6 Great First-Date Questions (and 4 to Skip)


Read here to check out some great conversation starters for your date.


by Rachel Seliger, for GalTime.com

Silence is not golden: How to nail first date convos


There’s a lot that goes into making a first date great – picking the perfect spot, wearing the right clothing, having a positive attitude and, of course, maintaining good conversation.


So you have a first date coming up – good for you! You’ve already accomplished the hardest part, which is landing that romantic meeting. I always try to look at a first date as an opportunity – even if you don’t meet the man or woman of your dreams, you can chat with a new, interesting person.

Below are some of my go-to topics and questions for first dates. I like to pick subjects that can lead to multiple conversation paths and, at the same time, help reveal more about my date.



  • Ask, “What attracted you to your job?” instead of the overused, “What do you do for a living?” which sounds like you’re at a networking event. Get to the root of your date’s 9-to-5 by asking more about his or her ambitions and character than his or her job title.

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  • Take note of his or her interests and then dig a little deeper. If you’re having the first in-person meeting with someone you met online, use bits and pieces of information from his or her online dating profile to keep the conversations flowing. The profile is there for a reason – study it, but don’t look like a crazy stalker. Instead of gushing, “I love the Arctic Monkeys, too!” say something like, “I love checking out new music, and I’m really into indie rock. How about you?”
  • Ask, “Are you close with your family?” This question works great because it subtly reveals a number of things about your date, and can lead to several other conversation topics. You could end up discussing siblings, extended family, funny childhood memories or the place your date grew up. Just remember to ask follow-up questions. For example, if your date answers, “Yeah, I’m close with my sister,” ask, “Where does she live? How often do you see her? How far apart are you in age?”
  • “Want to try the [weird menu item]?” What are first dates for if not adventure? This question can reveal how daring your date is. But it isn’t reserved for just the bold – maybe you’re looking for someone more grounded, who will reply, “No, thanks. I’ll stick to the chicken.” In addition, this question can lead to other stories, such as that time your date tried a really strange food when traveling in South America.
  • Tap into current events. If there’s a big holiday coming up, ask what his or her plans are for the day – working, spending time with family or friends, traveling, etc. However, one newsy topic you should avoid is politics. Especially in the current national climate, this can be a contentious subject; you don’t want to get into a debate at the dinner table!
  • If you run out of things to say or your mind goes blank, don’t panic! Honesty goes a long way in overcoming awkwardness. Just laugh and fess up, with something like, “I’ve been really looking forward to this date, and now that it’s here, I’m a little nervous!” 

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This article was originally published at Gal Time. Reprinted with permission from the author.