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If you want a second date, leave these phrases out of the first.
By Danielle Page
Last updated on Oct 05, 2023
It can take only one word to ruin a perfectly good date — as these 8 ladies had to learn the hard way. Their dealbreakers run the gamut, from obnoxious abbreviations to demeaning references.
There are so many things that are going on during a first date.
You are nervous and anxious, and you have all your expectations so high. Then, they ruin it with one word.
Your date shows up and he may set off every single one of your red flags and violate all your dealbreakers in one go.
But that doesn't mean you should be any less picky about who you decide to fall in love with.
You just have to keep looking. If they aren't the ones, then they just aren't. Don't lose your courage to keep dating so you can find your soulmate.
Read on to find out which phrases cause women to call it quits before the first date is even over.
Here are 8 words that can destroy a first date:
1. Sup
"I have to say that the biggest turn-off is when a guy uses half words like 'sup.' Abbreviation used to the excess is getting out of control." —Lena
2. Dude
"The one that is the killer for me is 'dude.' Especially when a guy is speaking to me, referring to me as 'Duuude.'
Ninety percent of the time, they're not even aware that they're using it. It makes me think they're stupid." —Patti
3. Slurs
"I cannot stand slurs of any kind. I dumped a guy who called gay men the F-word. He also made a lot of horrible remarks about the gay community.
The next day, I dropped him. I couldn't be around someone so narrow-minded." —Jo
4. Broad
"Referring to me as 'broad' is rude and demeaning. It takes your identity out of the picture and makes you into just another female.
That's like me just referring to a guy as 'Bro.' As in, oh, just another dude walking around, no different from any other." —Brianna
5. My boys
"I don't understand how a phrase that is used by dads with more than one son has turned into a cool thing for guys to call their friends.
When you tell me you're chilling with your boys, I picture you handing out juice boxes to little kids or something. Also, I don't date boys, so..." —Janelle
6. Grenade
"It's just rude, and it reminds me of the guys on Jersey Shore. —Krystal
7. The word 'rape' in the wrong context
"No, I'm sorry, your sports team did not 'rape' the other sports team that they played against last night. Your team beat them very badly.
I promise that if being raped was something you walked around fearing, like us women, you'd be more careful about using that term." —Cara
8. Slam Pig
"Why do guys make up these terms? Seriously, women just leave the less-than-attractive one-night stand they had as just that, a one-night stand.
Calling the girl you brought home last night a 'slam pig' shows that you don't have enough self-esteem to try for someone better looking." —Cassie
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Danielle Page is a writer and editor whose work has been featured on Woman’s Day, Bustle, Cosmopolitan, The New York Times, Thought Catalog, and Huffington Post.