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9 Sure Signs He’s Totally Into You (Even If He Hasn’t Admitted It ... Yet)

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Does He Like Me? How To Tell If A Guy Likes You By Spotting These 9 Signs
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Based on the best-selling book, Love in 90 Days.

There's this hottie you're totally interested in — and you think (and hope!) he might be really into you, too, even though he hasn't admitted his feelings outright.

Instead of obsessing over the question, “Does he like me?” or second guessing whether or not this attraction you feel is real, knowing how to tell if a guy likes you is actually quite simple, as long as you know what signs of sincere, genuine attraction to look for.

If a guy is seriously into you, he'll give off plenty of clear signs or tips that he likes you. All you have to do is learn how to spot them, so you can figure out whether to hang in there and give the relationship a chance to grow into lasting passionate love.

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Of course, things would be easier if he would just tell you how he felt, but likely, he’s holding back from professing his attraction for many of the same reasons you are.

Not all men will be forthcoming with their feelings, even if they really do like you. Just like you, he may have insecurities and concerns about where the relationship is going. And, like you, he may be afraid to bring it up because he's also wondering if you are into him.

It’s super common to have these concerns when you first start dating someone new, whether it's in the very early stages of getting to know each other or if you've been seeing each other for a couple of months.

Some women will grow tired waiting for a guy to confess his feelings and want to cut the cord and move on, while others are willing to stick around and wait to see how things evolve naturally.

But if you really like a guy and want to know if he likes you back, then there are ways you can determine where you stand in his eyes, even if he hasn't said it directly.

In order to stop wondering, "Does he like me?", and start feeling more confident about his feelings, look for these 9 sure signs a guy likes you — even if he hasn't told you ... yet.

1. He communicates with you in a timely manner.

Whether it’s over text or when he misses a phone call, a guy that likes you will be straightforward when it comes to communication and making plans with you. There will be no “elusive” texting, where you don’t hear from him for days. He will both respond in a healthy period of time and also initiate contact with you, as well.

This type of communication shows that he takes you seriously and respects your time and considers your needs.

2. He makes time for you in his schedule.

When looking for signs a guy likes you, one of the biggest indicators is how much time he’s setting aside to see you — both before and after you start being intimate.

When a guy makes time to see you, to take you out — not just Netflix and chill, mind you — he’s showing that he wants to see you. He’s making time in his life to put you in it. This shows that you’re not just a “booty call" and that he takes you and your budding relationship seriously.

One of the easiest ways to tell if a guy likes you? He genuinely enjoys interacting, hanging out, and being with you, regardless of what it is you two are doing together.

3. He isn’t just making small talk.

Guys can be hilariously bad at communicating their needs sometimes — and when you’re in a relationship with a man that you can’t figure out, this becomes less funny and more frustrating.

But a guy that really likes you and wants to be with you isn’t just going to keep conversations light all the time. He’s going to be willing to discuss big matters with you and will appear honestly interested in getting to know you authentically — including the real, beneath the surface parts of you.

He’ll ask you questions about your life, your family, and your dreams. About your likes and dislikes. He won’t shy away from asking you topics about the future, either, because he’s likely trying to figure out if the two of you have compatible interests and goals in the long run.

More importantly than just asking these questions is that he listens when you answer. This shows he is genuinely trying to get to know you and not just filling the silence with bland conversation.

4. He pays attention to the things you enjoy.

A guy who likes you will often make sure that he’s doing things he thinks you like. He may even put effort into creating dates based on things you’ve said you’re interested in. When you mention you’re into something, he’ll incorporate those elements or activities into your time together.

This shows that he wants to please you, and he wants you to know that he’s trying to make things special for you.

So if you mention how much of a poetry fanatic you are and he brings you to a poetry reading night at one of your favorite local bars, this is a sure sign he likes you and takes your budding romance seriously.

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5. He doesn’t want the dates to end.

If he kisses you goodbye at the end of the date and you don’t hear from him for a couple of days, then he’s probably not that into you. When a guy really likes you, he will want to spend as much time with you as possible. This may even include stretching the date out.

For example, does he try and suggest other activities to do together at the end of your dates together? Does it seem like he really doesn’t want to stop seeing you or for the evening to end?

A guy who likes you and wants to be with you is going to show it. He’ll be reluctant to leave at the end of a date; he’ll come up with ways you can spend more time together.

Even if he hasn’t said, “I like you,” verbally, him wanting to see you again is a great sign that he’s developing genuine feelings for you.

6. He wants to solve problems for you.

Whether it’s a situation at work, an argument you had with someone at home, or even just a flat tire, you'll know a guy likes you if he wants to help fix it for you.

Men, by nature, are often focused problem-solving, meaning they often express their affection through actions, rather than words. So when he wants to be helpful in your life, he’s trying to show you that he wants to take care of you.

If he tries to be your knight in shining armor, it's a sure sign he likes you.

7. He doesn’t shy away from affection.

Signs a guy likes you can often be subtle, but this one likely won’t be. If your guy pays attention to you, holds your hand, or puts his arms around you, he’s showing you love. He’s also trying to show that he’s physically protective of you.

If he compliments you in thoughtful ways — not just the standard, “You look nice,” (although that can be sweet to hear, too!) — then he’s paying attention to your every move, and he wants you to know it, too.

Even when a guy is less likely to verbalize his true feelings, when he really likes for you, he'll act on it.

8. He acts like you’re special to him.

Whether he directly tells you how much you mean to him or shows you in one way or another, you’ll know that he likes you and feels there’s something different or “special” about you by the way he treats you.

Has he stopped dating other women? Shown a sole interest in you? Is he talking about taking his dating profile down from the site you met on or mentioning that he hasn’t been on in a few weeks?

Spotting these signs early on indicates he thinks there’s something really awesome about you that he wants to pursue, even before either of you has talked about whether or not you see the relationship going somewhere long-term.

9. He doesn’t shy away from non-exclusivity in the early stages.

It’s important to keep your options open, especially in the early stages of a relationship, and especially if you aren’t certain that the guy you like has started to catch feelings for you.

This means that you continue dating more than one person before you’ve had a talk about exclusivity with one another. If he really likes you, he’s going to understand this, even if you’re still casually dating others at the start of your relationship with him.

When he hangs in there and continues to date you, even though he knows you’re also seeing other people, he may be trying to find a way to tell you that he wants to continue seeing you — exclusively. This is a good sign that he likes you and sees you as girlfriend material.

Once you know how to tell if a guy likes you by spotting these signs, not only can it save you from heartache down the line and keep you from falling into a friends-with-benefits situation, but it can give you the confidence to keep investing in your budding romance.

When a guy likes you, he’s going to show it — even if he hasn’t said a word about it ... yet.

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To learn more about what to do next, read psychologist Dr. Diana Kirschner's bestselling book, Love in 90 Days, which is the source of these tips. Dr. Kirschner stars in an Amazon Prime Special on love, based on her bestseller, the book that Hoda Kotb of The Today Show (who is now in a great relationship) used as a great dating guide. To celebrate its 10th year anniversary, Love in 90 Days is out in an expanded edition and it now comes with $1000 in bonus gifts.

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