How To Tell If A Girl Likes You Over Text

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I know what you’re thinking — women are masters of mixed signals and, half of the time, they don’t know what they want. That is true in some cases.

However, women and men just communicate in different ways. Men are more to the point, and women are less direct than men and tend to dance around the point.

I don’t privilege one way of communicating over the other, but it is important to know this when you are trying to figure out if a girl likes you.

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And it can be particularly difficult to figure out if a girl likes you over text, so to help make matters less complicated and to make your love life easier, these are some of the most reliable ways to know if her texts indicate an interest.

18 Signs A Girl Likes You To Look For In Her Texts

1. She initiates the conversation.

One of the first ways to distinguish whether or not a woman likes you is if she is the one initiating the conversation. It is the same with both genders. If someone wants to talk to you, they will. And if they don’t, they won’t. It is a harsh fact but one that is true.

If you are the one who is constantly initiating conversation and you aren't getting a response in a timely manner, then your girl is most likely not that interested in you.

There are some cases in which a person is not text savvy, which means that they are not accustomed to texting practices that have become a cultural norm. If your crush is unable to adapt or to meet you halfway in communicating, then she is probably just not that into you.

You can make as many excuses as you want, but the fact of the matter is that if a girl wants to talk to you, she will find a way to communicate with you.

2. She responds in detail and in a timely manner.

The second way to tell if a girl is interested in you is that she responds to you in detail — and in a timely manner. If a girl constantly sends you one-word answers, she is either not interested in you or she is annoyed. Either way, one-word answers are not a good sign.

If she responds in a timely manner, there is a definite possibility that she likes you. If she doesn't care about you, she will read your text and think to herself, "Oh, I’ll get back to him later." And then she’ll eventually forget.

However, if she likes you, she will make it a priority to respond to you. And she will do it rather quickly. Some women are rather chatty, so this one is best to gauge if you have another indicator as well.

3. She uses a lot of emojis.

The way that you write allows people to gain insight into your personality, sense of humor, skills, and sometimes even your values. What do you think gets a better response between these two texts?: "Waddup?" vs. "Hey, Amanda, how are you? I think we should meet up and go on an adventure! Let me know if you’re free." I hope that your answer is the second one. And if it is not, we have some work to do.

One of the benefits of texting is that it gives you time to compose your messages and think about how you want to come across. Do you want to come across as only seeking a booty call? Then go for the first one.

But if you want to come across as being someone who has the potential to be this girl’s boyfriend, take time to think about what you’re saying, and emojis aid in making conversation. They let you show feeling without blatantly stating it. Emojis allow you to communicate non-verbally over text.

Emojis are used to express emotions and are an excellent way to express your feelings without the actual use of words, which sometimes can be difficult to formulate on the spot. For example, sending the kissy face emoji at the end of a text can give a more flirty feeling to an otherwise mundane text message.

Just like how we choose words, we chose certain emojis to aid in our communication. So use them if you want to express your feelings, but also pay attention to the ones that your crush is sending you because they could be an indication as to whether or not she likes you.

4. She sends you songs that remind her of you.

Sending songs that remind her of you is a way of flirting and lets you know how she feels without actually saying it. Maybe she heard a song on the radio and instantly thought of you, or you made a memory while listening to a particular song. Either way, this is a clear sign that she is trying to move your relationship forward.

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5. She texts you a lot.

In the early stages of talking, if she texts you a lot, it means she enjoys talking to you and she feels comfortable saying anything on her mind. So, it could be why she is texting you, maybe a bit too much. Yes, double texting can sometimes feel like she is becoming clingy and needy, but it is how she shows interest in you. Take it as a compliment rather than an annoyance.

6. She asks you personal questions.

When a woman starts asking you personal questions, not just regular "getting to know you" questions, it's a good sign she wants to get to know you on a more personal level. Women don't just ask questions randomly if they don't want to know the answer. Her doing this is one of the signs that a girl is not just physically attracted to you, but wants to know what is going on inside your mind, and why you are the way you are today.

7. She tells you personal things about herself.

When you are talking to a girl and she becomes comfortable with you, she will soon start sharing things about herself. It is clear by this action that she likes you and wants you to know more about her personality and life. Otherwise, she wouldn't be openly sharing personal information that ordinary people might not know. It also means she sees you as someone she can trust.

8. She asks you about your plans for the future.

Early on, if she is using your text conversation to learn about your future, she is trying to figure out if there is a place for her. She wants to know if there are any possible roadblocks that could break you apart, which don't have anything to do with distance. So, when she wonders about your short and long-term plans, it is for a good reason.

9. She gives you frequent updates about what she is doing.

Telling you about what she is doing means she wants to incorporate you into her life, make you part of her weekday or weekend plans, and create room for you. She wants to let you into her life, let you get familiar with her interests, and her daily routines. Talking about real life is a great sign that she really likes you.

10. She teases you.

When a girl starts teasing you, it means she is trying to get a response from you. While many can relate to teasing on the playground, doing so over text is just a fun and flirty way to keep your attention. Just like men tease women, done the other way around, it is a sign she is into you. This also means she is comfortable enough to joke around with you, and most likely will welcome you teasing her back.

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11. She sends you photos of herself.

While this doesn't mean she will send you sexy photos, if she is constantly texting you images of the places she goes, it is a clear sign she wants you to know what she is up to. This would be a great chance to send her something back. It doesn't have to be anything you aren't comfortable with but will send her the message that you reciprocate her interest.

12. She notices when you haven't replied or texted.

If you have not texted her in a while or replied to her texts, there is no doubt she will notice, especially if you converse every day. It is an indication that she is thinking about you and is afraid to lose the connection with you when you aren't talking. This fear comes from her intense feelings and possibly a fear of rejection.

She sees a potential future with you and doesn't want anything to ruin those chances. If you get a follow-up text asking if you're okay, be sure to send her something so she doesn't worry about your well-being or the state of your attraction to her.

13. She sends you good morning and good night texts.

She doesn't just send you texts asking how your day is — she is the first person to text you when you wake up. She sends these cute little messages wishing you a good morning or a good night because you are on her mind. There should be no doubt that you are on her mind at all hours of the day. But she wants to take it the extra mile and help you start and end your day on a sweet note.

14. She laughs at what you say.

When a girl likes a guy, she will laugh at almost everything he says. It is something women naturally do. And it is the same over text, except she might respond with a LOL or laughing emoji. If she replies with laughter, it means she is paying attention, having a great time talking to you, thinks you are hilarious and is inadvertently revealing her interest in you.

15. She sends you flirty messages.

While having texting conversations about daily life and the TV shows you're currently watching are great, if she starts sending flirty messages, it is just another way to show her interest. Sending flirty messages is a sign she likes you a lot. She is imagining you being together in an intimate way, which means there is a good chance she sees a future with you. Be sure to flirt with a girl right back.

16. She compliments you all the time.

Women don't just give out compliments unless they mean them! If she says nice things about your appearance, your intelligence, or even your sense of humor, accept what she has to say as a sign of her interest. While some compliments can be flirty in context, if she is actually into you, they will be sincere. And if you feel the same way about her, give her a genuine compliment in return.

17. She is easy to talk to.

There is so much chemistry when you are talking, it is like you have known her for ages. And if she does like you, a conversation with her can feel effortless. She puts thought into the thoughtful and long messages she sends. She asks questions and is talkative so there are no awkward silences. And the best part is that you most likely feel the same way about her, especially if your feelings are as strong as hers.

18. She wants to FaceTime.

When she suggests that you start video chatting, it means she wants a more personal interaction with you. Texting is great for making conversation, but a real chat is done face-to-face. This is a way for her to figure out if you are compatible and get along. It is just another step in moving your relationship forward.

At the end of the day, it doesn't matter how closely you look for these signs, the best way to know if a girl is into you is to build up your courage and ask her.

Good luck!

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Kate Spring is an attraction and dating coach from Vancouver, Canada. A recognized leader in helping men become irresistible to women, she works with clients from around the world, helping them get the girl they want.