Is Your Heart Chakra Blocking You From Healing After Heartbreak?

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Are you healing from heartbreak? No doubt, the loss of love can produce profound sorrow. And your heart chakra may be blocked, not allowing you to heal.

Yet there’s no way around it: Loss is part of being human. And even in the best of circumstances, where there is loss, there's emotional pain.

That said, you can do things to support your healing from heartbreak, beginning with your heart chakra.

When you become aware of how your heart chakra may be blocked, you can start to clear those blocks and allow healing to unfold naturally. Then, you’ll be ready to open your heart again in the fullness of time.

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The difference between grief and a blocked heart chakra.

First, it’s important to distinguish between grief, a natural emotional response to loss that resolves over time, and a blocked heart chakra that thwarts healing from heartbreak.

Grief is the acute emotional pain that comes with loss. Grieving the loss of a relationship is the natural process of letting go.

If you’re healing from heartbreak, grieving is healthy.

Allow the waves of grief to come and go. It’s a process that will clear the space for something new in your life.

The more you permit yourself to grieve, the more you’ll be able to open your heart again in the future.

However, if your heart chakra is blocked, you may have challenges healing from heartbreak.

A blocked heart chakra won't let your heartbreak heal.

The chakras are energy centers in the body that carry the information you need to live a healthy, joyful, and fulfilling life.

When one of your seven chakras becomes blocked or out of balance, you’ll experience pain and discord in the area of your life governed by that chakra.

Your heart chakra (fourth chakra, located in the center of your chest), houses your information having to do with love and relationship.

An open, healthy, balanced heart chakra supports you in giving and receiving love.

On the other hand, if your heart chakra is blocked or out of balance, giving and receiving love will be challenging.

You may experience isolation, chronic conflict in your relationships, lack of empathy, or depression, among other things.

The good news is that heartbreak will often flush out whatever obstructs self-love and acceptance. It’s a tremendous opportunity to heal and transform your relationship with yourself.

With a healthy dose of courage, you can confront and clear any “no” you have held toward yourself. When you do, you’ll be able to move forward with an ever-expanding capacity for love in your life.

Heartbreak is a time to awaken and cultivate self-love within you.

Yes, you may be in deep emotional pain. But you can also examine what is causing the pain.

Are you experiencing genuine grief, or is your pain related to blocks in the heart chakra?

With some gentle self-exploration, you may unearth some beliefs you have about yourself that no longer serve you. You can bring those beliefs into awareness and free yourself of them.

Here are 3 ways to heal your blocked heart chakra after heartbreak.

1. Practice self-compassion.

Begin with self-kindness and self-compassion. Set an intention to deepen into self-love and acceptance.

Acknowledge that you're a holy work in progress, doing the best you know how to do at any given moment, and lovable at all times and in all circumstances.

Recognize that all experiences offer you the gift of wisdom and that you are open to seeing whatever your current experience is revealing.

Extend to yourself the sort of kindness, compassion, and generosity you would offer to a close friend.

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2. Allow for self-exploration.

Create a safe space for yourself to explore your beliefs about yourself, especially in light of your recent heartbreak.

Listen to your self-talk and challenge any voices that want to criticize you or invalidate your experience. Confront any narratives that say you can’t have the love you want, especially those that say you’re unlucky in love.

Notice if you’re running scenarios through your head, telling yourself, “I should have said this,” or “I shouldn’t have done that.”

Whenever you hear yourself say “should,” know that you’ve dipped into self-judgment. That’s not a problem, only something to notice.

It’s always a good time to remind yourself that you are a holy work in progress and that you were doing the best you could at the time. Become curious about what wisdom is being gleaned through your experience now.

Most of all, ask yourself, “How can I open my heart to me?” Journal on this question for several pages and see what new insights emerge.

3. Allow yourself to be supported.

Especially if receiving has been a challenge for you in the past. Asking for and receiving another person’s support can go a long way in transforming old beliefs around (un)worthiness.

You might consider receiving energy work or other therapeutic modalities for healing from heartbreak.

Maybe it will feel uncomfortable at first. That’s OK.

Allow yourself to receive while experiencing the discomfort of changing an old pattern. Invite your heart chakra to soften just a little bit each time into the love that is available to you.

Your heart chakra is the doorway to a healthy and vibrant relationship with yourself, which then informs all of your other relationships.

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When you dive into your heart chakra and heal any blocks in your relationship to you, you open your heart to yourself. As a result, you open your heart to more love in your life.

At its core, your heart chakra is about your relationship with yourself.

Yes, your heart chakra is about your relationship with others. But first and foremost, it’s about your relationship with yourself, which then serves as the foundation for how you relate to everything else in life — including other people.

Your relationship with yourself has to do with your self-concept. It’s about how you see yourself — how you relate to yourself — and includes what you perceive as possible and not possible for you.

How you relate to yourself serves as the filter through which you experience all other relationships and life itself. For example, if I perceive myself as unlovable, I will create relationship experiences where I feel unlovable.

That “I’m unlovable” isn’t true. However, it is, in this example, how I see myself. It is the filter for my experiences.

“I’m unlovable” is a block in my heart chakra that undermines my ability to give and receive love in a healthy and balanced way.

If I am in the process of healing from heartbreak, and if I carry “I’m unlovable” in my heart chakra, then I may use the loss of the relationship as evidence that I am unlovable.

Without releasing the heart chakra block, “I’m unlovable,” I’ll continue to create experiences of unlovability. The belief will continue to block me from opening my heart.

If you resonate with this example, know that you’re not alone. Most of us have some degree of heart chakra wounding resulting in blocks to giving and receiving love. We come by our obstructions honestly.

The point here is that how you see yourself — lovable or not lovable, enough or not enough, worthy or not worthy, etc. — is not set in stone.

It’s a narrative that you have the power to transform. You can release any block in your heart chakra that hinders the free flow of love, acceptance, and worthiness in your relationship with yourself.

Healing from heartbreak involves opening your heart. And, opening your heart begins with opening your heart to yourself.

Think of it this way: To create an authentic, intimate connection with another person, you must first establish an authentic, intimate relationship with yourself.

This means being in deep curiosity and acceptance of your own inner world. It means understanding and valuing your own genuine needs and boundaries, fears and dreams, and hurts and joys.

When you can know and accept yourself in this profound way, then you can begin to reach those depths of intimacy with another.

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Elizabeth Hunter Diamond is a clairvoyant healer and teacher. If you’d like to receive support in healing from heartbreak and opening your heart chakra, book a session today for a clairvoyant reading & energy healing session.

This article was originally published at Elizabeth Hunter Diamond. Reprinted with permission from the author.