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How You Secretly Ruin Your Love Life, Based On Your Zodiac Sign

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Are you aware of the ways in which you screw-up your love life? No matter how much we try, there are times when we make poor choices, bad decisions, and go way off track — it’s just one of those things about being human.

We may not be conscious of how we’re damaging our love lives but the consequences of these actions can be felt long after they’re over. You may be doing something that is slowly wrecking your relationship without even knowing that you’re doing it. Even your horoscope might not pick up on what you're doing wrong.

Do you always pick the wrong person to get involved with, or do you get into relationships with people who don’t have your back and who would be ready to throw you under the bus if need be?

No one wants to be the only person invested in a relationship — we need our partner to be as into making it work as we are.

Do you see your partner how they are or how you wish them to be, and when their true colors are revealed, are you devastated? Just because we want someone to be one way, it doesn't mean that’s actually who they are.

Are you with the kind of person who supports you, is always your advocate, and encourages you to grow, or are you with someone who is only concerned with their needs and happiness? You may know you’re doing something wrong but can’t deal with it, so you just let things stay as they are.

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Sometimes the best thing you can do for a relationship is to cut your losses and go. Most of the time we don’t set out to sabotage our relationships but that doesn't mean we don’t end up ruining them, even when that wasn't our intention.

But maybe learning about how the zodiac signs ruin their love life can help turn things around for you. If you know what you’re doing, you may be able to stop it before your relationship is irrevocably damaged.

ARIES (March 21 - April 19)

You're an impetus and have no filter. You say and do things without thinking about how the other person is going to react. You regret it almost as soon as you do something wrong or ill-advised but the damage is already done. If you don't consider the effects your bluntness or lack of foresight have on your date or partner, you'll be alone before you know it.

Read: Characteristics Of The Aries Horoscope Sign That Makes Astrology's Ram The BOSS

TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)

You tend to be passive when it comes to searching for a partner — if it's not easy, then you want no part of it. Sometimes, especially when it comes to love, you have to put yourself out there, get out of your comfort zone, and do something scary. If you play everything too safe and never take a risk, then you're just settling.

Read: The TRUTH About Being A Taurus — The Most Stubborn Sign Of The Zodiac

GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)

You're not honest about what and who you want. You don't want to be shallow or superficial so sometimes you try to force yourself into feeling something for someone you have no chemistry with. It's okay to want someone smart and attractive. It's not about impressing others, it's about finding someone with the right characteristics. They may be perfect in theory but not in practice.

Read: The 13 Brutal Truths About Loving A Gemini, As Written By One

CANCER (June 21 - July 22)

You ruin your love by demanding too much too soon and scaring the person off. It's great that you and that other person seemed to hit it off from the start and that you have so much in common, but hold off on planning the wedding. Relationships take time and everyone does them at their own pace. It doesn't do you any good to accelerate things, especially if the other person isn't on the same page.

Read: The 5 Brutal Truths About Loving A Cancer, As Written By One

LEO (July 23 - August 22)

You tend to ruin things by sulking. Instead of telling your partner what you want, you keep silent. They're not a mind-reader and they don't just naturally know what it is that you want. Try to be more open about your feelings and be direct. Communication is a very important part of a successful relationship and most of the time, you're good at it. 

Read: Characteristics Of The Leo Horoscope Sign That Makes Astrology's Lion The RULER Of The Zodiac

VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)

It's your perfectionism that screws up your love life — either you find fault with yourself or you search for flaws in the other person because they're interested in you. You can't take points off because someone finds you fascinating. Trust that you're perfectly imperfect and so are they. Being interested in you isn't a red-flag.

Read: Complete Virgo Compatibility Guide: Understanding Love, Sex, And Relationships

LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)

You tend to have an image of someone and when they turn out to not be the kind of person you thought they were, you get turned off. If you're getting to know someone, really get to know them, don't let your fantasy of them get in the way of who they are. When you put someone up on a pedestal they're almost guaranteed to fall — only with love, it's you who has to pick up the pieces.

Read: 11 Brutal Truths About Loving A Libra, As Written By One

SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)

You're too controlling in your relationship and want to make all the decisions. The strongest relationships are between people who have respect for each other and who are allowed to have equal say in the relationship. You tend to have the "highway or my way" attitude. Be open and really listen to what the other person has to say. You don't want to have a stranglehold on them.

Read: 14 Brutal Truths About Loving A Scorpio, As Written By One

SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)

You pretend that you're not that invested in the relationship. You'd rather break up than have to discuss and work on your issues. It isn't that you don't have any depth, it's just that confrontation makes you really uncomfortable. If you act as if you don't care, then you can pretend that everything is a joke and that you're not hurt. 

Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Sagittarius, As Written By One

CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)

You screw things up with your love life by being petty and searching for insignificant reasons for why a potential partner annoys you. You're scared of being hurt, so to try and protect yourself, you search for reasons that the individual is inappropriate or wrong for you. By focusing on these meaningless and trivial things, you cause yourself to miss out.

Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Capricorn, As Written By One

AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)

You ruin your chances with someone by always going on group dates and surrounding yourself with people so your date never has a one-on-one with you. You sometimes worry that you're not special enough and that if it's just you, it will be easy to see through the facade. You need to know that you're unique and eclectic as anyone and that even in a group, you're still going to need to be open with your partner(s) at some point. Trust in your awesomeness.

Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving An Aquarius, As Written By One

PISCES (February 19 - March 20)

You fall for the same toxic people repeatedly. You have great instincts, and you'd think you'd be able to spot trouble a mile away, but you get involved with someone who'll hurt you again and again. You're very generous with your second chances but sometimes you need to just say no. Go for someone who excites and inspires you — someone who doesn't give off an emotionally dangerous vibe.

Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Pisces, As Written By One


Christine Schoenwald is a writer, performer, and teacher who loves writing and performing personal narratives. She's had pieces in The Los Angeles Times, Salon, Woman's Day, Purple Clover, Bustle, and is a regular contributor to Ravishly and YourTango. Check out her website or her Facebook page.