your hand against hers.

If she responds to your touch, she definitely wants you to make the next move.

She initiates contact

Initiating contact is a wonderful way to know if she wants you to make a move.

If you’re physically apart, an example of her initiating contact is texting you first, or suggesting a plan to see you.

When the two of you are together, she may gently touch your arm or slide in closer to you.

These subtle cues can be big signs that she’s waiting on you to make the first move!

She smiles at you, a lot

While a smile can mean many different things, if you keep catching each other’s gaze and she smiles at you every time, that’s a great sign! 

She pulls you aside for alone time in group settings

Public displays of affection (PDA) can sometimes feel a little awkward in group settings, and not everyone is comfortable with that.

If she pulls you aside for some alone time, she wants you to make your move when you’re both at ease!

She stares at your lips

The most telltale sign of how to know if she wants you to make a move is when she’s staring at your lips, as if inviting you to kiss her.

Move a little closer and enjoy the sparks of chemistry that are sure to be going off like fireworks in the sky!

Next steps on how to know if she wants you to make a move

Now that you know these nine secrets, these are the next steps to be sure if she wants you to make a move or not. 

Be on the lookout for the subtle or not-so-subtle clues that she’s waiting for you to make a move.

We covered body language signs — such as moving closer, touching, or eye contact  those communications cues like texting first or initiating contact, and social media hints such as “liking” or engaging with your posts.

After this, you should be able to figure out the signs she wants you to make a move.

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Sarah Jones, founder of Introverted Alpha, is a dating coach specializing in introverted men. Since 2014, she has written countless articles to help bring out her readers' most attractive qualities. 

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